The Natural Progression of Sex in a Relationship
So my girlfriend used to always give me a BJ without my asking (I've never asked) whenever she's on the rag. Recently (past 3 periods or so) this behavior has changed. She'll still be affectionate and get all sexual with me, but no BJ (one time she even started going down, then just stopped and started making out with me, never to return down there).
I don't like it. Part of me says I'm being a whiny baby by not liking it, that you don't NEED an orgasm every day, and that making a deal out of it would be like a little kid crying because he doesn't get a cookie every time he wants one.
The other part of me thinks, dammit, I like orgasms, and I'd have easily had one (or 2 or 3) with a "fresh" girl.
And then another part of me is just concerned with the clear change that has taken place. So this is what it's like when she gets comfortable... this is how she really is (or closer to how she really is, perhaps the 'transformation' hasn't even finished!). It seemed before that one of her prime directives was keeping me sexually satisfied -- but clearly there was a motive deeper than keeping her man sexually satisfied -- a motive that is eroding.
Should I be asking for a BJ? (doesn't feel right to me). Should I be expecting one?
I know I've posted about this relationship before with concerns, and some may quickly conclude I should end it, but you have to realize I only come here with the concerns, so that's the only side you really see. I really am like 95% happy with her and the relationship (though not sure how this BJ thing will affect that percentage). She seems to totally respect me, and I know if I even hinted at this issue she'd apologize and go nuts on my junk, but my concern is more along the lines of what things will be like if we're still together years from now.
Does the sex always thin out as a relationship goes on? Is this just a fact of life? Do I have to accept that if I choose the relationship/marriage path? Am I even going to want as much sex in 10 years?
I really appreciate this forum. I don't have many people I can talk to about this stuff -- it seems like everyone is caught up in the matrix. (like they learned all there is to know from watching romantic comedies or something).
I am not yet a Don Juan. Many may scream "AFC!" But I know the depths of AFC Hell from which I have risen, and it is this distance that assures me I will someday reach the Kingdom of Don Juan.