Sorry I hadn't posted in a while,busy making my 100th post!!! Woo hoo! Here it is! Many people on this site were nerds at one point in life. It wasn’t fun, and I know from personal experience. The problem with most people seeking advice is that they expect to find a bunch of pick-up lines and techniques that they must memorize. This is true about most websites. This is not one of those websites… As Pook put it so well in his previous post, Kill that Desperation (this is the first post of the DJ Bible, which I have studied extensively over the weekend)… This is truly the hardest challenge to becoming a true Don Juan. Changing the way you think so that it comes naturally. First we’ll focus on your faults. Write them ALL down. Every single one you can think of. Now find a solution to each problem. Now get out there and fix those problems. So you’re a scrawny son of a b*tch. Solution: go work out three times a week. Don’t just write it out, go DO the things you wrote. If you give up, the problem is never going to be solved! Simple as that! If you want to gain more confidence, talk to at least three new people every week (preferably the chicks ). If you bail out because you’re afraid of rejection, you’ve already ruined it for yourself. You have rejected yourself. The problem is never going to be fixed this way and then we have all these *******s posting that the techniques never work. They complain that it is just too much work and that they still feel like losers. If you ever say it is too much work, you are the biggest f*ck*ng loser on the face of the earth. You must change this way of thinking. The only way this site will help you is if you apply the confidence boosters, attitude changers, and conversation tips to your everyday life. This website is all about helping yourself by using other’s experiences. If you do not apply any of these posts, articles, tips, and techniques to your life and learn from experience, then you’re right, these techniques WON’T work. Why? Because the only way to learn is through personal experience. Now here are the basics to changing the way you think and becoming a more confident and successful individual with women. Learn to love yourself Respect yourself and you will gain the respect of others Go gain some experience Change your attitude towards women Work on it until it comes naturally In the end, a Don Juan isn’t just someone who attracts the ladies. It’s all about improving upon yourself. You’re not going to get anyone to like you if you don’t love yourself! Nobody’s going to respect you if you don’t show some respect for yourself! If you don’t get any experience, how are you ever going to learn what works and what doesn’t?! Nobody should ever be above you. You shouldn’t be after women; they should be the ones dying to be near you! If they reject you it’s their f*ck*ng loss DAMN IT! Don’t ever give a sh*t about what people think! You are not a f*ck*ng doormat that everybody’s going to walk all over! You are a human being and you deserve respect. Don’t put up with chicks who treat you like sh*t. You’re worth more than that. Once you’ve become a doormat, the chicks will see you as someone to take advantage of… you become the dreaded “nice guy”… …and nice guys always finish last. Now being a nice guy isn’t bad, just don’t let it go too far. Once people start using you as a doormat, they won’t stop until you change your ways and learn to say NO! They will constantly disrespect you by using you, and they will continue to do so for the rest of your life until you lose that “nice guy” way of thinking. You often don’t realize it but people will test you every day! When a chick asks you to do something like throw a paper away for her, she is testing you to see if you will be useful to her. Now if her pencil falls under your desk, okay. That’s different. You can easily pick up the pencil and give it to her or at least kick it to her desk. But asking you for a dollar to buy herself a drink?! Asking you to throw a paper away just because she is too lazy (not to be confused with “too busy”) to throw it away herself?! Your time is just as precious as hers! Next time you are treated like her pawn by being asked to throw away her paper, get her a chair, etc. tell her with a ****y smirk on your face that she can manage. Remind her that you are very busy and cannot stop to do her work just because she doesn’t want to do it herself. Remember to actually have something to do though, you should ALWAYS have something to do. Not doing anything is a waste of time and people will think that you have no life. Bored on a weekend? Go running or ride your bike. Learn to play the guitar. Figure out a new trick on a skateboard. Do SOMETHING! Now changing how you think can be pretty hard. It takes time, experience, and determination. You have to focus on what you’re trying to improve until it becomes natural. This is the key to changing how you think! Do it until it comes naturally! Once you’ve got it down you won’t think about it anymore! It’s like typing. First you have to look down at the keys, then you try it without looking, and once you’ve got the hang of it, you’re not even going to wonder about what key you need to press because it’ll all come naturally. Here’s another example: conversations. The hardest thing about conversing is actually having to listen. Listening is not a natural man thing. First you have to focus on what they’re saying and consciously look for clues as to what you may say to her next (“Those are some really interesting shoes. Where did you buy them?” “So you say you’ve lived in Florida? What’s it like over there?” or “I’ve been to Florida, it’s a really nice place. Did you check out any of the beaches?” etc., etc., etc…). Pretty soon listening will become a subconscious act. You’ll pick up on little clues to keep the conversation going naturally. Another thing chicks love is a good sense of humor. If you don’t have any funny people in your family, chances are your sense humor is going to suck as well. Don’t lose hope though! If you want to brush up on you humor, go buy a comedy CD or video. Watch Comedy Central for a while. Watch it only if you think it’s funny. This’ll help you by learning some new jokes and you’ll also learn the art of timing. Timing what you say is what makes spontaneous humor so funny. Soon timing will come naturally! This applies to other things as well, what you put in is what will come out. The more humor listen to or watch, the funnier you’ll be. The more music you were exposed to as a child will determine if you will have any musical talent. The more books you read, the more extended your vocabulary. (I personally despise this tactic but an extended vocabulary makes you sound more intelligent and few words rarely used in a standard vocabulary can be used as a source for excellent humor. Did you notice how smart I sounded in that last sentence? Yeah, those were some big words.) No, Green Eggs and Ham does not count … Remember that High School is supposed to be a learning experience. Practice you DJ techniques on the chicks. You’ll pick up some bodacious babes along the way and once you figure out what works, you can apply it to the real world. The secret to becoming a true Don Juan is to constantly improve yourself. The only way to do that is through experience. The only way to get some experience is to get your ass out of your that and go Don Juanisize them (thanks Antonio ). So what are you waiting for? Get your ass out there and make us all proud! Good luck soldier, DJ Bedford ---------------------- “You are THE MAN. You must be IN CHARGE. Desperate guys will try to be 'nice' in every which way to win the girl (and fail, of course). But Prince Charming and the Great Catch will SWEEP WOMEN OFF THEIR FEET. When you THINK you are the goods, you realize that it is ridiculous to treat a relationship and flirting as walking on eggshells. YOU set the rules, NOT the other way around. After all, YOU are the prize to be sought.”--Yet another great quote by Pook. ~~~enjoy my 100th post. Just wait until I get to 200!