The Answers Are Within!! (Higer State Of Conciousness)

da dynamically · 10-19-2005, 05:53 AM

Compassion gives way to Confidence, and that is a true Don Juan.

Let's face it, if we all had confidence, then there is no need for a web site like this to exist. Over the years I've seen many posts stressing the fact that you need confidence in order to succeed. Without confidence, it is hard to get out of bed in the morning.

But what is true Confidence really? How can you obtain it? By working out? Having a car? Money? Looks? If you REALLY think about it, gaining confidence through materialistic things is a form of insecurity. There is a big difference between confidence gained from materialistic things and REAL authenthic confidence.

The Ego traps us all. Most of us are so wrapped up in our own vanity and pride that we must go to extremes as to think that we are the PRIZE and above all the average frustrated chumps! We are the great Don Juans! Even if you are lucky enough to get some phone numbers or a one night stand, one bad encounter with a woman and you'll come right back to sosuave seeking for more ego-boosting solutions.

Does a truely great Don Juan need a site like this for something as simple as talking to women? Hell no. He simply has no time for it. So stop boosting your ego. You are doing more harm than good.

The ego is more fragile than you think. That is why we must get rid of our egos. It is a crutch. Instead of trying to convince yourself that you are the PRIZE, you must REALIZE that being the "PRIZE" is a choice. Yes, it is true. If you choose to be the "Prize", you must get rid of your ego. When you are egoless, this unleashes an unlimited amount of Compassion. The compassionate man is the true prize if you think about it, and so is a compassionate woman.

Only when you truely have compassion for womankind will you be able to naturally attract, understand, and have them in your life not just as sexual partners but as lifetime friends. REAL FRIENDS! Why shortchange yourself to just being a playboy? It's time to realize your full potential. Your potential is not just sex or temporary happiness, it is complete Nirvana!

Why is Compassion prized by women? Because it is rare and genuine and REAL. Selfish players are not rare, they are common. Nice Guys are selfish too. They act nice because they want to gain affection and approval. Both the Nice Guy and Player are selfish. They are so wrapped up in their own egos, unable to feel a higher state of conciousness and they will never be truely happy. Their "happiness" is totally depended upon their successes with women. That is a MAJOR crutch.

What is Compassion? It is the appreciation and admiration for women. Yes folks. Do not hide it inside any longer. Let that tingly feeling of genuine love and compassion inside of you OUT. Let your appreciation shine. Smile and give women their props. As Pook would say, Be a MAN and look at women with kind eyes. Love your mother and sisters. Notice how it is MUCH EASIER to talk to a girl when you are GENUINELY INTERESTED IN HER! Someone from this site coined the perfect attitude. Instead of having One-Itis, have All-Itis! This is the great curse of Don Juan himself. He truely appreciates women! Seduction is not a war to him.

Compassion = Confidence because by being compasionate, you KNOW that you are heavily prized by women. Doesn't it feel good to go through life knowing that what you have is prized, real, and authenthic? This is Natural Game. Let's leave the fake life behind.

From now on, let that smile be real, the questions sincere, the sex romantic, and so on. Indulge in her body and essence. Don't hold anything back.

Only when you are able to get OVER YOURSELF and have true compassion for women will you be able to think clearly and interact with them NATURALLY without appearing awkward and pretentious, and actually feel GOOD about it! There is no way around it. Tap into a HIGHGER state of conciousness. There is no "ego". If you study easten philosophy or quantum physics, you will realize that we are one with the universe, and COMPASSION is the key into unlocking the gateway towards Nirvana. The Prime Mover of all things is Compasionate. If you expect him to award you with the greatest things in life and true happiness, you have to demonstrate compassion.

If this post seems too AFC, it is because I am truely happy to know that I already have what it takes to be a Don Juan. It is already in me, and it is in you too. You just have to realize it. Before I used to use a lot of DJ and ASF material, but now I just like to build connections and have quality women in my life. I am not talking about AFC stuff here. Having genuine appreciation for women and putting them on a goddess-like pedestal are two different things.

dice · 10-19-2005, 08:13 AM

i just read real magic (AMAZING book) by dr wayne dyer and he preaches the same thing. Living life through purpose, which he defines as being full of love and giving of yourself to others, rather than living life by your achievements and failures. It's when we live a life on purpose that the things we set goals for come in swarms.

