A lot has been spoken of recently regarding boundaries. I posted here on why you want to place the boundaries and pointing out how they will allow for proper screening of women based on whether they value you, or merely value male attention. Naturally, there are people who misinterpret the methodology of placing boundaries. The common belief among those who do not yet have much experience with women is that boundaries are placed by saying "THIS IS HOW IT IS, I AM THE MAN'. There was a time in my life when I was younger that I would have thought the same way. But there is a right time, place and manner for everything. Setting boundaries is no doubt included in this concept. The best time to place boundaries is not when a woman is about to embark on something disrespectful to the relationship. Just as the best time to put on a seat-belt is not right before a car slams into you. Additionally the best time to change your oil is not after the engine has seized up. So when do you set the boundaries? In the period of time where you know she is falling for you but you have not had any discussion yet on whether you are exclusive. Why? Because you are not under any pressure to set boundaries, and it gives her the ability to weigh the value you bring, and the price you require for giving that value to her. You don't set boundaries after exclusivity has started anymore than you haggle on price after you have already signed a contract promising to buy a product. You must only set post-exclusive boundaries very sparingly. So we have established WHEN to set boundaries.....but, the question remains, how exactly DO you set the boundaries. You do it through examples. For my current girlfriend, here is a perfect case for setting the boundaries prior to exclusivity. Now, I didn't tell her she couldn't deny me sex. But I did convey what I will do if ever she did deny me. Never, ever have I had a girl deny me sex after a conversation like this and this was before they pushed for commitment. Another one.... She completely saw my point with the above and we never had an issue with it. In fact she brought up the point that it's also sketchy for those in relationships to take separate vacations, which I totally agree with. However she now knew the price of getting a commitment from me. I laid out the value I place on my sacrificing my other sexual opportunities for her. Let her choose whether or not to make the purchase. You are the seller of your commitment and she is the buyer. Similar conversations can occur around other boundaries whether it is about vacations without the other, specific poor behavior actions, etc,.... The bottom line is that men need to set boundaries and not be afraid that they "may lose her" as a result. Have confidence in your value because if you won't value yourself, she certainly never will.