Eliminate All Her Other Options

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  1. Galactus

    Galactus Master Don Juan

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    Remember when you were a little tyke, and you had that one record that you played over and over and over and over, and you never got sick of it? Then, when you got older, you got your own money, you discovered shopping, and before you knew it, you had every CD you ever wanted? All of a sudden, instead of having only one album, you had fifty, a hundred, or a thousand choices. You want to play some music, but you sit there for ten minutes deciding which CD to pop in. Then, when you start listening, you get bored real quick, because you're thinking of the other CDs in your collection, and all the other songs you could be listening to. So you take out this CD in mid-song, and throw another in there.


    Okay, so here's this little girl. Mommy and Daddy put the idea into her head that some day, Mr. Right will come into her life and sweep her off her feet. She meets a little boy, and she likes him. She pulls his hair, and punches him in the mouth a lot because she's really into him. One day he gives her a kiss on the cheek, and after that, it's all she can think about. She's found her first love. He's Mr. Right. She's imagining the wedding in her head, down to the last detail. She knows how many kids they're going to have, what he's going to do for a living, she even knows what color the curtains are. This little boy is the man she's going to spend the rest of her life with.

    Then she starts growing tits.

    Now every boy in school is into her. They're all drooling over her, snapping her bra strap, trying to mack on her. She gets into high school, and her body is developing. The boys are all jerking off at night, thinking about her, and desperately trying to get into her pants. She realizes that the boy she once loved is not the only option now. He's like that old, scratched-up record she never plays anymore. She can choose between many boys, but she can never decide which one she really likes. So she tries one out for awhile, but she gets to thinking about all the other ones demanding her attention, and she gives another one a spin. Then another, then another...

    Before long, she's getting ruthless. She's a grown adult now, and for several years she's had the male gender eating out of the palm of her hand. She can pretty much get whatever she wants from a guy, and whatever one guy can't provide, there's another guy who can. But she's getting bored with it. Men aren't a challenge to her, so she keeps going through her collection, trying to find the one that will stir something in her.


    I don't buy as many Cds as I used to, but every now and then, I find one that I love, and I play it over and over and over and over. Why? I have so many to choose from. Why do I keep playing this one particular CD?

    Because something stands out about it. It's not the typical music. There's something unique about it that you can't get from listening to any other CD. For awhile at least, whenever I want that certain feeling, that CD is the only place it comes from.


    Back to our girl. Here she is, smack in the middle of her boring, contemptuous, manipulative existence, and then you walk in the door. At first she thinks nothing of you. Either you're going to be shy and not talk to her or make eye contact, or you're going to ogle her and try to impress her, showing your desperation. She's so used to not being challenged by any man that she doesn't have the slightest clue what's in store for her.

    You make great eye contact. You talk clearly and powerfully to her. In the presence of others, you're not afraid to speak your mind. You smile and touch her confidently, and show a sense of humor. Nothing seems to bother you. She senses that you're attracted to her, but she gets the feeling that you could turn around and walk out that door, never seeing her again, and you wouldn't care.


    Ever borrow your favorite CD to a friend? Remember how much you wanted it back? You call your buddy, but the a$$hole's never home. You want to hear that music again.

    Then the punk moves to Hong Kong, and he took your favorite CD with him! You go to the store to find another copy of that CD, and you find out it was a rare limited edition, and they won't be getting any more. So now you're prowling around the used CD stores and looking on eBay, and after a painful period of time, you finally find another copy. All your other CDs get stepped on and scratched, and loaned out, but this one...THIS ONE... nobody touches. You treasure it more than any other one in your collection. You've learned your lesson. You will not take it for granted again.


    So now you've made an impression on the woman. But you disappear for awhile. During this time, she still has her little collection of men, but she doesn't really want to play them. Time is passing, and she can only think about the unique feelings you stir inside her. She begins thinking that maybe you have a collection of your own, and she is going to have to do something to really stand out in your mind. But this is what's going on with all the other women in your collection. They become frustrated that they're not the only ones, and they throw themselves at you.