Smoothflow · 10-20-2005, 02:24 AM

This compassion thing your talking about all relates back to God. Love is his message. But many people dont relise it that it is just that simple. Love for all beings is the true key. Whether it be a small ant to the massive water buffalos and ofcourse unconditional love to fellow human beings .

This gift of having and giving unconditional love is a rare thing. It has a tendency to carry on and free us from fear and the shackles of despair. Seeing the good in everyone is the true step to our evolution as a race.

Many people sense this. From the old people, to young kids and espeshially women. They sense this quality about you and reciprocate. You create an aura around you, its like a super power.

Being genuine and a realist is what drives us humans to success. It creates a happy vibe around you. Once you start being compassionate everything changes. Your inner game greatly increases, your love for life explodes exponentially and ofcourse your happiness becomes infinite.

da dynamically · 10-20-2005, 04:41 AM

i shouldn't have posted this. this is something to be self actualized, not something you can read about. it takes some people years to find themselves. some people never do.

qweretyuiopas · 10-20-2005, 12:29 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by da dynamically
i shouldn't have posted this. this is something to be self actualized, not something you can read about. it takes some people years to find themselves. some people never do.

Well then, why did you?

Vibe · 10-20-2005, 01:24 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by da dynamically
i shouldn't have posted this. this is something to be self actualized, not something you can read about. it takes some people years to find themselves. some people never do.

Good stuff, dude.

I made a similar post which you might be interested in. There were a lot of really good comments on it too.

It's at http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthr...hreadid=84766&

~Vibe~

ScrewIt · 10-20-2005, 02:14 PM

Great post.

I know what you mean, i've been slowly going through this phase these past couple weeks.

But i believe in order to reach this higher state of consciousness, you have to be fully content with yourself. Accept who you are, and accept your flaws. Be happy with your inner self, your life and your way of life. It's a state-of-mind actually, a state of enlightenment. You have to realize who you were, who you are, and where you're going. it's RAther hard to explain...its only something you can experience yourself.

Once this happens, your true self manifests. In a sense you gain true confidence & arrogance. Why arrogance you ask? because you reach this state of mind, that you dont care about any other little things.

Thus when this happens socializing becomes part of you that you dont even ahve to give this a second thought. Thats why talking with women can become so easy and so effortless that it's just natural.

pimpfromdayone · 10-20-2005, 07:47 PM

I love it.

da dynamically · 10-20-2005, 11:21 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Vibe
Good stuff, dude.

I made a similar post which you might be interested in. There were a lot of really good comments on it too.

It's at http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthr...hreadid=84766&

~Vibe~

vibe, i am amazed at how that post correlates with my current thought process lol. I agree, we all must "transcend our egos", becoming totally egoless in order to get rid of our fears and insecurities, leading us to UNSTOPPABLE CONFIDENCE, an aura of INVINCIBILITY if you will. we must stop comparing ourselves to superfical sense perceptions, accepting that we are imperfect aesthetically. anyway i can go on and on about getting rid of the ego and making the woman feel exactly the way you feel, but it is beyond the scope of this reply so i'll save the insights for some other time.

remember, inner game is all you need. outer game without inner game is like Steve Urkel wearing the Batman costume. i just hope more people from this site realizes this.

ScrewIt · 10-21-2005, 02:14 AM

It's funny how when you normally ask for advice from people they'll usually say : "just be yourself"

It holds a lot of truth in it actually. For hte most part generally people dont understand the truth behind it. Because most people still are unsure of who they are, they have not found themselves.

Keep that "just be yourself" in mind. A lot of times the genuine self assured you is more appealing than some superficial insecure guy.

The thing is that a lot of the philosophy about releasing your consciousness and ego holds a lot of buddhist beliefs...maybe ill go deeper into that in another post.

