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Benefits Of Cutting Back On Alcohol

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This is more a report to share than a question.

I come from a culture and family where drinking is normal and even promoted, like you're weird if you don't do it regularly.

In the past year I've cut way back on the booze, especially beer. I have the occasional night out where I drink a few filling beers (IPAs), but I rarely buy beer for the home any more. It's helped me lose some weight and belly.

The past year I've mostly been a wine guy, mostly red. Thing was, I was drinking it every night, 2-3 glasses a night, not getting hammered necessarily, just enough to relax and feel buzzed.

The past two weeks I haven't had a drop, not for any particular reason. I went on a beach vacation and passed on the all-inclusive package, so no free drinks. I was so relaxed from swimming that I didn't need wine or beer. It's carried over since I came back.

I've noticed a nice, quick, shift in how I feel overall. I feel way less bloated. My body was working overtime to process alcohol and sugars from wine, plus I'd get the munchies and eat random shyt at late hours. It was also affecting my sleep - keeping me awake, giving me low-quality sleep. Finally, sorry if it's TMI, but I was dropping deuces too many times a day, and that's been scaled back as well.

I'd been rationalizing the wine drinking as healthy (which in a way, it is), but it was in my system every day. I'm sure my body will revert to some kind of homeostasis, but overall I think my metabolism is normal, my mood is better, and my mind is sharper. This past Saturday I was at the gym at 9 a.m. Usually on weekends I don't make it there until 11 or 12 at the earliest.

And this is on the cusp of Fall and football season - so I'm doing myself a huge favor. I was around 190-192 at the start of summer, and am down to 183 as of now. Hoping to get to 180 by the end of the month.
 

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Being hungover for days

Making a fool of yourself in public & doing things that you will regret hugely. I know kind, caring, respectable people who have turned into an embarrassment on a night out.

Here is a interesting thread about alcohol :- http://www.sosuave.net/forum/index.php?threads/back-on-the-drink.223731/

I cut right down on drinking, but earlier in the year, I decided I would start having the occasional night out. I told myself I would only stop out for four hours, reason being I didn't want to get to much drink down my neck. This way I could enjoy a night out & not get to drunk. I really enjoyed these nights out. It was great to see & socialise with people & have fun. much better than sitting in watching t.v.

One night I decided after having a good drink, that I was going to stop out longer & I ended up having to much drink. I now really regret staying out that night. I didn't do anything to bad, just my memory was a little fuzzy about the last couple of hours. I'm rectifying that by punishing myself by staying in now for a while.

Life is great without alcohol. We don't need it. We are a lot healthier without it. Like I say though, it is fun :)
 

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One night I decided after having a good drink, that I was going to stop out longer & I ended up having to much drink. I now really regret staying out that night. I didn't do anything to bad, just my memory was a little fuzzy about the last couple of hours. I'm rectifying that by punishing myself by staying in now for a while.
I know that feeling. I often have had terrible "regret" for my good times drinking. I think because I was afraid I did or said stupid things. I'm not a bad drunk or mean so it would be just being a tool in public. In the era of social media and smartphones it is better to be as well-behaved as possible.

I've been feeling great lately, definitely in a better mood. Doing my job better, enjoying taking classes more, even enjoying watching football more. Enjoying not dropping stupid cash at bars, too. If/when I do go out again, I'll stick to wine - beer and ****tails just make me sloppy.
 

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I know that feeling. I often have had terrible "regret" for my good times drinking. I think because I was afraid I did or said stupid things. I'm not a bad drunk or mean so it would be just being a tool in public. In the era of social media and smartphones it is better to be as well-behaved as possible.

I've been feeling great lately, definitely in a better mood. Doing my job better, enjoying taking classes more, even enjoying watching football more. Enjoying not dropping stupid cash at bars, too. If/when I do go out again, I'll stick to wine - beer and ****tails just make me sloppy.
I'm on 2.5 weeks now completely sober. I was offered drinks a few times, and turned down. My goal is to make it to oct 1 2017 without a single drop.
 

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I had a couple of glasses of wine with dinner Saturday night. It wasn't very good. Just not good quality wine, and it was a big Italian meal so it just slowed down digestion. Definitely laying off the sauce again for a while.
 

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5 weeks now. Cutting alcohol was probably 50% of my battle in getting my physique turn around. Plus my moods are way more positive.
 

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5 weeks now. Cutting alcohol was probably 50% of my battle in getting my physique turn around. Plus my moods are way more positive.
Good for you. My mood is a lot better lately too. I've had two glasses of wine (in one sitting) total in the past five or six weeks. Digestion is certainly better. I'm down to 181 pounds after being around 192 when I bought a scale in late summer. Hoping to get into the 170s next month. Need to get back on the treadmill and capitalize on the improved metabolism, but I've been walking 3-5 miles a day on average as well.

The "downside" is I have no motivation to meet people for drinks any more. I guess I'll have to give myself a free pass to do that once in a while.
 

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Good for you. My mood is a lot better lately too. I've had two glasses of wine (in one sitting) total in the past five or six weeks. Digestion is certainly better. I'm down to 181 pounds after being around 192 when I bought a scale in late summer. Hoping to get into the 170s next month. Need to get back on the treadmill and capitalize on the improved metabolism, but I've been walking 3-5 miles a day on average as well.

The "downside" is I have no motivation to meet people for drinks any more. I guess I'll have to give myself a free pass to do that once in a while.
Be the devil that serves them drinks and watches them become a little more stupid while your perfect.
 

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As you age... hangover will make you ''****edup in the head and body'' for 1-2 days.

Also you can get cancer from abusing the substance.

I am also on a no alcohol streak and trying to eliminate coffee too... it made me depressed and not well in the head.

