PLEASE help me sort this one-itis confusion

j8snx1 · 05-16-2006, 01:53 AM

guys im a bit confused on what to do.

my ex still claims she wants to be with me but then she "doesnt want to be in a relationship right now. she feels like being crowded by emotions." Yet she was real straightforward when she told me that shes into this sophmore guy @ school.

she's supposedly crowded by emotions when she says she emotionally is distant from her friends. i see her laughing her head off with her friends, but she rarely talks to me. im beginning to get ticked off. call it one-itis, but i really want things to work out again, esp. since we're going to prom together, i want it to be a couples' night, not just friends night.

i dunno guys, im so confused now. i want to respect myself and just say "you know what, you don't know what you want, and it seems like i'm not part of what you want." and just let it go from there

but i also want to make things right again you know? this girl was really something to me..but now this is getting very bizarre

should i
A) tell her what i said up there and end it now
B) let things fall into place, keep up my dj methods even around her, which might want her to come back to me.

if option A: how should i say it?

if option B: how should i behave in order to be a challenge?

Damian · 05-16-2006, 01:57 AM

Get on with your own life. Don't alienate her, but keep her around as a friend. Go flirt with other girls and let her SEE you flirt with other girls. Right now this girl is playing the "hot/cold" game on you to try and lure you in. Be calm, collected, and detach yourself from her drama. Live your own life. Go game up some other girls, man.

-Damian

Zerotwoonenine · 05-16-2006, 04:17 AM

just next her ass, she doesnt want you,trust me. When girls say they are not ready for any relationship, she means she is not ready for a relationship with you, so my advice is, definitely end it. Dont even go for two options, just next her.

Skilla_Staz · 05-16-2006, 05:46 AM

Excuses excuses. Tell her you're not looking for mind games. Leave. Get another broad. One-itis is a lame excuse to get abused. Fifty bucks says she's ready for a relationship, she's just keeping you around for a booty call when she gets desperate.

Next.

Bloke · 05-16-2006, 05:55 AM

" **** that b*tch.

You never knew her.

You'd prolly screw her & dump her body in the sewer ! "

Say that several times with true passion. It solves everything.

05-16-2006, 01:53 AM	#1
j8snx1 Senior Don Juan Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: L.A., CA Age: 25 Posts: 331	PLEASE help me sort this one-itis confusion guys im a bit confused on what to do. my ex still claims she wants to be with me but then she "doesnt want to be in a relationship right now. she feels like being crowded by emotions." Yet she was real straightforward when she told me that shes into this sophmore guy @ school. she's supposedly crowded by emotions when she says she emotionally is distant from her friends. i see her laughing her head off with her friends, but she rarely talks to me. im beginning to get ticked off. call it one-itis, but i really want things to work out again, esp. since we're going to prom together, i want it to be a couples' night, not just friends night. i dunno guys, im so confused now. i want to respect myself and just say "you know what, you don't know what you want, and it seems like i'm not part of what you want." and just let it go from there but i also want to make things right again you know? this girl was really something to me..but now this is getting very bizarre should i A) tell her what i said up there and end it now B) let things fall into place, keep up my dj methods even around her, which might want her to come back to me. if option A: how should i say it? if option B: how should i behave in order to be a challenge? __________________ "It's not the size of the dog that matters; it's the size of the fight in the dog that counts." - I don't know, I don't care. Say hello to my little friend!

05-16-2006, 01:57 AM	#2
Damian Senior Don Juan Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: San Diego, CA Age: 23 Posts: 448	Get on with your own life. Don't alienate her, but keep her around as a friend. Go flirt with other girls and let her SEE you flirt with other girls. Right now this girl is playing the "hot/cold" game on you to try and lure you in. Be calm, collected, and detach yourself from her drama. Live your own life. Go game up some other girls, man. -Damian __________________ Striking a balance between heart and mind.

05-16-2006, 04:17 AM	#3
Zerotwoonenine Senior Don Juan Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: London Posts: 454	just next her ass, she doesnt want you,trust me. When girls say they are not ready for any relationship, she means she is not ready for a relationship with you, so my advice is, definitely end it. Dont even go for two options, just next her. __________________ Askmen.com Just a lone wolf in a hard world, betrayed by family, friends and females, but still sarging on Look for my blood against the snow, i bleed, my heart breaks

05-16-2006, 05:46 AM	#4
Skilla_Staz Master Don Juan Join Date: May 2006 Location: Omaha, Nebraska Age: 24 Posts: 2,250	Excuses excuses. Tell her you're not looking for mind games. Leave. Get another broad. One-itis is a lame excuse to get abused. Fifty bucks says she's ready for a relationship, she's just keeping you around for a booty call when she gets desperate. Next.

05-16-2006, 05:55 AM	#5
Bloke Senior Don Juan Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Down under... Posts: 353	" **** that b*tch. You never knew her. You'd prolly screw her & dump her body in the sewer ! " Say that several times with true passion. It solves everything.