"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Changing just a few words in your approach, can make a huge difference!

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Robert Jordon

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So your in love with a particular girl and you want to know how you can get to know her better. Instead of going right out and asking her on a date, you can simply invite her to study with you at the library or join you for lunch. I have found that by wording things a certain way, my succuss in this area has gone through the roof. for example:

APPROACH #1(The wrong way) "Do you want to come with me to the library?" - This kind of makes you sound despirate and makes it seem as though your afraid of going alone or something. where as the next approach almost always succeeds!

APPROACH #@(The ideal way) "I'm on my way to the library, you welcome to join me." - Here your showing her that you would like her company, but you don't need it! Your showing her that wether she goes with you or not makes no difference to you whatsoever. And this is far favorable an impression to make on her that the first approach.



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Rob,
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Thumbs up... That's a good post.
 
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Great advice!

Here's a guy that is using strategy to do BETTER. You gotta have a plan, man.

A small change does get better results. It's TRUE!

Here's me when I was a 'nice guy': "I'd LOVE to take you to dinner next week". Totally true.
And a TOTAL LOSER! How desperate can a guy be? Very!

Now the 'small change' as Robert says: "What's your number?" Her: "You better call me." Me: (just a smile....and a four day wait!). Now I look like I can live without her.

Make those 'small changes' like Robert says. Tonight!

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Its all in the disguise. You make it seem like you are the man, although we all know shaft was the man.

Nice tip, Rob.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How about making a small change to even your technique


Damn big test coming up, I'm gonna have to go over to the library to study.... actually you know what i'll give yea permission to join me as well, you can keep me entertained if i ever get bored.... a funny girl like your self is always good because a guy can never laugh to much

That time u actually GIVE HER permission to join u....do u see the alpha-ness in that
 
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Originally posted by Sun-Tan Superman:

That time u actually GIVE HER permission to join u....do u see the alpha-ness in that
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