Stop Sucking!

[Progress]

Most of you posters here suck ass! I mean REALLY suck it.

Why?

You're posting.


Once upon a time
...there was a big bad lurker who sat there and read through the very same forum you're looking at right now. He had no name, but that didn't matter, he was eager to learn and discuss! He was overwhelmed by all the new information, thought that some bits were more sensible than others, and decided to help out with some of the bleating about 'this girl':


Newbie 1: theres this 1 girl in my class, she always sits next to me and we see each other drunk sometimes but i think i did something wrong as she takes a while to reply to my texts now and i dunno what to do

Ex-Lurker: Hey Bro! Wait a while before you send your texts, to make you seem like you're the man and busy with your life.


And so the advice seeker went on his way, armed with this knowledge, and tried it out! He found he now had a supa-secret weapon with which to text. He thought he was the man, being all busy counting minutes and making her wait for his massive schlong, when in actual fact, he was behaving like a girl.

Most of your theories, techniques, 'magic tricks' and discussion topics are bull****, and simply represent something to obsess over other than the fact you aren't living your life.


Lets pretend...

Would you alter whether or not you would have sex with someone based on (from one glance at the front page):

1) When they text.
2) How they greeted you.
3) Whether or not you thought a date was 'casual' or not.
4) Whether people who have never met either party involved think flirting was going on based on a cursory description on an anonymous forum.

NONE OF IT MATTERS AT ALL

The most important mindset you need to learn is this:

I'm not trying to find out whether I'm good enough for her.
I'm trying to find out whether I think she's good enough for me.

N.B.
There are tonnes of people posting who admit to huge flaws in their interactions with women yet insist on giving advice. Great if you can talk to women, even get a number!

But if you can't consistently pull women if the first 10 seconds has gone well, don't post advice that you read somewhere else. All you're doing is giving people, with the exact same problems as you, one more thing to think about, when all you both need to do is clear your head.

Please bear that in mind when posting, I only wish people had when I first found this place.

[Lord Shinra]

Most of your theories, techniques, 'magic tricks' and discussion topics are bull****, and simply represent something to obsess over other than the fact you aren't living your life.

I honestly always took the theories etc like mystery method as more of a guide on what to do then how to do something.
I dont go out dressed like a goth and try magic tricks or spit out canned lines verbatim, I took the message and adapted it to my style of game. And I havent looked back since.

I agree, though, some people take it too far. There is no silver bullet. This is just being shown the door, its up to you to open it.

[metoo]

I"ve never been interested in "game", that's just one more thing for women to hold against men. Nowadays, she's not risking pregnancy to have sex with you, the way women all did over 50 years ago, but she IS risking deadly diseases, even with condom use, actually. If all you think of is running up the number of your scores, you really should be horsewhipped, not admired.

[zekko]

'm not trying to find out whether I'm good enough for her.
I'm trying to find out whether I think she's good enough for me.

I like your post, Progress, but what often happens is this:
The guy decides she IS good enough for him (she may even be exactly what he's looking for - in other words, she was hot). And then she dumps him for some other guy.

Of course at that point I guess he'd have to say "she's not good enough for me", but it's a little disingenuous considering he's just been dumped.
The guy can say that she wasn't really what he was looking for, since she didn't appreciate him.

[Alex DeLarge]

Good post man. I agree..

However, some of Mystery's theories are really spot on. This is the guy I first looked to when I found out about "game".

I've done peacocking before (In my own personal way, I'm a rock and roll musician so I can pull it off with the bullet belts engineer boots etc..). It fvcking works dude. I've had so many girls grab my jacket and ask me about it, ask me if I had a gun (cause of the bullet belt thing) and sh1t like that. Stupid conversation starters, but it works. Tattoos work in this respect too.

Neg hits are phenomenal if you throw them the right way. Don't be an ass to the girl, just tease her about something silly. Sometimes when a girl gets b1tchy with you back she's just teasing you back too.

The thing most of the newer PUA guys don't understand though, is that when you just stick to a script.. You're going to run out of game to spit. You gotta let it flow naturally. I pretty much apply the mystery method to my game spot on, I just don't script everything. I let it all happen through natural conversation and observation of environment.

If I see a girl who I want to talk to, there's gotta be something that draws me to her, and I'll talk about that.

ex: "Wow, nice dog! what breed is it?", "Hey I like your jacket, where'd you pick that up?" and so on..

If you want to approach a girl, there's always something to talk about.

probably 90% of getting girls is having the balls to approach the other 10% is the balls to get them into bed and fvck them.

[EvilAgenda]

The most important mindset you need to learn is this:

I'm not trying to find out whether I'm good enough for her.
I'm trying to find out whether I think she's good enough for me.

+1
Most of guys here don't even know what they want in a girl. They oughtta start there.

[BigSmooth]

That's why I am more interested in posting/reading about how to better oneself as a person, and as a man who wants to take control of his life, and the way he lives.


Learning/posting tactics, tricks, techniques are all good and fun, but if your lifestyle and your mentality doesn't fit into that, if that's not you, it doesn't matter what you say.


Step 1. Better yourself first as a true man. You are not a "nice guy" or a "jerk". You should aim to be a strong confident leader and gentleman and overall "jolly good fellow" who takes what he wants when he wants it, because he lives his life by his own rules.

[Allurre]

80 to 90 percent of attraction is a mental game.

[metoo]

if you ever amount to a hoot as a man, you will get over all this crap about women, eventually. I luckily got a big head start, cause the Army sent me to Okinawa and Korea, as a 19 year old, in 1972. I became AWARE that millions of lovely girls will do ALMOST ANYTHING to come to the US, at least for 5 yers, until they get US citizenship. that is plenty long enough for ME with any one gal. :-)

[ALittleAnarchy]

Originally Posted by Progress

And so the advice seeker went on his way, armed with this knowledge, and tried it out! He found he now had a supa-secret weapon with which to text. He thought he was the man, being all busy counting minutes and making her wait for his massive schlong, when in actual fact, he was behaving like a girl.

Most of your theories, techniques, 'magic tricks' and discussion topics are bull****, and simply represent something to obsess over other than the fact you aren't living your life.

In one instance for me, texting actually played a huge role in girl thinking I was clingy (not that I wasn't). If she ever texted me, I immediately sent a short text back. She stopped after awhile. I found out later that my texting freaked her out because it made it seem like I was needy.

I was living my life and doing what I wanted to do. But because of a somewhat arbitrary texting rule, a girl thought I was too clingy.