Female friend trying to branch swing to me...lol.

So me and this girl have been friends for years. I knew she liked me, and she's a sweet girl. But as the saying goes "a great personality doesn't get my dvck hard". She's not all that cute, but she's nice enough. Anyway I haven't really been talking to any of my female friends on the regular lately (why give that attention to them when I could be out giving it to new girls). So this one pops up in my life, calls me everyday askes for advice about her boyfriend(which I fail to give, i dont want to be involved) and eventually tells me she broke up with him. Now over the last two days she's made hints that she should be my girlfriend and that I should take her out on a date. Which is funny to me.

The thing is...I know too much about her. I know about her past history. I know all about the guys she's dated. I know how often she has cheated on men. I know how she's tried to steal other peoples boyfriends. I know about the drug use which still goes on. I know everything. Why would I want to date her? LOL.

She tried qualifying herself telling me how she knows better than to cheat anymore, that she doesn't do drugs AS MUCH! LOL! That her tits have gotten bigger (she was a stick). LOL. I was nice and didn't say anything to hurt her feelings, but honestly..has she forgotten that I know her?

Anyway she wants to come down next weekend and spend the weekend with me. I told her if she takes me out for dinner and drinks she can come down, which she agreed to. LOL. Then she started pouting "the man is suppose to take the woman out!" I just laughed. I told her she could take me shopping too.

I'm not even trying to hit it. Gonna keep her in the friendzone, but she can buy me stuff if she wants to. LOL. Years ago I would have just been happy to have some girl interested in me. Now I know what I want and don't want. Don't settle bros. But they wanna spend that cash...let em.

Warrior74 said:

I'm not even trying to hit it. Gonna keep her in the friendzone, but she can buy me stuff if she wants to. LOL. Years ago I would have just been happy to have some girl interested in me. Now I know what I want and don't want. Don't settle bros. But they wanna spend that cash...let em.

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So basically you are low class and use them?

That's not a DJ movement I would say! You should rather explain to her what's the situation rather than making her paying things! You should be kind with those creatures!!

DonJuanit0 out!!

yeah i would say make your intentions clear. this could get ugly and ruin the friendship you start pimpin her....

obviously

mrRuckus said:

So basically you are low class and use them?

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Yes. Just like those low class girls who used you and pimped you into buying drinks and paying for **** for them when you were an AFC.

DonJuanit0 said:

That's not a DJ movement I would say! You should rather explain to her what's the situation rather than making her paying things! You should be kind with those creatures!!

DonJuanit0 out!!

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I'm not a DJ. I'm a mack. And I am kind. I give her my time and attention. If I was kinder I would give her some dyck. Her paying for dinner and maybe a shirt or two is her appreciation of my time and attention.

DavenJuan said:

yeah i would say make your intentions clear. this could get ugly and ruin the friendship you start pimpin her....

obviously

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I won't let her catch feelings. It's just fun to hold all the cards. I won't pimp her too hard. Just dinner.

I'd tell her from the get-go that it's cool if we go out for drinks and dinner but only as friends, or continuously mention that word "friend" in your interactions so she sees the hint. But if she continues to get the wrong idea then that's her fault entirely.

To quote Vesper Lynd from Casino Royale :

You see women as disposable objects rather than meaningful pursuits.

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Really man, congrats if thats what you want. Not very classy to keep a girl hanging though.

You guys make a big deal about nothing.
If you buy someone dinner its cool, when someone buys you dinner it stops being cool?
That's AFC-ism.
And i don't want to hear about "but she is girl etc" she a grown dam women who tries to steal boyfriends. Where are grown dam men here?
She'll probably get him a bigmac and coke! Whats the big deal.

And whats up with the OP not telling her like it is? Tell her now about her futile chance or rest assured there will be drama in the near future.

WesCottII said:

To quote Vesper Lynd from Casino Royale :



Really man, congrats if thats what you want. Not very classy to keep a girl hanging though.

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Weak quote there buddy. If she was disposable she wouldn't be a friend to begin with. standby for the next message to see where you went wrong in your thinking. I'm here to teach ya!

oK THAnkzz!!

You'Re so cool azz and wize!

ZenGodMod said:

You guys make a big deal about nothing.
If you buy someone dinner its cool, when someone buys you dinner it stops being cool?
That's AFC-ism.
And i don't want to hear about "but she is girl etc" she a grown dam women who tries to steal boyfriends. Where are grown dam men here?
She'll probably get him a bigmac and coke! Whats the big deal.

And whats up with the OP not telling her like it is? Tell her now about her futile chance or rest assured there will be drama in the near future.

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Dood. I handle mine, so there won't be any drama, I'm not some AFC who puts up with **** from females. I have no problems putting people in their place when they try to bring drama. Which is why I'm not hitting it. And telling her upfront would really ruin our friendship. I'm not a friend anymore in her eyes. She's switched me to the frontburner. She's made several statements revealing that and she's been calling and texting constantly.

