[TECHNIQUE] Dance magic and power of eyes A post i made on ASF regarding dancegame and simular, thought it might benefit some people here too --------------------- ey all! Some people on the ASF IRC-channel convinced me into making a post about this since I talked some about it there and they said it was interesting and natural so I guess I know how to explain some stuff Now I've seen alot around here that people really try to stay away from dancefloor pickups or generally don't like dancing in a pick-up... From my point of view it seems that people just don't know how to progress or make anything out of it except maybe a makeout session and some grinding. Now as I've seen with all other posts about pick-ups etc it's all about getting that lay and most pick-up routines I see all go towards one thing _SEX_, turning the girl on and engaging in some sex-talk or whatever, making out etc etc. Now the thing is that while you can sit there, kiss, kino and what not, nothing of that comes CLOSE to how horny, trancified and completely lost you can get a girl by dancing. Therefore I have decided to write a little post on how use the dancefloor as one of your most powerfull tools. This just as other stuff will not work for everyone, it will work best for those that like to dance but the two most important factors behind this is - Sexual state (That is what you call it isn't it when you are really in sexual mood, turned on?) - Rythm/control You should be able to follow the rythm of preferably any kind of music that is played at a club/party (Rnb, pop, trance, techno...) and you should preferably enjoy the music so it does not fvck with your state/mind. Now to the real stuff Find someone to dance with, I see alot of people here meeting girls then going to the dancefloor with them and that is often good but it does not really matter just find a girl to dance with. The dancing: When you are dancing make sure you are in control of the dancing, lead ALWAYS!!! The whole dancepart here is about creating a universe were only you two exist. How do you do that? - Rythm - Eyes - Sensual kino - erogenous zones Now while dancing go into the whole grinding/close proximity dancing. Something REALLY IMPORTANT HERE! (Which I originally forgot to mention). The comfort/proximity zone is something you are LET INTO, not something you FORCE INTO! Yes the girl actually decides when its time to let you into this part of the dance where you are closer/touching. For some girls its okay to just go up and grind, for others its necessary with some range-dancing + flirting, some IOI etc then move inn. It really does not matter if you are dancing with her back or front towards you except its often better to start with her front towards you because its easier for anyone to escalate that way... (Note about the escalation and steps that proceed. The speed that escalation progresses in here is COMPLETELY INDIVIDUAL. This is something you have to feel yourself. How much is she into it and how good are you at doing it?) Now in the beginning of the dance just have fun doing the normal dancing/grinding thingy, going down with a knee between her thighs etc. You should use your arms only around her arms/weist at this point as to get her into your ryhtm and state. When you feel her get more comfortable (This is often seen by wandering hands or how her bodylanguage/dancing is (more activity, showing more sexual energy)), you will hopefully at this time have gotten a hardon (If you are dancing like this with a girl you should be getting a hardon and you should BE HORNY!). Now you can decide, I really love ass-grinding so I often just push the girl away some, grab her hand and spin her out and then drag her inn and start grinding towards her ass and make sure she feels you're hard. No this does not mean SHOVE it inn her ass, it means use it to show her you are getting turned on and you're sexual. While doing this use your hands on her weist and thighs and also feel up her arms and even raise them above her head so they fall down and she'll often grab your head when she does this her breasts are shoved forward now many guys will be like "wohoo free tit-grab", DON'T! Instead trail your hands/fingers on the very edge of the breasts around the side only slightly venturing inn on the breast-area. Now a couple of notes on grinding: Grinding means ROTATING YOUR HIP, not thrusting it back/forth/up/down. Now most people when grinding do the simple back/forth or up/down and some people do the rotating hip which is good but here comes a very good move. Dont rotate in a circle or simular, rotate in an oval that goes skew so half the rotation moves somewhat forward and the rest goes backward and while doing this do a thrust on the part of the rotation that goes forward. So you get sort of a snap. Why? Because you are melding into a sensual move here, a VERY sensual rythm. The body, life, music, movement, your