Master Don Juan
Join Date: Jun 2002
Location: Hermosa Beach, CA
Do YOU know how to wing? The Wing Rules by The One
So you think you know how to wing...
Topic: WING Rules 1 (1 of 1), Read 1 times
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Date: Wednesday, February 18, 2004 08:11 PM
Wing Rules 1
I wrote these posts on Mystery’s lounge originally, but so many people, including TD, have told me to start cross posting them for the benefit of others out here.
It’s extremely difficult to find good wings. Firstly, you can’t really wing with people not in the community, and secondly, you can’t even wing effectively with many of the people in the community.
My sincere hope is that people can use these to benefit their game out there!
Here is the first “Wing Rules” post written October 2003:
What makes a great wingman????
This topic has been on my mind for the last few days so here is a short essay about it. Like to get feedback on your experience.
A great wingman can increase your game to a much higher level, while a bad
wingman cause a lot of crash and burns.
However, be advised that a great PUA does not automatically a great Wingman make.
There are guidelines and then there are tactics that are crucial to being a great wingman.
Rules and guidelines:
A. The most basic agreement: Your wingman is the coolest, funniest, most
interesting person around.
He does not really tell bad jokes, he is never boring, and he is always the
coolest guy around.
B. The second agreement: He who opens the set controls the set.
Your wingman opens a 2-set consisting of a 6 and 9. OK, Sherlock, take a wild guess as to which one his target is? Yes, the hotter girl.
The guy who opens the set controls the set. He is the one who put his balls on the line to approach and open the set. The first 30 to 45 seconds are the toughest parts of the set. The guy who opens is the one who at times fights the butterflies, weathers the storm and takes the heat.
He is also unlocking, teasing and negging the target HB in order to soften her up for the close or isolation. You coming in and going after the target would be equivalent of relieving your buddy in the 10th round of a boxing match after your buddy just softened up the opponent for 9 full rounds.
*****Calibrate, calibrate, calibrate:
Before entering the set that your pal just opened, calibrate to see where he is in the set.
Example: Are the girls locked up? You may have to go in with a false disqualifier to help him out.
Do not enter set blindly and start spitting routines. Calibrate before making your move.
Establish a system of communication and CALIBRATE.
If your wingman is in Rapport phase where is doing some fluff talk and
comfort building, realize it and back off. Going into the set and running
routines at this point is essentially cockblocking him. You might as well
be the ****ing "Drag-away" girl at this point.
One of my favorite all time wings is Dreamweaver [DW.]
DW and I have a system of communication. It's sort of like girl code,
except it's PUA code.
If DW rolls up, I'll introduce him, but then give him one of 3 different signs.
One of which mean that I am in Rapport Phase! I am comfort building. Don't come in
with mini-cold or cocky/funny routines. Calling the girls "Power-puff" at
this point is obstructive. (Never mind the fact that I may have already used
More on communication: DW and I run a lot of the same routines. We are running Tyler Durden’s version of the Mystery Method.
If he rolls up, I'll introduce the girls to him as "Hey, this one is my new little
sister, and I am marrying this one, blha, blah....."
Translation: Little Sister and Marriage frames/routines are burnt! Do
not use them!
Do not face girls standing side to side. Face your wingman. He is cooler than the chicks. As a matter of fact, they [Girls] should be attempting to break into your circle of fun, and becoming part of it.
DW and I run routines that we would not be able to do solo. When we bust on the girls (During attract phase), WE HIGH-FIVE Each other! Girls can see that we can have fun with or without them. In fact, such antics have prompted comments such as “You guys are having too much fun!”
Social proof your wingman in front of his target. Tell stories about him which he cannot tell himself.
Let’s say your wing has a certain skill or certification (i.e Great Martial Artist, musician, real estate guru, certified hypnotist, whatever). He can’t really talk about it because it would be bragging or qualifying himself. It would make him look very AFC.
However, if you say it about him, it’s coming from a third party and it makes all the difference in the world. You can even take it a step further.
Here is something I do that you can use as well:
The following champions and lionizes your wingman exponentially.
If or When your wingman steps away for a minute, brag about him in a nonchalant way:
“Hey, did you guys know that my wingman is one of the best in such and such field? Don’t mention it in front of him (or don’t tell him I told you that.) He does not like to brag.”
“Did you know Mystery levitated over Niagara Falls? It was pretty awesome, etc, etc….Don’t tell him I told you about that. He doesn’t like bragging....”
Now, how ****ing cool is that?
Not only your wingman is so accomplished, but he is so damn cool, confident, secure, and modest that he would not like it mentioned!
Lastly, many a time, Wingmen behave similar to antibodies. For those who need to brush up on elementary biology: When foreign organisms enters the body, the body produces antibodies which attach themselves to these invaders and destroy them.
Great wingmen are like having these antibodies. They latch on to the obstacles and disarm them meanwhile giving you the opportunity to work on your target.
Follow these and Ye shall be a great wingman too, one day.