How a Don socializes

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  1. milesman

    milesman Senior Don Juan

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    Many of my college friends ask how they can get girls to notice them. I tell them to be outgoing and sociable. I'll take them with me to a gathering and observe their techniques. What I often find is their inability or unwillingness to contribute in a conversation. I tell them that this is THE easiest way to sell yourself. Let me elaborate.

    Socializing is an artform that must be sculpted for one to be successful. A common mistake I find guys make is talking technical talk that few in the party will understand. Yes, he thinks he's leading an interesting conversation but rather, he is boring the masses with his monologue. A Don finds a topic that all can relate to and enjoy.

    When trying to approach an unknown woman in a group, I find initially talking AROUND her works wonders. The indirect approach is extremely difficult to pull off and if glances, nervous smiles, and distance are not kept in check, she will call your bluff. Take note of those in her party and find connections with her friends and any aquaintances you have (Try and always have at least one). When you find mutual friends, enter their conversation. Talk to your buds and laugh and smile. Do NOT overdo it but be noticeable. Your buddy's girlfriends will introduce themselves or your friend will and as names pass, your targeted girl will come over as not to be left out. Smile coyly and keep the conversation flowing smoothly but still don't pay her too much attention. Look at her only if she speaks. As smaller chit chat circles form, find a way to be in hers. Keep talking around her but don't show any closed gestures and stay friendly. The key is to be socialable, just not with her. Be patient, she will wait awhile to see your actions. She will be intrigued with your demeanor and assume that you have status.

    By this time she will be dying for you to talk to her because any other schmuck would have hit on her by now. You however are a Don and keep your wits about you. Most likely she will be asking you so many questions that you don't need to do much (becuase you are now a man of mystery) but if she's shy, now start talking to her and another friend, each time making the conversation circle smaller and smaller until it's just you two. Then ask her related questions or how her pals know yours. This is making her comfortable with you because of mutual friends.

    Keep your patience and stay relaxed. I've seen so many guys get this far and then blow it by showing too much interest too soon. If she gets up to go with her friends to the bathroom, don't trail her. She will notice. Stay where you are and talk to your friends and she will come back to you if she's interested (she is). Repeat process, add a dash of charm, she's ready for serving.

    "Pimpin' ain't easy"
    -The Godfather


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  2. Austin Powers

    Austin Powers Don Juan

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    good post
     
  3. Don_090

    Don_090 Senior Don Juan

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    Yeah, I can't agree with you anymore man,
     
  4. milesman

    milesman Senior Don Juan

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    Thank you. Try for yourself and after practice, they'll line up single file to see your goods. [​IMG]

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  5. armani

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    wise words in deed
     
  6. obidexx

    obidexx Don Juan

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    Excellent!

    This one go to my "perfect d.j." archive. If I have a boy that will be his inheritance... he he..

    Regards,

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  7. Shadowlord

    Shadowlord Senior Don Juan

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    Well spoken, well spoken indeed. *claps enthusiastically*


    SL might use this in the very near future...
     
  8. Ko-B

    Ko-B Master Don Juan

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    Truer words hasn't ever been spoken...

    Yo, but how about let's say when you are just talkin with a girl? Any tips and hints on pulling off this stunt perfectly? I mean ****...seriously I'm all right when I'm conversing with girls, but when I get the mentality of "damn i'm talking to her" when i'm talking with either a popular chick or the girl i like, i get all tongue tied and ****. pointers?
     
  9. milesman

    milesman Senior Don Juan

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    Ko-B,
    We've all gotten tongue-tied at sometime when talking to a beautiful girl! The secret is to take your time and not worry about firing off quick, witty answers when she asks you something. Also, think about where you would most often see this pretty girl. Often in the same places/events-so think about your surrondings and topics that would come up in a conversation with her and then you'll be less likely to stall and turn into a stuttering, mumbling, shaking carcas. =)

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  10. Ko-B

    Ko-B Master Don Juan

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    Good one...I will try to encorporate that advice into my "game" as soon as possible.
     
  11. Coolage

    Coolage Senior Don Juan

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    I thought the new Dons would be interested in this.
     
  12. milesman

    milesman Senior Don Juan

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    Coolage,

    Good man, but they already know EVERYTHING...

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  13. DonMaximus

    DonMaximus Don Juan

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    I agree with this completely!

    hhhhmmmmm! It brings me back to my High School days, where I was attracking a lot of crowds of friends. I love it.
     
  14. Robert Jordon

    Robert Jordon Don Juan

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    I'm not one to post compliments often, but you deserve this one man! GOOD JOB!

    Although I do have one question for you. I have always been good in conversation when it comes to one-on-one talk. But when it comes to group disscussions I always find myself being left out as the conversation advances. I want to contribute more but I don't want to seem like a loud mouth or butt in to often. Yet others seem to get all the questions and talk directed to them? Any more tips on how to get the conversation to come to you. Thanks man. And once again, good job on your post!
     
  15. milesman

    milesman Senior Don Juan

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    R.J.,


    I'm just a messenger.


    It IS difficult to enter a conversation when girls are standing by looking for the guy who says something funny.


    If you are with friends then plan AHEAD of time to include each other in the discussion. Not only will you help a bud (he will return the favor next time) but the chickies will see you as an unselfish guy sharing the spotlight.


    If you are solo then I suggest STARTING conversation with two or more gals. You can handle at least two and the beauty is that girls will FLOCK TO YOU to join the fun. You only need to laugh, smile and act like you are having a grand ol time and they will be fighting for chair space!


    Think about the bar scene...you don't see chickies chillin' against the wall by themselves like guys. THEY will immediately go to where the show is...YOU! The odds may at first be overwhelming but relax and you will takin' all kinds of bunnies home.

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  16. Neophyte

    Neophyte Master Don Juan

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    BUMP
     
  17. Aztec

    Aztec Master Don Juan

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    amen to that, brothers!

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  18. Brazilian_Blues_Boy

    Brazilian_Blues_Boy Master Don Juan

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    Bump !
     
  19. sux2bu

    sux2bu Master Don Juan

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    It's like feeding ducks at the park. lol.
     
  20. Elimidate

    Elimidate Senior Don Juan

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    """Think about the bar scene...you don't see chickies chillin' against the wall by themselves like guys. THEY will immediately go to where the show is...YOU!""""

    Brilliant milesman. That's true!

    I work in the entertainment indusrty and have been to hundered of clubs and never really noticed this!

    :confused:

    Elimidate
     

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