    You become bored. Women aren't a challenge to you anymore, so as your collection grows, you find yourself going through it more and more, trying to find the one that stirs something inside you.

    You used to be an AFC, and are now a DJ. She used to be a DJ, and you have reduced her to what you once were.


    Think about what bores you. Why are you bored? Because these things offer nothing unique. Why don't we get excited about daily chores? Because we do them daily. Why is a trip to Florida exciting? Because you're not there everyday. Unless you live in Florida, in which case you take it for granted. It's no big deal.

    Corporations know that, in order to make you buy what they're selling, they have to stand out in some way. If every potato chip was the same in every way that matters, you wouldn't be loyal to any one brand, you would go for whatever brand was on the shelf as you pass by. People love "new" things. Frito Lay comes out with a new chip, and eventually people realize it's just a Dorito cut into the shape of a star, with some powdered sugar on it. But by that point, they've already sold us thirty million bags. Just the perception of something being new and unique is enough to make humans crave it.

    We always talk about being confident, and limiting our availability, and not taking any crap from women, and these techniques work. But why do they work? Because women are treated the same way by men, day in, day out, and they're used to it. They're bored out of their skulls. They're looking for someone to act in a new and exciting way, to awaken them from their miserable existence. They have so many options, but they're all like recycled pop songs. They have nothing new to offer.

    Then, just like that new CD with the style of music you can't get anywhere else, you offer her something different. She wants to feel that music over and over again.

    She has a world of options. If you're just like all the rest, how can you blame her if she discards you like a CD that she can just go out and buy another copy of? Be unique, excite her with your confidence and individuality, and you'll be the only real option for her.

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  2. GREAT BIG MAN

    GREAT BIG MAN Senior Don Juan

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    cool

    I've been listening to the same JOhn Coltrane cd (Dear Old Stockholm) for 3 years, and every time I listen to it there is something new , it has only 5 songs, about 50 minutes, but I wouldn't change it for a 1000000 cds colection of Off spring, blink182 and that kind of no existence music.

    I am John Coltrane [​IMG]
     
  3. crowes22

    crowes22 Master Don Juan

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    Good post man, you nailed alot of the main ideas down there. You have to be rare, and it's not as hard as most guys think. All you have to do is be happy w/ your life, don't need a woman, and this will make you a challenge. It will make you rare, b/c 99% of guys are the complete opposite.
     
  4. Don John

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    That was brilliant
     
  5. derWichtigste

    derWichtigste Don Juan

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    Bumb

    and

    I think that is DJ Bible material.

    and Bump again.

    Sending that to my friends, AFC and not.

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    Ich bin vielleicht nicht der Beste, aber ich bin doch besser als die Reste
    I am maybe not the best, but I am better than the rest!
     
  6. PoachR75

    PoachR75 Senior Don Juan

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    Galactus,

    If you ever posted something that was NOT brilliant, I'd just about faint.

    I just can't toast you enough
    This stuff is profound

    I thank you, YET AGAIN

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  7. Galactus

    Galactus Master Don Juan

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    I confirmed a lot of what I said in this post last night. I was talking to this major babe I know. I would rate her at least an 8, and I've noticed I tend to rate women lower than other guys. She could be the hypothetical girl in my example. She thrives on the attention she gets from guys, and she gets a lot of it (and for awhile, she got it from me. What a chump).

    Last night I told her what women really want. Her eyes lit up when I talked to her because I had nailed everything so well.

    I told her about how she didn't get much attention from boys until her body began developing, and how she learned to manipulate guys, and how she is bored with them because they all act the same towards her. I told her she probably likes her current boyfriend because he doesn't act like the rest. She said she was instantly attracted to him because he acted just like her: like he was the prize to be won. He didn't salivate all over her like all the other chumps.

    I no longer have her on a pedestal, and I've noticed that she is gradually warming up to me like never before. Last night I think I scored some big points. She was blown away by how well I understood her. I kept my hands off her, except to rub her shoulder in a friendly way, and talked to her like I would talk to my sister. She told me I should teach or something, because I have a way of moving people with my words. I believe it was only because I took the time to really understand what a woman like her goes through. If you understand the way she's used to being treated, you can become what she's really looking for.

