To the Nice Guys, AFCs, Chumps, and Assorted Miscellaneous Confused Males: Sirs: Let us have a little talk on the spirit of sexuality. This might trouble you, to be sure, it might anger others, which is most certain, but the stubborn fact remains that you cannot be successful with women ever until you embrace your sexuality. Yet until now, you were not interested in sexuality. Rather, you wanted to hear more philosophies, more tricks and tactics to be placed in your quiver of dating. It is as if you were to say: “Yes, yes, these guys that are getting girls are all very well and good. But what philosophies should we deploy to get the women? We purchase bits and pieces of philosophies on this site like we are in a Dating Wal-Mart. We, however, enjoy being the dorks we are and wish only for more philosophies to add to our arsenal.” How blind you guys are! Now, I wish to ask you a question. “Go ahead, Pook.” Do you see that female over there? No, not the thin one. No, not the one with the long hair and curvaceous body. I am talking about the LARGE one in front of the Ho-hos. Yes, her hair is an absolute mess. She has no sense of style. She keeps many pets and spends extraordinary amounts of money on them. Personality? She is bitter. She enjoys philosophy just as you do. Why, she is going to become a feminist! Is she a woman? “Pook! Of course not! She is FEMALE, that can be proven. But do not call such a thing a woman!” If she is not a woman, what is she? “Hag.” “*****.” “Walrus.” “Witch.” “Titanic.” Ah! She is an androgynous! Androgynous females do not look like girls or act like them. Three professors of mine, who I have talked to about their past and their regrets, told me they were clueless with women even though they knew everything about the Elizabethan Period, the History of the Supreme Court, and the philosophical ruminations in the 19th century. Despite that, they married the woman I described above despite how ‘brilliant’ they were. Other guys BLOCK their sexuality by being NICE. “Sexuality is disrespectful and makes me look like a pig!” In the end, these nice guys end up being thought up as an @ss by women and treated as one. If you want to AVOID this type of fate, read on. Embrace Your Sexuality! This guy has no problems talking to women except those he desires. The desire sabotages him and wrecks him completely. Listen! We can hear him! “I feel so guilty.” “This is like I don’t respect them!” “This is painful.” “I feel like I am using them.” “I feel dirty doing this.” Oh, poor guy! His problem is not the women but himself. Why is he feeling guilty? Why does he think he is being sinister? Look, we are going to see him ten years from now. Behold! The guy is ten years older but still has no girl. He has a decent job, a decent life, but it seems meaningless without a girl. He becomes BITTER. He is ANGRY at life. If only he could FIX whatever problem ten years earlier! How much joy and bliss would be in his life! This guy’s life has been like the hard desert with painful arrows constantly peppering him from the blazing sun. He wanders aimless, seeing an oasis in that beautiful woman who only sees him as a friend. The beautiful women, the ones he wants, are like mirages. He thought they would finally end his painful wandering and lead him into that Promised Land of bliss. Oh if he could only find one! All the pains would end! The key is not in finding this oasis, this woman, to end all your pains. The key is to realizing that the problem is not the women, not the situation, but himself and only himself. Now he stands in the desert but lo and behold, a heavenly rain has cascaded from the sky. The dryness of loneliness, the ever constant thirst for affection, is quenched with the blissful rain. What was the ONE THING that caused the rain that quenched his thirst and cooled the heat? It was to embrace his sexuality. If you cannot embrace your sexuality, you can never be a Don Juan, and you can never be happy in life. Are you a guy? Take a look in the mirror. Chances are, if you are at this website wondering the hows and whys, then you are not a guy. But I forget myself. Let me introduce my prop. Thus enters Nerd Boy. Why, hello, Nerd Boy! Look at you! Pocket protector and all! You have glasses and look like a drone. Your clothes don’t match. Heck, your clothes don’t even have any personality. You are so mental that you cannot grasp the ways of the flesh. Just as you thought the fat chick was not a woman, women will not think this Nerd Boy is a guy. Why? He isn’t fully Human. It’s obvious he hasn’t had any contact with Womaniverse (which is sexuality itself). He will make excuses: “I am very handsome” (which is true! A handsome drone is he!) “I am a genius” “I have a great job” Oh, poor Nerd Boy! Women do not possess the faculties to see beauty as men do. Women do not care for your intellect (i.e. masculine chatter). The guy that woman is with may be ugly, may even be stupid, but he is absolutely sexual. Nerd Boy is blind to sexuality and, therefore, blind to life. Sexuality Problem #1: Looks Are you ugly? Are you beautiful? It doesn’t matter. Women do not see beauty; they see only sexuality. So how does a sexual male LOOK? To put it bluntly, it is the bad@ss. This guy has the look of power be it a shaved head, leather coat, professional corporate suit, backwards cap, a well toned body, spiky hair, or whatever else. This person looks like a guy. He is not androgynous. He knows what his sexuality is and embraces it. How is a guy supposed to look? To be male is to drive against Nature, to pierce her. He is not a pretty boy (though, this might get some girls too). It is almost a ‘rough’ look. A guy has a look of some masculinity about him. How to Look Like Brad Pitt No, I didn’t mistype that. One girl I knew saw Brad Pitt on TV and orgasmed. “He looks SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO good, *sigh*.” But Brad Pitt’s effect has nothing to do about looks. Brad Pitt is a very symmetrical union of the two sexualities, male and female. He looks innocent but also as a bad@ss, sweet but rough, smooth yet rugged, elegant but strong. “Pook, this is a contradiction!” No, it is not. It is well known that women like guys who have some feminine aspects (i.e. PRETTY BOYS). To get the ‘Brad Pitt effect’, you need to figure out where you are on the sexuality scale (though many males like NERD BOY aren’t on the scale at all!). If you’re a feminine male, you are probably thin, innocent, modest, shy, pretty boyish, curls for hair, large eyes, and have an almost aristocratic style about you. The masculine male is muscular, large, loud, motorcycle, has a goatee or shadow, and has a sporty or outdoorsman style to him. Now that you know where you are at, simply add in elements of the other. Some guys, when they go onto Manhood, carry a piece of adolescence with them. These are the guys that end up with the ‘Brad Pitt effect’ though you can make it your own. Compare this to Nerd Boy. He looks at them and thinks how much ‘smarter’ he is. But is he smarter? No! They may not know their calculus, but they know their sexuality. When women flock to these guys, the Nerd Boy only stands there in awe.