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10 things to look for in a wife

backbreaker

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My wife for the most part is all of the criteria listed. but it's really one of those things you just have to "know" and the only way you can "know" is if you have something to compare her with.

I know the day the way turned the corner in my eyes. This is going to sound silly but it's little ****. She had did something to her computer to where it just wasn't working right anymore. IT was software related. I told her off hand what she needed was a new OS, to clean sweep the hard drive.

I didn't hear another word from her about it. about 3 weeks later I happen to be over her house and I look over and her computer is working perfectly. she had went to best buy, bought a new version of windows, and installed it all on her own. she went online and figured out how to do it she's not a tech.

what impressed me was 2 things. 1. I AM A a tech and she didn't ask for my help. she didn't throw up her hands and look for a dude to come help her out because she's pretty. 2. she didn't use it as an excuse to go out and waste money on a shiny new pc when all she had to do was reinstall the software. and 3. she didn't even brag about it she just did it.

i didn't tell her but i knew then i had something. i knew she was self sufficent (She is), I know she wasn't a money burner (She isn't) and I knew she wasn't an attention ***** (she isn't)
 

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and to add to that... she made it clear to me, her friends, family & kids would always come before me...

and if her kids ever took a dislike to me, then she would leave me..
 

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backbreaker said:
My wife for the most part is all of the criteria listed. but it's really one of those things you just have to "know" and the only way you can "know" is if you have something to compare her with.

I know the day the way turned the corner in my eyes. This is going to sound silly but it's little ****. She had did something to her computer to where it just wasn't working right anymore. IT was software related. I told her off hand what she needed was a new OS, to clean sweep the hard drive.

I didn't hear another word from her about it. about 3 weeks later I happen to be over her house and I look over and her computer is working perfectly. she had went to best buy, bought a new version of windows, and installed it all on her own. she went online and figured out how to do it she's not a tech.

what impressed me was 2 things. 1. I AM A a tech and she didn't ask for my help. she didn't throw up her hands and look for a dude to come help her out because she's pretty. 2. she didn't use it as an excuse to go out and waste money on a shiny new pc when all she had to do was reinstall the software. and 3. she didn't even brag about it she just did it.

i didn't tell her but i knew then i had something. i knew she was self sufficent (She is), I know she wasn't a money burner (She isn't) and I knew she wasn't an attention ***** (she isn't)
wow that is impressive. good chance she's a keeper. well done!
 

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Good list, I'm happy to see my wife ticks all the boxes, thankfully she showed these traits even before engagement.
 

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I don't agree with 9 but ohter than that it's a great list. for number 9 i would say it depends on WHY she doesn't have a great relationshpi with her dad. I will throw a yellow flag up if a girl just has a POS father. I've had some positive relationships with women who have had POS dads.
 

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I've wanted to make this list for a while, but I've come across a number of "wife lists" around the web and wanted to formulate my own opinion. This is by no means all-inclusive, and is geared towards men < age 40 who have never been married previously and are interested in a wife either for starting a family or companionship. Obviously the parameters are different for older gents. Feel free to contribute!

These are things to look for in HER. Stuff that YOU can do will be covered in another post. In no particular order:

10. She should come from a good, intact family.

Everyone’s family has some issues. But a girl should have parents who are still married and reasonably happy. Children of divorced parents are more likely to be divorced themselves. Look at her parent’s dynamic and assess whether the mother or father wears the pants. If the mother wears the pants, you can count on her being domineering once you get married. They tend to emulate their mother’s attitudes and conflict resolution style.

9. She should have a good relationship with her father.

No brainer. Any girl who has daddy issues of significance will transfer them to YOU, because once married you become the focal man in her life, and she will take out unresolved father conflict on her new primary male figure. It’s ok if they had their issues in the past but are good friends now, but just be observant of her comments and attitude towards her dad. Anger, distrust, resentment = BAD. Abuse = super bad.

