Uncharted
Master Don Juan
Got a nice surprise today:
In February, I met a girl in a class. We flirted almost every time we saw each other. I got her number, asked her out, she said something like "well my boyfriend probably wouldn't like it." I responded "Yeah he probably wouldn't trust you around me. Let me know when you break up and we'll hang out if I don't have a girlfriend then." Confidently and calmly, not mad at all.
Then when I saw her in class, I did not ignore her. I kept everything the same. Flirting, smiling, talking to her - maybe a little more reserved than before. But I didn't text or call, I didn't ask her to hang out, I didn't talk to her about her boyfriend. I didn't go out of my way to talk to her, but if I saw her I treated her like a regular person (or a low priority plate). I also flirted with other girls in class. Our last class was around May 5th.
Today I get a text from the girl:
HB: Hi what's up?
Me: Hey there miss what's up with you?
HB: Haha nothing much just enjoying the sunshine.
HB: So I was thinking we should hang out
Date set. I'm assuming she broke up with her boyfriend. Even if not I will escalate until she tells me she's not single.
I know everyone here is quick to next/NC a girl with a boyfriend, but if you plant the seed that she can feel free to contact you, you have nothing to lose. Some people say "that's being beta". Who gives a sh!t if you're "nexting" her anyway. Just act like the rejection doesn't affect you and if something happens, it happens. You may get a nice surprise.
In February, I met a girl in a class. We flirted almost every time we saw each other. I got her number, asked her out, she said something like "well my boyfriend probably wouldn't like it." I responded "Yeah he probably wouldn't trust you around me. Let me know when you break up and we'll hang out if I don't have a girlfriend then." Confidently and calmly, not mad at all.
Then when I saw her in class, I did not ignore her. I kept everything the same. Flirting, smiling, talking to her - maybe a little more reserved than before. But I didn't text or call, I didn't ask her to hang out, I didn't talk to her about her boyfriend. I didn't go out of my way to talk to her, but if I saw her I treated her like a regular person (or a low priority plate). I also flirted with other girls in class. Our last class was around May 5th.
Today I get a text from the girl:
HB: Hi what's up?
Me: Hey there miss what's up with you?
HB: Haha nothing much just enjoying the sunshine.
HB: So I was thinking we should hang out
Date set. I'm assuming she broke up with her boyfriend. Even if not I will escalate until she tells me she's not single.
I know everyone here is quick to next/NC a girl with a boyfriend, but if you plant the seed that she can feel free to contact you, you have nothing to lose. Some people say "that's being beta". Who gives a sh!t if you're "nexting" her anyway. Just act like the rejection doesn't affect you and if something happens, it happens. You may get a nice surprise.