The advantage of no alcohol is this: 1. Your sex will get stronger and easier 2. You'll lose weight 3. Body will be easier to reshape 4. You'll have a better flow of blood 5. More breathing strength 6. More cardio 7. Better sleep (unless you need it)

Disavantage: 1. You'll never be able to do business in Russia or Asia 2. Might be harder to handle the bar/lounge dates or meetup 3. Friends might start shifting on you for that 4. None of the disavantage above matters if you good with yourself

Keep it up... write a journal on it
 

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Tell you guys a story...

I was a drunk for fifteen years. Last five were the worst where I was drunk round the clock. I didn't drink during the day but I drank enough at night to carry me through the day before my skin began to crawl, nausea, shakes, etc. Dangerous drinking. My health was in jeopardy, no doubt about it.

Anyway, when I quit, it took me a good year to get my head straight again. Drinking's funny. You don't realize it while you're drinking, but your brains and your perception, reasoning, etc get all fvcked up. I couldn't believe the crazy sh!t I did when I was drunk, once I sobered up. Like I said, it took me a good year to realize this. 2nd thing I noticed was how good it felt to drift off to a real night's sleep, not one predicated on booze. And then waking up in the morning and not trying to remember if I did anything horrible the previous night. sober 11 years this November and I still don't take waking up and going to sleep sober for granted.

Some people can handle booze, some can't. Use your judgment, especially if you're young. I don't want to sound like a grandfather. Anything that gives pleasure eventually only gives pain. Could be anything: booze, dope, sex, etc. Your first drunk may give you very little pain, maybe a hangover. Eventually, you keep chasing the pleasure until all you're doing is chasing the pain away. Go easy.
 

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2nd thing I noticed was how good it felt to drift off to a real night's sleep, not one predicated on booze. And then waking up in the morning and not trying to remember if I did anything horrible the previous night. sober 11 years this November and I still don't take waking up and going to sleep sober for granted.
These are the two biggest pluses for me. My sleep quality has been so much better. Alcohol used to keep me up some nights, believe it or not. Got me wired even if I was sleepy. And certainly I was not getting a solid 7-8 hours of quality sleep. Waking up in a haze, grouchy, cotton-mouthed. And this isn't from getting hammered, it's just from some wine the night before.

That and the "regret" or "what did I do that was embarrassing" last night. Even something stupid like cheering on a football game at a bar, did I act like an imbecile? Would I want video of my behavior plastered up on a jumbotron somewhere?

Booze was also giving me the equivalent of lactose intolerance. So much processing by the kidneys, stomach, etc that my body couldn't burn real calories.
 

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Haven't had a drop since july 2015. The cost is the big one here. Along with better health (was having digestion issues). I was drinking vodka nightly. It was very controlled.

But, I wecome the day I can enjoy a dry martini again.
 

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Haven't had a drop since july 2015. The cost is the big one here. Along with better health (was having digestion issues). I was drinking vodka nightly. It was very controlled.

But, I wecome the day I can enjoy a dry martini again.
I was having poor sleep, snoring louder than normal, I didn't realize how despressed I actually was, also sometimes I would get stomach indigestion and problems breathing when I sleep. It's gone now and I feel better, no depressive feelings and I feel more self respect.
 

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Props to you! @samspade

I have always been a social drinker, me and my gf don't have alcohol in the house unless were going out.

I've seen people around me waste thousands on having a bottle of wine a night. Say an average bottle of wine is £5 and you buy a bottle a day, that's £35 a week and in turn £1820 a year!

Like any form of habit/addiction it is only a temporary stress relief.

Drinking is embedded in so many cultures, the British culture is to binge drink, which I and pretty much everyone I know can be guilty of on occasion.
 

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Props to you! @samspade

I have always been a social drinker, me and my gf don't have alcohol in the house unless were going out.

I've seen people around me waste thousands on having a bottle of wine a night. Say an average bottle of wine is £5 and you buy a bottle a day, that's £35 a week and in turn £1820 a year!

Like any form of habit/addiction it is only a temporary stress relief.

Drinking is embedded in so many cultures, the British culture is to binge drink, which I and pretty much everyone I know can be guilty of on occasion.
Money is another encouraging factor. Five pounds?? Where I live I'm lucky if a glass of wine costs that. Most bottles start at $8 for the bad stuff; you need to spend at least $13 for something palatable. And that's at a liquor store. At a bar or restaurant, a $13 bottle could go for $40 and a glass for at least $10. Add tax and tips and you can drop some serious cash. I'm not as much of a partier as I used to be, but I cringe when I think what some of that money could be spent on (or saved). There's a reason booze and beer companies have ads showing hot sexy girls and suave, sophisticated men.

Now, I will say that I believe life is short and we should all enjoy the good times while we can. For those of us who drink, when it's an important event, liquor can add flavor and fun to a celebration. It can make a conversation flow and can certainly help a date go well. The problem for me was I was rationalizing my way into too many "good times" that were simply excuses to imbibe. This dry spell has improved my judgment on that.
 

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@samspade the people I know drink cheap Sh!t. In the U.K. You can pick up a bottle of Echo Falls for £5 from any store. Most pubs have a house wine at £7 - £10.

Theres nothing wrong with letting loose at all, I love a good night out. Having balance is the key.
 

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@samspade the people I know drink cheap Sh!t. In the U.K. You can pick up a bottle of Echo Falls for £5 from any store. Most pubs have a house wine at £7 - £10.

Theres nothing wrong with letting loose at all, I love a good night out. Having balance is the key.
Problem is some ppl, like I, find it hard to keep balance. For some, drinking turns into a habit and stress relief
 
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