    A couple days ago, this desperate, ugly guy that we both know, walked up behind her and licked her neck. Can you believe that? I have to say, sometimes I feel sorry for pretty women. What if Barbara Bush walked up and licked your neck? Would you appreciate it? This chick is hot, but she's still a human being. She's got guys fawning over her like this all the time. Isn't it obvious she would be attracted to a guy who could control himself in her presence?

    If you had seen the way I previously had interacted with her, and the way we got along last night, you'd think I was some kind of magician. She used to know Galactus the AFC, but last night she met Galactus the full-on DJ. Yeah, baby!

    This chick is gonna be a project, but it would be a definite success to nail her. She's hot enough to be a Playboy centerfold. And she actually has a decent personality, considering how spoiled she is. I'm playing her against another girl, too, who was getting hyperjealous that I was talking to the really hot one. I'd love to be the meat in that sandwich, but I'll settle for doing them one at a time. [​IMG]

    Confidence and control. I was thinking about this today. These are the two main tools I've been using lately to become more attractive to women. It's like the chicken and the egg, I was wondering which one you really have to have first.

    I think for me it was confidence. Sometimes you have to force it on yourself, but it can be done. When I was feeling sorry for myself, I remembered that I have had lots of successes in life, but my problem has been that I focus on the failures without seeing them as necessary for success. Once I started being confident, I realized that I have to learn to restrain my libido. It was relatively easy. Just watch how other men act around hot chicks. At work I watch one male customer after another drool over the waitresses. They get nowhere, and they have no idea how pathetic they look. Confidence and control. Get yourself some of that good stuff, and everything else will fall into place.

    Great Big Man: Guess now I'm gonna have to check out John Coltrane. With a recommendation like that, I gotta hear this guy.

    Crowes: Don't know what else I can add to that. So true, bro.

    Don John: Thanks. Takes one to know one.

    DerWichtigste (try saying that five times fast): I'm flattered.

    Poach: A toast to you too. (Raising my bottle of Code Red Mountain Dew.)

    I appreciate the compliment, but I was thinking about the psychology of women, and I just refuse to believe that they can't be understood. They're just people.

    I thought, what does it take to get appreciated by them? And what does it take for me to appreciate something? Externally, the things we react to may be different, but internally, the same processes are going on in our brains.

    I may have to think about this some more. If you can really understand what's going on in a woman's mind, how can you not become a great DJ?

    That's my mission. Future DJs will be singing songs in my honor.

    A guy can dream, right?

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  8. derWichtigste

    derWichtigste Don Juan

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    there you go again...

    and yes, I can say it 6x fast [​IMG]

    In order to understand chicks, we have to realize what they go through with idiots, plain idiots.

    I was out tonight, not chasing, just watching. I waited till some dumb ass idiot hits on a decent chick nearby me... .watched, and laughed. I waited 10 min, and asked her if everything was ok. She saw I was watching.
    They ALL seemed very very outgoing then, cause i wasnt there macking on them like an idiot. i was "genuinely" asking if eveything was ok. They respected that.
    It opened alot of doors, and we talked. The dumbasss stood a little away and wondered what he did wrong. And, what this US guy say that he couldnt say. They usually know I am US, but dont know i speak German.
    Maybe i wont get the chick the first time, maybe not the second time, (I am not trying) but I will always have the respect of her compared to the others. And that is spoken between chicks.
    I am not out to lay chicks as they come to me, she must be at least halfway special to me. Thats just the way i am.
    But i always get what I want... it may take time, but I always get what i want.

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    If you do not control the way how you think, someone else will!
    (my view on life, and finally found it in words in one of Pooks posts)

    Ich bin vielleicht nicht der Beste, aber ich bin doch besser als die Reste
    I am maybe not the best, but I am better than the rest!

    If you cant think for yourself, and let others think for you, you deserve what happens to you.
     