Fender · 10-21-2005, 11:04 PM

GREAT post...I'm lovin' it

But I gotta question for you, what exactly IS the ego? A sense of self? (we can't live without a sense of self) Or pride???

Please help me clear this up...

-fender-

ScrewIt · 10-22-2005, 12:30 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Fender
GREAT post...I'm lovin' it

But I gotta question for you, what exactly IS the ego? A sense of self? (we can't live without a sense of self) Or pride???

Please help me clear this up...

-fender-

I suggest taking Intro to Psych 101

CHOCOLATE(COLA) · 10-22-2005, 07:58 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by da dynamically

Does a truely great Don Juan need a site like this for something as simple as talking to women? Hell no. He simply has no time for it. So stop boosting your ego. You are doing more harm than good.

i just found that hilarious, what you are saying is that the true don juan doesnt have any free time, in wich cause that is not a don juan. In my opinion that person is someones ***** cause everyone wants some free time, and posting here and helping others isnt exactly a waste, but maybe this is simply a reflection of yourself, so ill let that slip

Fender · 10-22-2005, 10:09 AM

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Originally posted by ScrewIt
I suggest taking Intro to Psych 101

Lol, i actually do take psychology

But I was thinking it would mean something else as the ego described by freud is the "conscious" mind that balances the desires of the instinct and the standards set by society. I don't think that's what da dynamically had in mind.

-fender-

pimpfromdayone · 10-22-2005, 02:10 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Fender
Lol, i actually do take psychology

But I was thinking it would mean something else as the ego described by freud is the "conscious" mind that balances the desires of the instinct and the standards set by society. I don't think that's what da dynamically had in mind.

-fender-

You're right. Here the word "ego" is being used to describe a state of mind where people are full of themselves, pompous, maybe arrogant, selfish, feeling superior to the point where they don't want others.... ego, as in egocentric/egotistical. If I am complimented, I might say, "Please ladies, my ego is big enough as it is," in a coc-ky/funny way. Needless to say, having an overinflated ego will often work against you when it comes to being social and getting women.

skeeloo · 10-22-2005, 03:00 PM

i agree with this post very good man..real good and i think im getting to that piont slowly geting there i wouldnt say im a "dj" yet but if i can keep a mindset like that i would do well in long run.

by the way that post by vibe was good too.

ScrewIt · 10-22-2005, 03:48 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by pimpfromdayone
You're right. Here the word "ego" is being used to describe a state of mind where people are full of themselves, pompous, maybe arrogant, selfish, feeling superior to the point where they don't want others.... ego, as in egocentric/egotistical. If I am complimented, I might say, "Please ladies, my ego is big enough as it is," in a coc-ky/funny way. Needless to say, having an overinflated ego will often work against you when it comes to being social and getting women.

You seem to be describing the superiority complex. But good point you made about the ego
Anyway i dont necessarily think the ego is a bad thing. You just gotta find the right balance and maintain it.

A lot of times people lose that balance, and get over their heads with their attitude. pompous/arrogant/cocky/idont need you attitude. And before they know it, theyre disrespecting close friends. fortunately its temporary, but its not the genuine person. Finding the balance makes you the genuine person.

pimpfromdayone · 10-22-2005, 06:18 PM

Yeah, I understand what you mean. Having an ego is healthy, but as always, balance is everything. It should always be positive. That is the key. If it gets to the point where you are constantly judging others (including women) all the time, then you might have a problem. I myself have to work on not being so judgemental, especially of women, because it is just negative and unnecessary. Some of it probably came from taking things too seriously and listening to people (on here in particular) talk about not putting up with their shi-t because I am the prize (and I do believe this). For instance, I am working on this new girl who wants me to call but won't call me. Before, in my mind I might have just been like, "fu-ck off then, you attention who-re and/or bi-tch," lol, but now I am like, "well, I'll give her a chance, maybe she is just shy or something." My ego before told me I am too good to even fu-ck with people like her, but now, while I still feel I am a prize, I don't think of others like they're not worth my time. It also has to do with taking away a lot of generalizations. I still struggle to see how women aren't completely inferior to men, but I don't even think about that anymore, because every woman is different and also because it just doesn't matter.After all, if I had that bad attitude, how would I ever meet new people or make friends? This is just one example of how having a huge ego (or superiority complex as you call it) can ruin your entire social life.

