Wow, I don't get some of these replies. It's obvious to me that these guys have no options and they insult me for putting my best interest ahead of me. I canceled the date with her and rescheduled another. What's wrong with that? Nothing. She was the one who started in playing games with me. She has probably done the same thing to other men. Why are you guys defending her?
Nickface said:
Lol are you serious? Do you not think your coming off as being a ****? So you automatically assume every chick is the same way?
That's ok though. Flake on a potential good one so us decent guys can get a chance. I can tell what she did got to you because your writing on a forum and you thought she was rude. You pretty much lost in terms of who has the upper hand here.
No, I don't think I'm coming off an as a$$hole. I'm not sure why you would think that I am. Why am I an a$$hole for making the best choice for me at that particular time? And I'm not assuming anything. So, I'm not a decent guy for getting something that I want? LOL :crackup:
Yes, she was rude to send me a text like. After she made a point in asking me to go out again another time. Why don't you see it that way?
She's a good one? You've never even met her. So how would you know. A good one doesn't play sh!tty games. That's what she is doing.
How did I lose? I banged another chick that night. The date with her could have been a bust. That's why I chose the better offer. And that makes me an a$$hole or not a decent guy? I didn't reply to her text and I chose not to go out with her. I had the say in what I wanted. That's having the upper hand as far as I'm concerned.
Let me ask you something, what do you do when a chick flakes on you? You probably can't wait to ask her out again. So, why is it that I'm an a$$hole for doing that, and when a chick does that to a guy it's ok? If you were presented with a better offer, would you not take it?
sharkbeat said:
No, sometimes people really can't make it because of a very good reason. You did that, and sometimes women also did that. We are living in a modern age now where women have life more than men. Women don't just stay at home like it used to be. So it's only natural for people, men or women, to be busy and have other things going.
I'm not questioning her reason. I'm questioning the rudeness in the text she sent me yesterday. There was no need for that. She is playing games with me. There's no reason why I can't break a date with someone if something better comes up. True, but most of the time women will flake because they have another dude they go out with.
sharkbeat said:
It is YOUR ego that got hurt because a chick did that to you.
She thought that you were playing games by flaking on her. People can't read your mind, man. It doesn't matter whether it's a legit excuse, it still hurts when you are on other side.
She is the one playing games as far as I'm concerned. I'm not going to play them with her.
If she thought I was playing games before, she wouldn't have set up another date for yesterday. She wouldn't have been texting me either. I told her I couldn't make the date and that was the truth.
4north1side2 said:
Pretty much. That work excuse was mad lame and she saw straight thru it, she knew she wasn't your priority so now she's making plans with someone else who will make her a priority.
If your going to be a playa, make sure your game is tight.
My excuse wasn't lame. She knew that I had to work last Thursday. Which I did. I told her before that my hours change even before we set up the date. Which they do.
Again, this chick probably lied and flaked on guys before. So, I'm the bad guy for doing what she has done to other guys?. yeah, right. :crackup:
Why are you defending her for being rude? Let me ask you something, would you not take a better offer when it's presented to you? You are giving your wrong opinions in which you know nothing about
backseatjuan said:
Dude, you're crazy!
She wasn't feeling alright and went home, and told you about it, nothing to it.
You favored a date with another woman to her date, you basically was faking another girl. What you expect?
Why do you get all emotional like a homo when a chick gets sick?
So, you're telling me that chicks don't flake on a guy to go out with another man? yeah, ok. :crazy:
I don't care about the fact that she was sick. She sent me a rude text out of the blue. There was no need for that. Yes, I did favor another chick because it was a guaranteed lay. So what? She didn't know that. Chicks do that all the time to guys. Would you pass up a lay for a chick you don't know all that well? I took the best option between the two that night. There's nothing wrong with that. Why do you sound like a dumbass calling me a lame name and not knowing all the facts? Her being sick doesn't matter. The rude text does, after she was excited for the date.
YAboi said:
call her and say " babe it ain't even like that . Let me make it up to you on xxxyz day "
No, I'm not going to call her or say that. She sent the rude text and flaked. So, it's up to her to call me. I'm not going to chase her or play her games.
G_Govan said:
I haven't been to these forums in a long while and I must say, with the exception of El Payaso, you've been getting some terrible feedback.
Yes, the feedback is terrible. The last 3 posts evened out the bad ones. I get discredited by these guys and they take the side of a chick whom they never even met.
G_Govan said:
Even if you decided to flake because you wanted to sit on the couch and scratch your balls while watching a football game, there would still be nothing wrong in doing so, it's your prerogative. You don't owe her anything except a notice of cancellation, which you provided.
You're damn right.
G_Govan said:
It's pretty obvious she flaked on you out of spite and you correctly picked up on it. The text she sent was pretty much screaming it..
And to carry it on for 5 days is pretty sh!tty
G_Govan said:
Since you've already ignored the text, I would contact her at a later date and pretend like you never paid much attention to the comment, if she brings it up that is. As long as she doesn't continue to act like a b-tch, proceed as you normally would.
This advice defeats the whole purpose. Why should I contact her and play along with her game? That's what she wants me to do. She wants me to call and text to give me the run around. I'm not going to chase her. If she wants to get back in contact with me, then she can. I broke the first date and rescheduled. Now it's her turn to do that. To be honest, her attitude turned me off. If she's into playing these games even before a date, imagine what she does normally.
G_Govan said:
Women, especially of the westernized variety are used to being in the driver's seat in relationships or at least pulling the strings, at all times. This probably threw her for a loop and pissed her off. It's to be expected.
Do not apologize. Do not behave in anyway like what you did was wrong. In other words, maintain congruency. This was nothing more than a sh-t test. If she's too far gone, let her go. That's the whole point of spinning plates, don't let these guys throw you off your game.
I don't intend to apologize. I did nothing wrong. I'm not going to listen to obvious bad advice. Thanks for your feedback.
