About a month ago, a female friend of almost 20 years and I decided to become more than friends...It took only less than 2 weeks before she stopped returning my calls. Now I'd expect that from a girl I just met, but this hurts more because this was someone I've known and loved as a friend for almost 20 years. We practically grew up out of the same cradle. She should have been confident enough in our friendship to let me know the truth without fear of a confrontation. It leaves me no choice but to re-evaluate our friendship. Thats the worst part of it. But after thinking about it, I no longer blame her for the situation. I blame myself 100%. My friend obviously has some self-esteem issues. Else she would have had the confidence to dump me face to face. But I blame myself anyway. I should have known better. I still consider her my friend and will treat her as such. Because this whole fiasco was my fault, not hers. I deserve what happened to me. Why do I blame myself? Because I've been on this site almost a year and made a bonehead rookie mistake. I thought that I could rekindle something that was never there: High Interest Level From A Woman In My Past. I made the classic mistake of thinking that I could turn a past disinterested woman, albeit a friend, into an interested woman. Anti-Dump once warned me about it in the post "The Return of the User Part I", but I slipped and did it again last month. (Feel free to run a search on that post.) Now I realize she only went along with my attempts at being more than friends (temporarily) so she wouldn't hurt my feelings. DJs, I implore you to learn from my bonehead mistake. Once you become a DJ, you must rule out ALL women from your past. That includes secret crushes, ex-girlfriends, female friends, etc. ANY WOMAN YOU HAD A FRIENDSHIP OR RELATIONSHIP WITH BEFORE FINDING THIS WEBSITE WILL MOST LIKELY NEVER BECOME YOUR GIRLFRIEND. GET THAT SILLY PIPE DREAM OUT YOUR HEAD ASAP! Yes there are exceptions, but it is very rare. I now understand that I made unfavorable first impressions on these women a long, long time ago and will never live it down. I will always be a weakling in their eyes and thats a cruel fact of life that I'll have to accept. The only limitation to the DJ principles is that they will only work on present and future women, not past ones. Bottom line...Forget about the girls in your past. Heaven knows I'm trying to.