  9. derWichtigste

    derWichtigste Don Juan

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    "I just refuse to believe that they can't be understood. They're just people"


    That sentence says it all.

    if you put yourself in their shoes, see what they go through, and develop a way to take them away from that.........

    you are set.


    just dont mack on my chicks, then there will a problem.
    you all stay on your side of the ocean, and i will mine (well, at least till I come home to visit [​IMG])

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    If you do not control the way how you think, someone else will!
    (my view on life, and finally found it in words in one of Pooks posts)

    Ich bin vielleicht nicht der Beste, aber ich bin doch besser als die Reste
    I am maybe not the best, but I am better than the rest!

    If you cant think for yourself, and let others think for you, you deserve what happens to you.
     
  10. Galactus

    Galactus Master Don Juan

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    Saw her again last night, but didn't have as much time to be alone with her. She was being much more friendly than ever before, touching me and smiling at me. She told me, "I loved talking with you last night. You have such a totally different way of looking at things. You say things that other guys don't talk about." She also told me she trusts me more than other guys.

    I can see clearly where I was fvcking up with her before, because I was treating her like other guys do. I was making sexual comments, grabbing her ass, etc. That doesn't impress her. Luckily I have seen the error of my ways, and now I am becoming what no other guy is to her. Also last night some drunk guy made a dirty comment to her, and I made him apologize under threat of bodily harm. She liked that too.

    See? What did I say about being different? Acting in a new and exciting way. She's gonna be gettin' nekkid for me yet.

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  11. derWichtigste

    derWichtigste Don Juan

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    "I like it when a plan works" [​IMG]

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    If you do not control the way how you think, someone else will!
    (my view on life, and finally found it in words in one of Pooks posts)

    Ich bin vielleicht nicht der Beste, aber ich bin doch besser als die Reste
    I am maybe not the best, but I am better than the rest!

    If you cant think for yourself, and let others think for you, you deserve what happens to you.
     
  12. Mark

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    This is very realistic.
    It's an "in-your-face" type of tip.
    You hit the spot man.
    It is not a stereotype that normal people feel this way. All of us do. When we have too many choices of the same kind we get bored of even the great ones. But if you're one of a kind...you're priceless and are cherished wherever you go.

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    Ooooooh........s h i t.

    "There's a dream that lives, deep in evry hart.
    Heroes call their name, legends leave their mark.
    And it's worth the sweat, and it's worth the pain, cause the chance may never come again.
    Give it all U got. Take ur best shot. The fire burns deep inside, stand before the giants.
    Cause the game belongs to the swift and the strong. Though the flame burns bright, in an instant it's gone, cause it's the spirit of the game, and goes on and on.
    Cause the chance may never come again."
     
  13. dead_romeo

    dead_romeo Senior Don Juan

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    Eloquence like this is rare, very insightful galactus.

    And you're 150% right, they are just people.
    More power to you man, and I hope you get that "sandwich" you were hoping for. [​IMG]

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    "Hell aint a bad place to be" - AC/DC

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  14. Galactus

    Galactus Master Don Juan

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    Me and this girl have been spending more time together. She's been asking me to hang out with her. But I still think it would be a mistake to make a move on her at this point.

    I think right now, she's trying real hard to get me to act AFC. Last night for example, when I first saw her, I immediately noticed her new pants. She has the most sensational ass on planet Earth, and these pants fit perfect. Inside, I was going, "Oh my god, I'd shoot my grandmother just to get up in that ass." On the outside, she didn't even see me noticing. As I was about to leave, she asked me if I had seen her new pants. She knew her ass looked great in them. I said, "Oh. Hey, those are nice. I like the piping on the side. Very cool." A totally nonsexual response. In the old days, I would have said, "Yeah, I noticed right away. Your ass looks frickin' great in them." Then I would have grabbed her ass, but never gotten the pu$$y.

    I may still never get the pu$$y, but I know my chances are better this way. She's used to the sexual comments and ass-grabbing, and it's confusing her that she's not getting that kind of behavior out of me. But this is why she wants to spend more time with me lately.

