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|09-19-2005, 04:48 PM||#1|
Master Don Juan
Join Date: Feb 2003
My PM to a forum member... Some of my insights.
a member of the forums PM'd me asking for some insights into how i get my women. I figured maybe I'd just share it with all of you, cause there's no use in holding anything back, around here.
It's by no means an in depth post, but I'm hoping that someone will get something positive from it.
I try and keep things simple, cause picking up women is simple. WE are the ones that complicate it.
Sorry for the delayed reply.
I'm no pro at this, and I never say anywhere that I'm some super Don Juan... far from it. I'm like everyone else and I have my ups and downs.
The key is to recognize opportunities and seize them, if you want to.
Stop being a pansy and make a move... seriously. When you isolate a girl, get in there and kiss her... don't be afraid if she rejects you or not...... it isn't a big deal.... and guess what? I've never been rejected after I kissed a girl. You gotta know when the time is right and just go for it.
I probably turned down 4 times the amount of women that I've slept with. My standards are pretty high, so the 7.5's and below don't get a chance with me... I am shallow on the exterior, and I'll admit it. The thing is, on my quest I'm looking for a girl with a personality to macth her looks. She's gotta be cool, and those are hard to find. The problem is that most of the really hot ones are also incredibly screwed up in the head. Ther reality is not ours.... they are catered to hand and foot, just cause they're hot and it's really tough to get close to girls like that... most are social butterflies and have a zillion friends around them all the time.
I'm wrestling with my ego alot, because I want the really hot girl but most of the time they are a tremendous pain in the ass... most have a dozen guy "friends" calling all the time and their lives are mini soap operas (they like it, though)
You gotta distinguish yourself from the pack and let her know in subtle ways that her looks don't affect you. You gotta try and get inside her, beyond that Hot chick ***** persona, and talk to the real person.
That is no easy task. Even I get a bit tongue tied around really hot women from time to time, and I'm not a super social guy, either. I'm laid back, but I do have a crazy rockstar side that girls tend to gravitiate to.
I play in an upandcoming rock band, so that really helps.
I'd say do anythig you can to make yourself more attractive physically and otherwise. Fix yourself before you get involved with women.
The most attractive people are the ones who have their sh!t together, guys and girls..... That is #1.
If you're not so good in the looks department, then you really gotta think hard about what you want. People of the same caliber hang with the same people. You never see a perfect 10 with some fat slob..... Looks do matter, and the ugly guys will argue this til they're blue in the face, but it's the truth. She will judge you on your appearnce, way before you get a chance to open your mouth. If she doesn't think you're hot, then it'll be alot harder to talk to her without her being biased to your appearance.
Next is what you say, and how you say it. Everything should be cool, calm and relaxed. Don't pay too much attention to her, initially... you gotta balance between interested and not interested without looking desperate. It is really tricky.
Don't talk to much about jobs, school, weather... it's lame, and gets you nowhere...
You gotta bust on them, tret them like a bratty little sister, have some fun and give them some emotional highs and lows. Girls get off on feelings. Make her feel, and she will want you.
My biggest thing is buying signals. I keep an eye out for the girls who give me "the look" . It's an invite to go talk to them. When you see a girl that gives you that look, and she's your type just walk up to her and say hello. That's what I do, so my success rate for getting laid is high. I don't try and force attraction.... I go where I know it already exists.
This was just a random speal of ideas and I'm no literary master, al la pook and Fingers hehe
The Bad Ass Canadian
|09-19-2005, 07:15 PM||#2|
Senior Don Juan
Join Date: Jul 2005
Location: Las Vegas
Good post and it is simple and its not that hard to get a women. Lately I just dont give a Sh!it about my rep and focused on school and having fun.
Who cares if you got rejected 1,000 or 1 time. At the end of highs shchool/ college/ or just off the streets/ people would not care and they would probably forget what a loser or how cool you are but they would remember seeing you change if you went to visit them...... not sure it made sense.
Just make a move who cares if your friends disagrees that you made a move on a chick and they didnt. Its what you want and not what they want.
The hot and preppy chix with alot of guy friends it tottaly true just dont even pay attention to them because fcuk them and thier reality because its Its my reality Now!! and keep saying that to yourself.
As for being more sociable just be nice/cool around everyone. And i mean everyone. Like this week I met like 30 people and they were from myschool and I would of never say hi to them last year because I was to shy and lacked of self confidence. But this year I am the MAN the one having my own reality and having say who wants to be in it.
Sorry for the long ass post but I had to speak my mind out.
Dont give a SH!T of what people think as long as you know what you want and go for it.
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