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How I did it.........

Discussion in 'Don Juan Tips' started by bondjamesbond, Aug 24, 2001.

  1. bondjamesbond

    bondjamesbond Don Juan

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    In an earlier post someone asked me to give some tips; how I used to attract, approach......did I flirt?, did I use "Kino", etc.,.......

    During most of my twenties, I went out with probably close to eighty-odd different women. Some of them I banged, some I didn't. Some were very beautiful and intelligent, others were useful only to help clean my appartment. I never went out with anybody who couldn't laugh (at least not for long)....

    Availability was always a prime ingredient. I didn't really let them having a "boyfriend" put me off, but being married was a no-no.....I never wanted to deal with a pissed-off hubby! I did hit on an engaged chick once, she was tempted, but backed off......I advise not wasting time on engaged chicks.

    I'm a pretty nice looking man. I know it means alot when trying to attract women. Alot of you guys want to attract and meet gorgeous women but you may not look like such a prize yourself. No doubt there's a bit of a double standard at work here. Some guys actually believe that if they read the right book, or learn to say the right thing, that they can have their pick of great looking chicks, no mater what they, themselves, actually look like. Forget it. Good looking women are attracted to good looking men. You can be the funniest, coolest guy around, but if you have zero physical appeal then you better lower your standards. Bad teeth without a cheerful smile is probably the single biggest turn-off for most females. Get your teeth as white as possible, avoid bad breath and always keep your hands sparkling clean also. Women look long at a man's mouth and hands, if they notice something they don't like, you have a big strike against you.

    I usually went for "eye contact times two".....I'd notice a girl that looked good, make direct eye contact and smile. I wouldn't say "Hi" unless they were close by.....later, I'd look again, direct eye contact with a smile. If I got a smile back in return both times, I made my move.

    I'd walk up and say, "Hi, my name's Michael, what's yours?" When I got their name, I'd use it constantly, women think their name is the most important word in the world.

    It's pretty simple, really. I talked to them. Women love to gab and be listened to. Why do you think all those goofy talk shows have a mostly female audience?

    I'd ask, and then listen. "You come here often?", "Have you worked here long?", etc.,...it always worked like a charm. I'd occasionally get blown off....it never really bothered me. They didn't even know me, so who cared? I always figured they were just dumb and couldn't help it. You have to forgive stupidity. They just didn't know a good man when they saw one.

    I'd try to set up a date right then. It was more exciting. I'd get a phone # for confirmation. I'd call about a day before the date. If they acted wishy-washy, I dropped them immediately. I'd say, "Well, it's been nice talking to you, so long." Click. I had no patience whatsoever with the faint of heart. Many, many times, I got called back. But I always told them I had other plans. Looking back, I guess I was kinda cruel. I just never believed in kissing a woman's *ss.

    Keeping one was easy. I always had a "hands-off" policy until they touched me first. Once they started touching me, it was flood gates open.

    I never talked about sex. Didn't need to. They already knew what I wanted, but also knew I could be patient enough to wait for it.

    Once I started banging them, it was even easier. I always ravished every chick I ever made love to. I know they appreciated it. I used alot of massage. Marknola said (in words to this effect) that a woman who is having wonderful love being made to her figures that her lover must really love her. I don't think I ever really realized this, but I don't think I've ever heard anything more true. Very brilliant.

    That's about all I can say. I was never afraid or even nervous. Why be afraid of someone 5'6", 125 lbs.? If somebody that little scares you, you'd better grow some balls, quick time.

    Later guys>>>>BJB
     
  2. Fats Caesar

    Fats Caesar Don Juan

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    Dude you are a fricking superstar. Very well written and concise. Extremely helpful for cats like me who are looking for info along these lines that has been proven effective. Thanks for your sharing of insight!

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  3. Neophyte

    Neophyte Master Don Juan

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    BJB, that's a flawless written thingy you put down here! Good advice!

