GuitarOnFire
Senior Don Juan
This situation confused me. I know this forum is pretty hit and miss with the advice but this girl is weird.
First of all, met her in JUNE (it's almost mid-AUGUST now) with her now-ex-possessive friend. She had high interest in me, sharing food, eyes glazed over. Anyways, she said it was her decision to date me or not because she found out I am 34 and she's 22.. but she looks 18 or younger, even.
To fast-forward through a lot of attempts of me to confidently ask her out, she kept saying she was genuinely busy with church/school/work or couldn't get her friend to come with us. I normally don't go on dates with a friend with us but I understood how she is a petite girl so it's probably scarier to be with a dude that could easily overwhelm her physically.
Anyways, so we were going to see a movie for 1-2 months and nothing ever happened. I figured since she told me that she was scared/nervous to meet me, I'd add her on Facebook. I HAVE LEARNED MY LESSON - BIG MISTAKE. There goes the mystery and challenge out the door and she may have gotten the wrong impression of me. Anyhoo, after talking to her and trying to get her to meet up with me at some local big events, she finally suggested we meet ALONE -- with none of my friends or her friends there.
The date was finally 8 days ago. It was OK except she had a last minute "church meeting" and kept me waiting. I'd worked a 7am shift in the morning so I wasn't as sharp as I'd normally be. I felt it was a decent first date, even though I went with shorts and a casual t-shirt and she out-dressed me with a formal casual dress shirt and pants.
As far as I know, even though she has been OLD with POF, she hasn't found anyone new. She said she had a great night and let me buy her a drink -- usually a girl won't let you do this from my experiences if she doesn't like you -- and she and I talked a little. Since she arrived so late, we only chilled for maybe 30-55 minutes tops. I ended the date at 10PM because I knew she had to bus 90 minutes to get home and she seems to be a worrier but hides it well.
She chit-chatted over text and I told her I had a great time and suggested another hangout. I did not even say date. She read the message, did not respond. I guess she was lying about having a good time?
Fast forward to this week... I had suggested a Wednesday second hangout.. it came and went.. sent 1-2 messages with some C&F and the second one I was just asking her a friendly Q about her pets to jog the conversation. She read the messages but nothing.
She did add a dude to her Facebook and this other dude seems to like her as well. I figure they are orbiters although she goes out and dances a lot even though in person she seems super shy. I don't get that.
Anyways, I haven't messaged her since. I understand if I was asking her for a date and everything but I was just talking to her and got no response. She is still on my Facebook. I've kept everything positive to this point.
So did I get stone-cold rejected? Never had a girl say she had a great date and then stop talking to me like this before. Usually I dislike the girl and don't even care at all.
First of all, met her in JUNE (it's almost mid-AUGUST now) with her now-ex-possessive friend. She had high interest in me, sharing food, eyes glazed over. Anyways, she said it was her decision to date me or not because she found out I am 34 and she's 22.. but she looks 18 or younger, even.
To fast-forward through a lot of attempts of me to confidently ask her out, she kept saying she was genuinely busy with church/school/work or couldn't get her friend to come with us. I normally don't go on dates with a friend with us but I understood how she is a petite girl so it's probably scarier to be with a dude that could easily overwhelm her physically.
Anyways, so we were going to see a movie for 1-2 months and nothing ever happened. I figured since she told me that she was scared/nervous to meet me, I'd add her on Facebook. I HAVE LEARNED MY LESSON - BIG MISTAKE. There goes the mystery and challenge out the door and she may have gotten the wrong impression of me. Anyhoo, after talking to her and trying to get her to meet up with me at some local big events, she finally suggested we meet ALONE -- with none of my friends or her friends there.
The date was finally 8 days ago. It was OK except she had a last minute "church meeting" and kept me waiting. I'd worked a 7am shift in the morning so I wasn't as sharp as I'd normally be. I felt it was a decent first date, even though I went with shorts and a casual t-shirt and she out-dressed me with a formal casual dress shirt and pants.
As far as I know, even though she has been OLD with POF, she hasn't found anyone new. She said she had a great night and let me buy her a drink -- usually a girl won't let you do this from my experiences if she doesn't like you -- and she and I talked a little. Since she arrived so late, we only chilled for maybe 30-55 minutes tops. I ended the date at 10PM because I knew she had to bus 90 minutes to get home and she seems to be a worrier but hides it well.
She chit-chatted over text and I told her I had a great time and suggested another hangout. I did not even say date. She read the message, did not respond. I guess she was lying about having a good time?
Fast forward to this week... I had suggested a Wednesday second hangout.. it came and went.. sent 1-2 messages with some C&F and the second one I was just asking her a friendly Q about her pets to jog the conversation. She read the messages but nothing.
She did add a dude to her Facebook and this other dude seems to like her as well. I figure they are orbiters although she goes out and dances a lot even though in person she seems super shy. I don't get that.
Anyways, I haven't messaged her since. I understand if I was asking her for a date and everything but I was just talking to her and got no response. She is still on my Facebook. I've kept everything positive to this point.
So did I get stone-cold rejected? Never had a girl say she had a great date and then stop talking to me like this before. Usually I dislike the girl and don't even care at all.