heart and even SEX is all about RYTHM! When grinding, especially from behind make sure you are making head-to-head contact, so she feels close proximity, so she can feel you breathe, hear it. Now spin her again so she's back facing you. When grinding forward now that shes getting worked up you can start using your thigh/knee abit. When grinding that way you put it again between her thighs but now lower yourself more and move it further between her legs and now use your hands more and use them on the ass etc and seriously make her "ride" your thigh and also start using your mouth on neck/ears. The important thing though is to NOT OVERDO IT and not be slobbery. Use BREATH ALOT! Breathe on her neck and ear while grinding. While dancing don't just hold your hand on her ass, use your fingers and gently massage while grinding and also alot of girls have very very sensual and sensitive backs so using hands on back is great, we are talking gentle scratching here. When doing breathing and pecking don't do it 24-7, move your head away every now and then while dancing and look into her eyes, long and deep glances and look at her lips and MAKE HER SEE YOU ARE LOOKING! She needs to feel the tension of a possible kiss. Now whenver you do that you can move inn just like you are to kiss her but don't actually kiss her but fake it and move to neck or simular OR stop head to head, nose to nose so your lips are almost touching. Don't let her kiss you yet. Also while grinding make sure you lift her arms now and then or often if you like and sometimes just leave your arms upthere and she'll go down and feel you up, play these fun kino-games. Get back to grinding from behind again via some elegant move like a spin and grind. Now pay good attention to her thighs stroking them up and down but this time more on the inside and not on the outside and again make sure the grinding is in the rythmic fashion with the snap so you don't just move in a circle in a monotone speed. Lift her hands up so she puts them over herself and grabs your head or whatever now let your hands wander more, thighs, stomack, feel her breasts, her neck. Something important I call zone-travelling though which means NEVER SKIP A BODYZONE WHEN TRAVERSING. If your hands are on her thighs and you are moving to breasts don't move them straight there. When dancing like this and her breasts are free never "grab"/"hold" them, let your hands slide over, and while doing that you can feel them by "grabbing" but never old, do the grabbing while moving the hands so it's fast and temporarily done. Kissing/breathing on neck is a given at this point. Spin her back front and go straight into a head-to-head position where you are resting towards eachother and move inn for the kiss but don't stop dancing and you have to make a judgement here on how long you want to kiss her. You can tease her if you feel it's necessary or just keep continue kissing. After this you can mostly get even more frisky with your hands and make a point of sliding one or two fingers up between her legs while dancing to really make her feel it, I even vibrate my fingers for a second when I do this sometimes. Now a couple notes: When doing any strokingmovements like on thighs, stomack, weist, back they should all be DIRECTIONAL TOWARDS erogenous zone! That is when I'm say rubbing/stroking thighs it will always be directional towards her vagina and I will apply different pressure after which direction I'm working inn. Mostly lighter pressure the closer you get, ESPECIALLY ON JEANS. On jeans when you get further up her thighs near her vagina lighten up and use your nails on the jeans. You know why? Because of the weaving in jeans it will vibrate slightly (You can test this on yourself by lightly dragging your fingernails over your jeans where it's tight). And also lighter touches are more sensual and by changing pressure you are creating the illusion of something moving gently inn. Circular moves are very good, especially when dealing with tongue. Be consistent with all rythms! You're hands should not be stroking in a rythm that is faster/slower than you're dancing rythm, same goes for the rythm of your breathe and tongue. If you are doing the from behind grind with the rotating hip with the snap (as in thrusting abit on the forward part of the rotation) doing the same kind of rythmic rotation on the neck is good. Don't let your hands wander too much in the beginning, use them more for the less-sexual spots like weist, hip, arms and lead her into it, get her into your little universe. Eyes! Use EYES!!!! Devious, sexual eyes but also trusting eyes. At the very end before kissing or after kissing while dancing I'll sometimes open my mouth abit to show some of my teeth with kind, vulnerable but sexual eyes and maybe lightly put my teeth down on my lowerlip as to almost nibble them while grinding her as if we were having sex.