    Cya,
    Neo
     
  4. vadrill

    vadrill Don Juan

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    BJB, you are apparently relatively new to this board, but I have to tell you may friend, in a very short time you have provided some interesting and excellent insight.

    I have yet to read one of your posts that wasn't right on the mark. Your posts are not only well constructed and concise, they rank amongst some of the best I've seen on this site - and there have been many.

    Keep it up.

    Thanks
     
  5. vadrill

    vadrill Don Juan

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    BJB, you are apparently relatively new to this board, but I have to tell you may friend, in a very short time you have provided some interesting and excellent insight.

    I have yet to read one of your posts that wasn't right on the mark. Your posts are not only well constructed and concise, they rank amongst some of the best I've seen on this site - and there have been many.

    Keep it up.

    Thanks
     
  6. bondjamesbond

    bondjamesbond Don Juan

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    Thank you very much, men. I'm very flattered. My "scarfing for chicks" days are, and have been, over; married, you understand, I'm sure.

    I really do enjoy trying to help decent men get over their hangups with women.

    I like being married (I have a great wife) and I adore my kids. You get older and things change.

    But if I could be anybody else, know who I'd be? Me, 25 years ago.

    Those were the best days of my life, I had a blast!

    Go for it guys, times a wastin'........

    Best wishes>>BJB
     
  7. anti-trend

    anti-trend Don Juan

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    i just started posting recently, but i must say that every post that you put BJB, i have learned something from it and i really appreciate it. you are truly one of the guys that make this place go round. this place has really turned me around, and you are one of them that helped BJB.
     
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    Medallion Don Juan

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    BJB, you are a voice for the conservative opinions in this forum. Your tactics are not as different as what a normal guy would do as some of the other master DJs. You definitely are not an AFC though. For all you more learned DJs, BJB could be compared to Burke while maybe Pook could be compared to Locke. Good to have different points of view.

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    "Pook is God"--Medallion
     
  10. Bartlock

    Bartlock Don Juan

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    Coolisimo! Thanks Bond!


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  11. Steve

    Steve Senior Don Juan

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    wow bond, you're a great guy to share your knowledge and thoughts, helping us younger guys... I (we) really appreciate you.
     
  12. The_Mole

    The_Mole Senior Don Juan

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    bjb how old are you now?
     
  13. Oxide

    Oxide Master Don Juan

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    great post. whatever happened to him
     
  14. B-Lemond

    B-Lemond Master Don Juan

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    yeah great advice.........:rolleyes: :confused:
     
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    tmpgstx Master Don Juan

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    Good post, but if you're a good looking guy you have a strike against you in that *you* are probably a player (she's thinking). If she thinks you could have any girl you want anytime, then you're just choosing her to get laid (no LTR intended). Girl's that frequent the club scene are riddled with insecurities and they tend to run the other direction.

    I'm thinking you had to do alot of approaches to get the success you did. The take it or leave attitude is what got many of them is my guess.
     
  16. Oxide

    Oxide Master Don Juan

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    It is. You are just too inexperienced to understand this.


    BJB's posts are spot on, there are many things within them that one has to experience to figure out why it is like that.

    My own style is different from his on some levels, but i have tramendous respect for this guy. These posts are up there with Pooks, but are much more practical.
     
  17. MightyMate

    MightyMate Master Don Juan

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    I always go to best woman in the club. I dont care if she looks at me, smiles or whatever. I simply go and get the #.
     
  18. Oxide

    Oxide Master Don Juan

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    And im willing to bet most of the time she doesnt give it to you. ;)
     
  19. shiningshadow

    shiningshadow Don Juan

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    I like the post. GJ.
     
  20. []D [] []V[] []D

    []D [] []V[] []D Senior Don Juan

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    i dont get what you mean when you said..

    keeping one is easy? You mean like a girlfriend? Cuz if thats what you mean then im interesting in hearing more of what you have to say..

    Or do you mean like.. keeping her talking to you and stuff..?
     

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