James Bondage
Don Juan
This is something I've been noticing a lot lately, more over the past year or so than ever.
While the quest to become a DJ is a truly great and honourable one indeed, along the way it certainly can produce problems of its own. It is never gonna be an easy path, it seems.
What I seem to be finding recently a lot is when people see you are changing and improving yourself, from time to time (most often when women are around) certain people will do everything in their power to bring you waaaay back down, to 'their level' as it were. In other words, try and make you look bad.
For instance a group of us were down the pub a little while ago (that's 'bar' for you americans) and one of our female friends brought down one of her pretty good-looking friends who we hadn't met before.
Within minutes of him meeting her, one of my 'friends' proceeded to whip out his mobile phone and was playing her a hideously embarrassing video of me at my absolute worst, in a drunken state looking like complete s***.
This was before I'd even had the chance to say one word to her. I knew exactly what he was doing - attempting to destroy my chances before I had even begun. I assume that he must see me as a threat so that's why he did it, which I guess is a good thing, but it is incredibly irritating nonetheless.
Another of my friends (one of my best friends in fact) despite the fact that we are really good mates most of the time, still has a very annoying habit of trying to put me down in front of groups of people (particularly women) to make himself look better. He will often come out with a random put-down line when I least expect it, and catching me off-guard like that usually does exactly what he wants it to, make me look like a complete tit.
I know, I know. 'It's what guys do'. 'Don't be a pu$$y'. 'Man up'. Etc, etc. Well that's all well and good but I've found the more you improve yourself, the more jealousy and personal attacks of this nature you will have to face. It's not that easy to deal with by simply 'manning up'.
And I mean these aren't just some random a$$hole guys that I can just dismiss, ignore or even beat up, these are my good friends!! The stupid thing is believe it or not, on most occasions we do get along great, have a good laugh and there are no problems BUT.. I've also found more often than not, in certain situations, if people can do something to keep you down and thus give themselves the upper hand, they will.
So the question is, how do you deal with it?! A lot of the time it catches me unaware and I haven't prepared a response so I end up looking like a total idiot unless I try and come back at them, which can then lead to a childish back-and-forth tit-for-tat thing or worse, a verbal confrontation (which all look just as bad).
Anyone experienced this?
While the quest to become a DJ is a truly great and honourable one indeed, along the way it certainly can produce problems of its own. It is never gonna be an easy path, it seems.
What I seem to be finding recently a lot is when people see you are changing and improving yourself, from time to time (most often when women are around) certain people will do everything in their power to bring you waaaay back down, to 'their level' as it were. In other words, try and make you look bad.
For instance a group of us were down the pub a little while ago (that's 'bar' for you americans) and one of our female friends brought down one of her pretty good-looking friends who we hadn't met before.
Within minutes of him meeting her, one of my 'friends' proceeded to whip out his mobile phone and was playing her a hideously embarrassing video of me at my absolute worst, in a drunken state looking like complete s***.
This was before I'd even had the chance to say one word to her. I knew exactly what he was doing - attempting to destroy my chances before I had even begun. I assume that he must see me as a threat so that's why he did it, which I guess is a good thing, but it is incredibly irritating nonetheless.
Another of my friends (one of my best friends in fact) despite the fact that we are really good mates most of the time, still has a very annoying habit of trying to put me down in front of groups of people (particularly women) to make himself look better. He will often come out with a random put-down line when I least expect it, and catching me off-guard like that usually does exactly what he wants it to, make me look like a complete tit.
I know, I know. 'It's what guys do'. 'Don't be a pu$$y'. 'Man up'. Etc, etc. Well that's all well and good but I've found the more you improve yourself, the more jealousy and personal attacks of this nature you will have to face. It's not that easy to deal with by simply 'manning up'.
And I mean these aren't just some random a$$hole guys that I can just dismiss, ignore or even beat up, these are my good friends!! The stupid thing is believe it or not, on most occasions we do get along great, have a good laugh and there are no problems BUT.. I've also found more often than not, in certain situations, if people can do something to keep you down and thus give themselves the upper hand, they will.
So the question is, how do you deal with it?! A lot of the time it catches me unaware and I haven't prepared a response so I end up looking like a total idiot unless I try and come back at them, which can then lead to a childish back-and-forth tit-for-tat thing or worse, a verbal confrontation (which all look just as bad).
Anyone experienced this?