    This is a crucial time in our newly-remolded relationship. I've put some effort into trying to be different than other guys are with her, and just a little AFC behavior could destroy everything. She loves kino, and I do that with her, but she is so fine that it's hard not to go for the goodies. She has let me before. I've had her tits and ass in my hands before. But that's the behavior that's gonna put the nails in the coffin.

    So I'm biding my time. Half the fun is really just watching her react to my behavior.

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  15. Neophyte

    Neophyte Master Don Juan

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    I think that is DJ Bible material. - derWichtigste

    It is!

    Cya,
    Neo
     
  16. crowes22

    crowes22 Master Don Juan

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    That's cool man. I like it that you know she is repulsed by the sexual talk and shyt. The fact you were doing that and she didn't next you, tells me she must be interested.

    Seems you know what your'e doing here. Ya know it's funny, b/c on one hand not being sexual w/ her would be 'nice guyish', but it works on her, I guess the kino makes up for the sexual aspect. She sounds real cool to know that most guys are horny chumps and she wants something different. Sounds like she may be looking for a serious partner man, like LTR deal IMO. I'll also assume from what you described, she isn't some insecure chick, if she was, her sex appeal would be her most valuable asset, and she'd likely fall for the chumps that are drooling over her looks.

    Anyway good luck Galactus. And good post, I read it again today.
     
  17. Don the Legend

    Don the Legend Master Don Juan

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    Nice post Galactus!

    Keep up the great work.

    Legend
     
  18. Gipper

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    Excellent! Nice analogy, galactus!

    Gipper

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    "Keep your girlfriend away from me,
    Just advice I’m giving you for free,
    Wanna have every thing I see,
    So keep your girlfriend away from me..."
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  19. Galactus

    Galactus Master Don Juan

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    Hey, thanks for all the praise, guys.

    Crowes: I think she really is a woman with some substance. I think she was raised right, except for being spoiled. But it's probably hard not to be spoiled, considering all the attention she gets.

    I think I realized just in time that all the lustful behavior was going to get me nowhere. But I'm not expecting much. She's definitely an LTR chick, and she's got a man right now. I think the only way I'm going to get a shot at her is if I can maintain an image of a guy who is not bowled over by her beauty, but at the same time, is not a male wh0re, jumping from girl to girl.

    And I think she did "next" me, I just let a little time pass and started acting like a DJ, and now she's starting to reconsider things. I'm not the guy she remembers.

    I know this is going to sound like blasphemy, but I'm not completely sold on the belief that kino is essential to getting laid. I can think of several times right off the top of my head where women have pursued me, and I never touched them once. This particular girl, I use kino on her, but I'm not really sure that it's making a difference.

    Not being sexual can seem "nice guyish", but I think it all depends on how you present yourself. If you seem shy, it might not make them any more interested, but if you seem confident, strong, and in control, then she's gotta be thinking, "This is a guy with some balls. If he thought I was as hot as everyone else does, he wouldn't be scared to tell me." The nonsexual shy guy comes across as too scared to make sexual advances. The nonsexual confident guy puts doubts in her head, for the first time, as to her attractiveness. It's like neg hitting her without saying a word.

    These are just theories on my part. I don't personally think I've tested them enough to know for sure, but my instincts tell me it's right.

    I'll see her again tonight. My plan this time is to hold back the AFC that's trying to creep in. I caught myself actually following her around the other day. Luckily, my DJ side told me, "Galactus, you have to leave right now." So I got out of there before I did something really stupid, like picking some flowers for her or something. My AFC side is really putting up a fight. It's about time I kicked his punk ass but good.

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  20. DIESEL

    DIESEL Master Don Juan

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    hey galactus, always remember this when the "pvssy AFC" begins to rear its ugly head...

    YOU ARE A FVCKING 200FT. TALL DEMIGOD, THE FVCKING DEVOURER OF WORLDS, BRO - EXCEPT FOR THE PURPOSES OF THIS FORUM - 'THE DEVOURER OF PVSSY."

    You picked this name for a reason didn't you??... as if there aren't a few Fantastic Four fans on this board.

    continue the hunt and awesome thread,
    D
     

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