Hey guys,
I have this friend, actually my best friend since childhood, he´s a great guy, he can fare reasonably well with women but when it comes to relationships he inevitably goes totally afc, he has the mindset of the perfect special woman and does everything to please them, presents, stressing special occasions, stuff like that. Well, his last gf just dumped him 2 or 3 months ago, he wanted to get back to her really bad, so I coached him for a while and things were looking good but he couldnt keep it up and just went back to his afc thing, leaving her presents on the car, calling her, getting really frustrated when she gave him the cold shoulder, stuff like that.
Long story short, I´ve been trying to "convert" him, feeding him selected posts and articles, explaining certain mechanics to him, but he just dismisses this as nonsense and something that could never possible work and just makes fun of it. Well, I can understand where´s hes coming from, it does seem to good to be true at first and on the other hand he has this notion that this approach would take romance out of life. Thing is, im starting to feel like banging my had on the wall everytime he starts complaining about his situation.
Any ideas if its possible to "convert" someone like this, or he´ll just have to crash and burn until he learns?
Thanks guys.
I have this friend, actually my best friend since childhood, he´s a great guy, he can fare reasonably well with women but when it comes to relationships he inevitably goes totally afc, he has the mindset of the perfect special woman and does everything to please them, presents, stressing special occasions, stuff like that. Well, his last gf just dumped him 2 or 3 months ago, he wanted to get back to her really bad, so I coached him for a while and things were looking good but he couldnt keep it up and just went back to his afc thing, leaving her presents on the car, calling her, getting really frustrated when she gave him the cold shoulder, stuff like that.
Long story short, I´ve been trying to "convert" him, feeding him selected posts and articles, explaining certain mechanics to him, but he just dismisses this as nonsense and something that could never possible work and just makes fun of it. Well, I can understand where´s hes coming from, it does seem to good to be true at first and on the other hand he has this notion that this approach would take romance out of life. Thing is, im starting to feel like banging my had on the wall everytime he starts complaining about his situation.
Any ideas if its possible to "convert" someone like this, or he´ll just have to crash and burn until he learns?
Thanks guys.