**** it, I'm going to try this.
You totally should. I kinda lucked into that situation--but when my exgf and I broke up, by far the most supportive and understanding social circle I had were the guys in their 30's and 40's at the bar I worked at. Some of them were married, some of them were divorced, some of them were bachelors--but even the married guys, by nature of being able to go out by themselves several nights a week at a bar with young, attractive females, were all pretty red pill. Where my friends my age were like, "Wait, so you're not even
trying to work things out with her?" and all the girls I knew were like, "Well, if it's meant to be it'll be," these guys were like, "She ****ed up. Her loss. Didn't want to say anything--she's a sweet girl--but you were always way out of her league." Plus, they've all been through those same situations.
Most of these guys will be glad to take you under their wing--none of them want to see you repeat the same mistakes they did. Furthermore, most of them are financially successful--a bar is a great place to get tons of job offers if you can get their respect. Of course, a lot of these guys are alcoholics and have issues in their life that stem from that; but if you can avoid the pitfalls of replicating that behavior, there's a ton of wisdom and life experience you can tap into.