I haven’t posted in a while as I have been busy. I have been reading some of the posts and been tempted to write some advice. As a result I thought I would write a bit of what I have learned in the past few months that I think will benefit some people.
If a woman feels you are attractive she will
Automatically think you are
Arrogant
A Player
Dangerous
Intelligent
A heartbreaker
A Good dancer
Whatever else she wants to think about you, or whatever she believes to be true about attractive men.
If a woman thinks you are a player and you are not You should let her believe what she wants to. Answer in very ambiguous ways. You trying to convince her that you are not a player will onlyhave negative affects.
She will either believe that you are not a player and will go looking for a player to tame. Or she will not believe you and you become a player and liar. If you feel compelled to change her mind on this only do it after you have her hooked. If you wonder whether you have her hooked or not you don’t.
If women think you are arrogant and men don’t then you are an attractive male.
People only think you are arrogant if they feel in some way inferior. Some times girls that think you are really talented at something might think you are arrogant and not think you are hot. But otherwise there is not really any reason for them to find you so arrogant other than they feel
you know that you can have any girl you want.
The ex does not want you back, let it go.
A great way to get a number, talk her up at
The height of your activity, say “We
should get together sometime, come find me before you leave and give me your number.” This puts no real pressure on her and you can be sure that if you get it she is interested. This also makes her decide
that night whether she is interested. I believe that if she decides at that moment she will have enough time to convince herself that she is really interested
but not enough time to change her mind. Some psychology gurus will have to make my argument complete.
The reason these games work so well is that very Few people consciously play games. These things are all done on the subconscious level for most people. For the
most part people want to believe they are good intelligent people and are looking for ways to justify their actions one way or another. When you do jerk type things you are not creating attraction but keeping it. “I put up with him because I really care about him” Doing an AFC thing every once in a while is ok even. The whole, It is ok because he must really like me line of thought. The important thoughts that they
should have come after the because.
I like the point of view taken by Destini on the three ways of Interacting. A girl will either 1) Approach, 2) Avoid, or
3) Not care about, you with each one meaning varying levels of interest. Refer to her stuff for that.
If you feel a girl is trying to put you into the friend zone and you do not feel like going quietly just keep up the ****y and funny along with as much kino as she will let you get away with. (Which is more than you think!!!) The last thing you want to do is try and open up to her in hopes that
she sees you as a new age sensitive guy. You do a little of this after you are with her and she thinks you are a player, if you do this at all.
If a girl feels in any way rejected by you she will eventually try and assert superiority over you. If you do not realize a girl is attracted to you and eventually she starts dating someone she has deemed “superior” to you she will subtly let you know that she is dating someone better. This often happens when a girl that you liked or were friends with you suddenly
treats you like crap when they get a boyfriend. Don’t take it personally, just realize they were attracted to you and you
did not act on it for whatever reason.
Girls with boyfriends may still be interested, while I don’t Believe I would pursue any girl with a bf for any sort of
Commited relationship, I would for fun. Girls with boyfriends will come onto you, they will willingly give you their numbers and so on. Then they will mention the bf. You really don't have to work hard to take them away at this point, they want you to di it.
When you are dating a girl she should always be aware that when push comes to shove you will walk away if you feel you have to. I am glad when girls tell me they feel insecure because although they know I like them it seems like I would have no problem walking away. That's right baby, I like you, but I don't need you(don't actually say this, just think it) I try and say something comforting while still emphasizing that they are right.
In conclusion these are some things I have learned that I feel some people still need to learn. Feel free to critique any of it. I
would enjoy a discussion on these points.
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The very first step to becoming what you want to be is to accept all responsibility for the situation you are in.
in short: quit whining!!!!!!!!!
Why should I care about her, because she looks good? She has given me no reason to care yet.
screw what's right, do what works.
[This message has been edited by comote (edited 12-05-2002).]
If a woman feels you are attractive she will
Automatically think you are
Arrogant
A Player
Dangerous
Intelligent
A heartbreaker
A Good dancer
Whatever else she wants to think about you, or whatever she believes to be true about attractive men.
If a woman thinks you are a player and you are not You should let her believe what she wants to. Answer in very ambiguous ways. You trying to convince her that you are not a player will onlyhave negative affects.
She will either believe that you are not a player and will go looking for a player to tame. Or she will not believe you and you become a player and liar. If you feel compelled to change her mind on this only do it after you have her hooked. If you wonder whether you have her hooked or not you don’t.
If women think you are arrogant and men don’t then you are an attractive male.
People only think you are arrogant if they feel in some way inferior. Some times girls that think you are really talented at something might think you are arrogant and not think you are hot. But otherwise there is not really any reason for them to find you so arrogant other than they feel
you know that you can have any girl you want.
The ex does not want you back, let it go.
A great way to get a number, talk her up at
The height of your activity, say “We
should get together sometime, come find me before you leave and give me your number.” This puts no real pressure on her and you can be sure that if you get it she is interested. This also makes her decide
that night whether she is interested. I believe that if she decides at that moment she will have enough time to convince herself that she is really interested
but not enough time to change her mind. Some psychology gurus will have to make my argument complete.
The reason these games work so well is that very Few people consciously play games. These things are all done on the subconscious level for most people. For the
most part people want to believe they are good intelligent people and are looking for ways to justify their actions one way or another. When you do jerk type things you are not creating attraction but keeping it. “I put up with him because I really care about him” Doing an AFC thing every once in a while is ok even. The whole, It is ok because he must really like me line of thought. The important thoughts that they
should have come after the because.
I like the point of view taken by Destini on the three ways of Interacting. A girl will either 1) Approach, 2) Avoid, or
3) Not care about, you with each one meaning varying levels of interest. Refer to her stuff for that.
If you feel a girl is trying to put you into the friend zone and you do not feel like going quietly just keep up the ****y and funny along with as much kino as she will let you get away with. (Which is more than you think!!!) The last thing you want to do is try and open up to her in hopes that
she sees you as a new age sensitive guy. You do a little of this after you are with her and she thinks you are a player, if you do this at all.
If a girl feels in any way rejected by you she will eventually try and assert superiority over you. If you do not realize a girl is attracted to you and eventually she starts dating someone she has deemed “superior” to you she will subtly let you know that she is dating someone better. This often happens when a girl that you liked or were friends with you suddenly
treats you like crap when they get a boyfriend. Don’t take it personally, just realize they were attracted to you and you
did not act on it for whatever reason.
Girls with boyfriends may still be interested, while I don’t Believe I would pursue any girl with a bf for any sort of
Commited relationship, I would for fun. Girls with boyfriends will come onto you, they will willingly give you their numbers and so on. Then they will mention the bf. You really don't have to work hard to take them away at this point, they want you to di it.
When you are dating a girl she should always be aware that when push comes to shove you will walk away if you feel you have to. I am glad when girls tell me they feel insecure because although they know I like them it seems like I would have no problem walking away. That's right baby, I like you, but I don't need you(don't actually say this, just think it) I try and say something comforting while still emphasizing that they are right.
In conclusion these are some things I have learned that I feel some people still need to learn. Feel free to critique any of it. I
would enjoy a discussion on these points.
------------------
The very first step to becoming what you want to be is to accept all responsibility for the situation you are in.
in short: quit whining!!!!!!!!!
Why should I care about her, because she looks good? She has given me no reason to care yet.
screw what's right, do what works.
[This message has been edited by comote (edited 12-05-2002).]