8. No kids. (from Christian Mcqueen’s “8 signs she’s a keeper” article)

Unless you have some unnatural desire to raise another man’s sperm, then definitely do NOT date/marry a girl who has kids from a previous guy. You will regret this like hell, I’m warning you in all seriousness. If you were to get a divorce and you make more than her, then guess what buddy? You could end up paying child support for a fvcking kid that’s not even yours. Repeat after me: FVCK THAT ****. Life is too short to be cleaning up other people’s mistakes.

Leave the cuckoldry to herbs and KBJs like Mark Minter.

7. Never married.

Damaged goods. Damaged goods. Damaged goods. Embrace this mantra when you meet previously married women. I can tell you from experience---they ALL carry ex-husband baggage. You will pay, in one way or another, for his mistakes. Plus, how special can it really be to be standing at the altar with a woman who has already said her forever vows once??? You want her vision of marriage to be fresh and untainted, much like her pvssy. That's not to say that good women cant make mistakes, but if you have a choice (you do), buy new.

6. She should be non-feminist

While most women aren’t going to have to level of awareness that a DJ or red pill man will on social matters, she does need to have a working understanding that we do NOT live in a pro-male society. She needs to understand that you are taking a MUCH bigger risk in marrying her than she is to you, and that a prenuptial agreement is a pragmatic measure taken by a rational man who wants to mitigate as much risk as possible. In a nutshell, she should be down with more traditional gender roles, generally like men, and not have any delusions that women have it ruff.

5. She should be submissive and receptive to male leadership

Self-explanatory. Show me a successful relationship or a marriage and I’ll show you a couple where the Man is a competent leader and the wife is a willing follower. Think pilot-copilot. You do not want an ‘enlightened feminist’ cvnt who will make your life hell and question every action or decision of yours. That’s an uphill battle you will never win. Start with good stock. You want a sweet, feminine girl who WANTS to follow a strong man wherever that might be. She will feel fulfilled in this role and will make your job 1000 times easier. It’s ok to give her some dominion over the home and other day-to-day matters, but YOU are the pilot and the pilot makes the big decisions that affect everyone. There is more control, but also more responsibility.

4. Preferably a virgin, or single digit partners.

I’ve talked about this at length in other threads and my blog, but I cannot overemphasize the value of finding a girl who has NEVER had another man before you. Not only is she physically untainted, but her ability to bond with you is undiluted and pure. You can teach her sexually and never worry about her having hang-ups or wonder about her hazy sexual past.
Now, obviously finding a virgin with all these other attributes in this day and age is like finding a needle in a hayfield. The fewer partners the better. Evidence has shown that the more sexual partners a girl has had prior to marriage, the higher the likelihood of marital dissolution. I would suggest <5 partners.

3. She should have the body type you want---naturally

Is she a little chubby now? Does she have some thunder thighs or was she once very overweight? How big are her boobs? A girl with DD’s at 23 will be sagging and likely overweight in her thirties and forties. Choose a female that looks the way you like NATURALLY. Reservations about her body now will only magnify with age. Look at her mother as well. This isn't an absolute predictor, but they tend to follow their mother’s physical progression. Also, an ongoing commitment to exercise is a must.

2. She should not be overly materialistic

It’s fine if she has a good fashion sense and a taste for some finer things, but really your income and resources shouldn't have a tremendous bearing on why she is with you. She should be just as happy going out for a burger with you in your 1979 Datsun as she would cruising down the strip in your Ferrari. Does she want a big extravagant wedding? Does she chatter on endlessly about sh!t she knows you can’t afford? Red flags. Also, she should be debt-free or at the most have some well-managed, low risk debt.

1. She should level with you on the BIG stuff: Spiritual beliefs, children, financial habits, lifestyle preferences.

This is also pretty self-explanatory, but it bears repeating. These things are non-negotiable and will have a HUGE effect on your quality of life with her. You should want the same type of lifestyle---i.e. live in the country vs. city, lots of leisure vs. lots of work, kids vs. no kids, similar travel goals, a few shared hobbies, and similar sex appetites. Again, no brainer stuff but in the long run differences in these key areas will pull you apart.
It won’t make any difference. True, some are a horrible choice and others are better but in the end, that list won’t make any difference.
 
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