In conclusion, think positively, always.

da dynamically · 10-23-2005, 01:45 AM

Quote:

Originally posted by Fender
GREAT post...I'm lovin' it

But I gotta question for you, what exactly IS the ego? A sense of self? (we can't live without a sense of self) Or pride???

Please help me clear this up...

-fender-

Well instead of explaining I'll give you a story about myself that would help explain things. Two years ago, on New Years Eve, I had a choice of 3 girls to spend it with. I called each one with a condescending tone as if I didn't need them; it was eighter my way or the high way. And when they were annoyed, I turned on the Cocky and Funny, Challenge, etc. Surely enough, all 3 girls gave me an excuse of why they couldn't spend time with me. "Oh my aunt came to visit from Florida, I have to spend time with my family, my boyfreind wouldnt approve of it, blah blah blah blah blah.............."

When it hit 12:00 AM everyone was kissing their lovers while I was drunk, depressed, lonely, etc. At that point I sort of had an epiphany and quickly made a New Year's Resolution. I promised that I would be as sociable as possible. I was desperate to learn the art of being a people person. I went back to So Suave for advice only to find more posts of Self Boasting. I thought to myself that something was missing......REAL SUBSTANCE instead of mind games and narcisistic tactics. I knew that the answers lied within....But even when I tried to search within myself, I was lost. Maybe learning about the inner workings of a human being is not a bad idea.

So I decided to study the perfect example of inner game, the Buddha himself. Surely he was a social person, and if he had an uncontrollable libido, he could have been a great Don Juan. During my journey I've discovered that the key is Compassion for all living things, including YOURSELF. You must accept all of your flaws. Realize that noone is perfect. ACCEPTANCE is key. There is no need of putting yourself on a pedestal of perfection; this is actually more tiring than beneficial.

So the key is just be real, friendly, have some substance, and realize that when you talk to women, they are worthy human beings just like you. You should be genuinely interested in them, otherwise you will have to resort to tactics, canned material, and a system of game that someone has made up that is suppose to work on all women.

Too much thinking is involve. Socializing should not be like a science. Nature has already given you the ability to be social. In order to do this, you have to get out of your own mind and into hers. By being trapped within yourself, you become sub-concious and everything you say will seem contrived, pretentious, and insecure. Be natural. Throw away the systems, just be INTO HER and your natural curiousity a long with your personality will lead the way. At first you may seem lost, but with EXPERIENCE, you will become a social master.

I'm not saying that having a sense of self is a bad thing, it's just that if you are too caught up within yourself, it will be impossible to reach out to others. This advice is for freindships and relationships only. If you want sex, I'm sure there are plenty of advices on this board for that. The reason why sex doesn't concern me is because I know that by having a lot of women in my life, sex will come, and it does. Only the sexually deprived and the fetishesses obsess constantly about sex.