She's already hurting from breaking up with this guy. He's a player who refuses to stop sleeping around. You think me rejecting her is gonna make her feel better? nope! We'll go out and have fun as friends. Later I can let her down gently. You guys are a bunch of douches who would kick a girl while she's down. I'm gonna let her take me out and have a good time and not get involved sexually. Yall just hating on my mackish attitude and demeanor instead of actually thinking this all through. Knee jerk reactions are awsome! SoSymp FTL! haha.

You big brained guys here should be analyzing this womans mindset, the true nature of branch swinging and how women use men's attention for validation, instead of hating on a mack. You should be analyzing why this girl is trying to use a decent (I won't use the word nice, I'm beyond that nice guy stuff) guy when she really wants to be with another guy. If I was an afc I'd be like "wow! this is my chance!" but I'm not.

When's the last time anyone of you so called DJ's got a girl to buy you something? Anything? From one of your 'Plates"? If you are really the prize you should be showered with gifts. You should be the opposite of an AFC who spends his dough on broads. They should spend their dough on you! You are better than all the other men out there right? So why shouldn't they? You deserve it. But then again you don't really believe that. I'm better than you. I deserve women who will spend their hard earned cash on me. Money is the highest form of flattery. We can spend cash on each other...it doesn't have to be a one way street. But ladies first!

ps. We are going out for a nice steak dinner. hate on haters.

Hey Warrior,

Nothing to hate on here, at least not from my angle. But I'm wondering why you keep labeling yourself as a mack? Can't you just be a really cool fun guy that women are drawn to? That's what I see myself as, but I don't say it.... oopsy I just did

Really though, I think you're taking this a bit out of context, you really shouldn't care what we have to say. You should know in any situation you're never going to get 100% of people agreeing with you. What was the point of starting this thread anyway? To brag or to give a learning lesson? Either way I think you got the right intentions and mindset and hats off to you.

And have fun on that date!

Social Calibration said:

Hey Warrior,

Nothing to hate on here, at least not from my angle. But I'm wondering why you keep labeling yourself as a mack? Can't you just be a really cool fun guy that women are drawn to? That's what I see myself as, but I don't say it.... oopsy I just did

Really though, I think you're taking this a bit out of context, you really shouldn't care what we have to say. You should know in any situation you're never going to get 100% of people agreeing with you. What was the point of starting this thread anyway? To brag or to give a learning lesson? Either way I think you got the right intentions and mindset and hats off to you.

And have fun on that date!

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That's just what we call it around my way. "macking a girl" players play, but macks get paid. The ladder goes like this....

Johns (who pay for hors)
Symps (AFCs - female sympathizers)
Squares (the average guy, you know, the one with a wife or girlfriend)
Players (bunch of girls he's sexing)
Macks (bunch of girls he's sexing who buys him stuff)
Pimps (you already know what this is about)

I'm not really a mack. I don't have a bunch of women. I don't have time for it. But I'd rather call myself a mack than a "DJ" i think its a lame term. It's just some flavor, keeping it mackish. I'm a pretty fun guy, a few women are drawn to me. So yah...if there is a name for that besides "DJ" then yah I'll be that.

I really don't care what you guys have to say, but it's fun to see the responses from those who are still climbing the ladder. You can spot their progress by their responses.

Hopefuly they will learn something or in time come back and see where they should have been thinking differently. You never know. On drop in the pond has ripples.

Plus I've been bored at work and sitting around staring at a computer for the last couple of weeks trying to get things done. So I've had nothing better to do than to post on forums while I work on my projects.

Right or wrong at least Warrior have turned the tables and thats the main message here.

I would drop kick this girl if I were in your place. I only have like 2 female friends and they're only my friends because they're bartenders who make me free drinks. They both know I am never to be remotely concidered as a boyfriend or hook up and they are absolutely never to inteviene in anyway when I'm gaming period. I tried being not so strict with friends who are girls in the past and it always ends up badly for them because they get emotional about the time we spend together. When you develop trust with a woman, they find security and security is attraction number one for 99.9 percent of women. So I never go down that road under any circumstances.

ZenGodMod said:

You guys make a big deal about nothing.
If you buy someone dinner its cool, when someone buys you dinner it stops being cool?
That's AFC-ism.
And i don't want to hear about "but she is girl etc" she a grown dam women who tries to steal boyfriends. Where are grown dam men here?
She'll probably get him a bigmac and coke! Whats the big deal.

And whats up with the OP not telling her like it is? Tell her now about her futile chance or rest assured there will be drama in the near future.

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Da$m beat me to it. Girls do this type of thing all the time while leading a dude on. Even if he tells her she will still try up until he stop returning her calls.

OP go have fun, but please let her know.