A couple of points here:
1.) I disagree with the indirect approaches to a direct goal.
If you are looking at acquiring a particular client, you go up to him and introduce yourself and your services. If you are looking to attract WOMEN, you have to continue to improve/maintain the fundamentals (your looks, money, style, car, place to stay, personality, etc) while also continuing to MEET women directly by gathering numbers, dates, etc. This entire concept of let's just go out and have "fun" and indirectly hope to meet a chick, is just sort of lame to me. If you wanted to go out and have fun then okay, but if that's not your TRUE intentions, all you are doing is lying to yourself. There's nothing wrong with going out for the sole purpose of meeting women, it's just how you do it and where you do it that matters. Plus, if I'm going out to have fun, I'm not really focused on meeting chicks at all lol. If me and my boys are going to a damn UFC fight, I'm not looking at sarging on women during halftime, I'm looking at getting another drink and discussing who is going to win the next match lol. Fun time is FUN time, sarging time is SARGING time.
2.) I disagree with the "As You Think, You Shall Become" mantra
This is the Law of Attraction at its finest, and I don't believe in it. I am 31, 5'9, and can't play basketball to save my life. No amount of positive thinking is going to get me to the NBA lol.
There's more to what a guy has to do in order to build a good amount of plates, then JUST working on himself. It's funny because it's as if the women are "working" on themselves that hard, and apparently they don't require guys to work on themselves that much or you wouldn't see so many women with kids from broke, dusty, dudes.
Instead, the approach should be to present a good product (this is the work on yourself part) but you have to also GO OUT and sell the product. That is, you have to go out and every single week meet new women. That's the only way you really truly develop confidence and learn how to deal with women anyway, you are continually meeting new women, seeing different personalities of women, different characters of women, etc, etc. Eventually you will develop your own "style" and that's the style you would use to bring your plates in.
But that takes more than just "believing you are something special," you have to go out and do the work. Go out, get rejected, try again, tweek this, tweek that, add this, add that, get laid, get laid again, get laid again, and then develop your own theory on how YOU get laid consistently.
Women are NOT going to come up to you because you are standing against the wall looking like a GQ model unless you are a celebrity of some sort. Also the woman "walking by you multiple times" can be that she wants you or it could be that the restroom is by your seat and she's having some personal problems. If you want the woman, YOU approach her.
3.) It's About Time Management
Solomon, everything happens online in 2015. You bank online, you do business online, you complete degrees online, you network online, I don't know why you guys are stuck in 1999 and believe that online "dating" is something that isn't applicable lol. So the world is doing everything else online with good or better quality, but meeting chicks online is just a horrible method?
Every single chick, you would meet at the local club, is online. I guarantee you. She has either a Facebook account or a Twitter, and/or has been on one of the major free dating sites at least ONE time in her life (Match, OKC, POF, etc).
So going back to my "putting women as a low priority" example, say I have 18 hours a day that I'm awake, the other 6 hours I'm sleeping. 10 hours of that day I should be doing some type of work related activity which might be directly for work or perhaps studying something or completing a college degree program. 1 hour of that day I'm working out, 1 hour of that day I'm eating meals, 1 hour of the day I'm washing myself or my car, and I spend about 2 hours of that day driving back and forth to places. That's 15 hours, leaving me with 3 hours left. Now, let's say I'm going to use that 3 hours to meet women.
- Option 1: Go down to the local club or bar or (insert any place where chicks my age hangs out). I have to get ready to go there and I have to drive there, so that leaves me a solid 2 hours left. Within that 2 hours, I manage to speak with about 3 chicks and get 1 number.
- Option 2: I have my POF and OKC free accounts. I pull up 100 chicks within 40 miles of driving distance that look relatively good. I send a note to all 100 chicks, I'm done with that in about 90 minutes. From those notes, I get 25 - 30 responses, which turn into 10 - 15 numbers, which turn into 7 - 8 meet-ups, which turn into 3 - 5 fvcks.
Which option is the better choice based on time management and performance?