10-19-2005, 05:53 AM	#1
da dynamically Senior Don Juan Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: philadelphia Age: 28 Posts: 338	The Answers Are Within!! (Higer State Of Conciousness) Compassion gives way to Confidence, and that is a true Don Juan. Let's face it, if we all had confidence, then there is no need for a web site like this to exist. Over the years I've seen many posts stressing the fact that you need confidence in order to succeed. Without confidence, it is hard to get out of bed in the morning. But what is true Confidence really? How can you obtain it? By working out? Having a car? Money? Looks? If you REALLY think about it, gaining confidence through materialistic things is a form of insecurity. There is a big difference between confidence gained from materialistic things and REAL authenthic confidence. The Ego traps us all. Most of us are so wrapped up in our own vanity and pride that we must go to extremes as to think that we are the PRIZE and above all the average frustrated chumps! We are the great Don Juans! Even if you are lucky enough to get some phone numbers or a one night stand, one bad encounter with a woman and you'll come right back to sosuave seeking for more ego-boosting solutions. Does a truely great Don Juan need a site like this for something as simple as talking to women? Hell no. He simply has no time for it. So stop boosting your ego. You are doing more harm than good. The ego is more fragile than you think. That is why we must get rid of our egos. It is a crutch. Instead of trying to convince yourself that you are the PRIZE, you must REALIZE that being the "PRIZE" is a choice. Yes, it is true. If you choose to be the "Prize", you must get rid of your ego. When you are egoless, this unleashes an unlimited amount of Compassion. The compassionate man is the true prize if you think about it, and so is a compassionate woman. Only when you truely have compassion for womankind will you be able to naturally attract, understand, and have them in your life not just as sexual partners but as lifetime friends. REAL FRIENDS! Why shortchange yourself to just being a playboy? It's time to realize your full potential. Your potential is not just sex or temporary happiness, it is complete Nirvana! Why is Compassion prized by women? Because it is rare and genuine and REAL. Selfish players are not rare, they are common. Nice Guys are selfish too. They act nice because they want to gain affection and approval. Both the Nice Guy and Player are selfish. They are so wrapped up in their own egos, unable to feel a higher state of conciousness and they will never be truely happy. Their "happiness" is totally depended upon their successes with women. That is a MAJOR crutch. What is Compassion? It is the appreciation and admiration for women. Yes folks. Do not hide it inside any longer. Let that tingly feeling of genuine love and compassion inside of you OUT. Let your appreciation shine. Smile and give women their props. As Pook would say, Be a MAN and look at women with kind eyes. Love your mother and sisters. Notice how it is MUCH EASIER to talk to a girl when you are GENUINELY INTERESTED IN HER! Someone from this site coined the perfect attitude. Instead of having One-Itis, have All-Itis! This is the great curse of Don Juan himself. He truely appreciates women! Seduction is not a war to him. Compassion = Confidence because by being compasionate, you KNOW that you are heavily prized by women. Doesn't it feel good to go through life knowing that what you have is prized, real, and authenthic? This is Natural Game. Let's leave the fake life behind. From now on, let that smile be real, the questions sincere, the sex romantic, and so on. Indulge in her body and essence. Don't hold anything back. Only when you are able to get OVER YOURSELF and have true compassion for women will you be able to think clearly and interact with them NATURALLY without appearing awkward and pretentious, and actually feel GOOD about it! There is no way around it. Tap into a HIGHGER state of conciousness. There is no "ego". If you study easten philosophy or quantum physics, you will realize that we are one with the universe, and COMPASSION is the key into unlocking the gateway towards Nirvana. The Prime Mover of all things is Compasionate. If you expect him to award you with the greatest things in life and true happiness, you have to demonstrate compassion. If this post seems too AFC, it is because I am truely happy to know that I already have what it takes to be a Don Juan. It is already in me, and it is in you too. You just have to realize it. Before I used to use a lot of DJ and ASF material, but now I just like to build connections and have quality women in my life. I am not talking about AFC stuff here. Having genuine appreciation for women and putting them on a goddess-like pedestal are two different things. Last edited by da dynamically : 10-20-2005 at 04:43 AM.

10-20-2005, 02:14 PM	#7
ScrewIt Master Don Juan Join Date: Feb 2004 Posts: 1,786	Great post. I know what you mean, i've been slowly going through this phase these past couple weeks. But i believe in order to reach this higher state of consciousness, you have to be fully content with yourself. Accept who you are, and accept your flaws. Be happy with your inner self, your life and your way of life. It's a state-of-mind actually, a state of enlightenment. You have to realize who you were, who you are, and where you're going. it's RAther hard to explain...its only something you can experience yourself. Once this happens, your true self manifests. In a sense you gain true confidence & arrogance. Why arrogance you ask? because you reach this state of mind, that you dont care about any other little things. Thus when this happens socializing becomes part of you that you dont even ahve to give this a second thought. Thats why talking with women can become so easy and so effortless that it's just natural. Last edited by ScrewIt : 10-20-2005 at 02:33 PM.

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10-19-2005, 08:13 AM	#2
dice Senior Don Juan Join Date: Mar 2004 Posts: 299	i just read real magic (AMAZING book) by dr wayne dyer and he preaches the same thing. Living life through purpose, which he defines as being full of love and giving of yourself to others, rather than living life by your achievements and failures. It's when we live a life on purpose that the things we set goals for come in swarms.

10-20-2005, 02:24 AM	#3
Smoothflow Don Juan Join Date: Jun 2003 Age: 28 Posts: 61	This compassion thing your talking about all relates back to God. Love is his message. But many people dont relise it that it is just that simple. Love for all beings is the true key. Whether it be a small ant to the massive water buffalos and ofcourse unconditional love to fellow human beings . This gift of having and giving unconditional love is a rare thing. It has a tendency to carry on and free us from fear and the shackles of despair. Seeing the good in everyone is the true step to our evolution as a race. Many people sense this. From the old people, to young kids and espeshially women. They sense this quality about you and reciprocate. You create an aura around you, its like a super power. Being genuine and a realist is what drives us humans to success. It creates a happy vibe around you. Once you start being compassionate everything changes. Your inner game greatly increases, your love for life explodes exponentially and ofcourse your happiness becomes infinite.

10-20-2005, 04:41 AM	#4
da dynamically Senior Don Juan Join Date: Feb 2003 Location: philadelphia Age: 28 Posts: 338	i shouldn't have posted this. this is something to be self actualized, not something you can read about. it takes some people years to find themselves. some people never do.

10-20-2005, 07:47 PM	#8
pimpfromdayone Master Don Juan Join Date: Jul 2005 Age: 26 Posts: 690	I love it.

10-21-2005, 02:14 AM	#10
ScrewIt Master Don Juan Join Date: Feb 2004 Posts: 1,786	It's funny how when you normally ask for advice from people they'll usually say : "just be yourself" It holds a lot of truth in it actually. For hte most part generally people dont understand the truth behind it. Because most people still are unsure of who they are, they have not found themselves. Keep that "just be yourself" in mind. A lot of times the genuine self assured you is more appealing than some superficial insecure guy. The thing is that a lot of the philosophy about releasing your consciousness and ego holds a lot of buddhist beliefs...maybe ill go deeper into that in another post.

10-21-2005, 11:04 PM	#11
Fender Senior Don Juan Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 336	GREAT post...I'm lovin' it But I gotta question for you, what exactly IS the ego? A sense of self? (we can't live without a sense of self) Or pride??? Please help me clear this up... -fender-

10-22-2005, 03:00 PM	#16
skeeloo Senior Don Juan Join Date: Nov 2004 Posts: 494	i agree with this post very good man..real good and i think im getting to that piont slowly geting there i wouldnt say im a "dj" yet but if i can keep a mindset like that i would do well in long run. by the way that post by vibe was good too.

10-22-2005, 06:18 PM	#18
pimpfromdayone Master Don Juan Join Date: Jul 2005 Age: 26 Posts: 690	Yeah, I understand what you mean. Having an ego is healthy, but as always, balance is everything. It should always be positive. That is the key. If it gets to the point where you are constantly judging others (including women) all the time, then you might have a problem. I myself have to work on not being so judgemental, especially of women, because it is just negative and unnecessary. Some of it probably came from taking things too seriously and listening to people (on here in particular) talk about not putting up with their shi-t because I am the prize (and I do believe this). For instance, I am working on this new girl who wants me to call but won't call me. Before, in my mind I might have just been like, "fu-ck off then, you attention who-re and/or bi-tch," lol, but now I am like, "well, I'll give her a chance, maybe she is just shy or something." My ego before told me I am too good to even fu-ck with people like her, but now, while I still feel I am a prize, I don't think of others like they're not worth my time. It also has to do with taking away a lot of generalizations. I still struggle to see how women aren't completely inferior to men, but I don't even think about that anymore, because every woman is different and also because it just doesn't matter.After all, if I had that bad attitude, how would I ever meet new people or make friends? This is just one example of how having a huge ego (or superiority complex as you call it) can ruin your entire social life. In conclusion, think positively, always.