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Master Don Juan
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I just hit the 7 month mark in my relationship. Just turned 35, while she just turned 39. She’s never been married, I’ve been divorced for almost a year and half now, which led me to find this board and turn my life around.
We spend about 3-4 days a week together. Sex is very frequent and she is always bragging about me to her co-workers and family/friends. So there is some respect there. We’ve taken a trip to Florida together, taken a trip to Vancouver, met each others families, and spent holidays together. She texts frequently.
We’ve had one fight which was minor (another girl made a pretty flattering comment about one my FB photos, and it made her extremely angry and jealous and she was worried about losing me. I fixed the situation quickly).
Spinning plates at this point would be disrespectful. And to be honest, I have not a met a girl who is better overall fit for me.
So obviously, I’ve done a lot of good things but I’ve done some other things wrong and there are some things I’m worried about.
Maybe went too overboard on gifts. $250 on Christmas Gifts, $400 on Birthday gifts…not including our dinner. She shows no signs of materialistic behavior or entitlement, but know I’ve set the bar high now. My ex-wife was materialistic, so I know the warning signs. I may have dug myself a hole now - we are talking about a trip to Cyprus later this year.
Her age. She will be 40 next year. She is a tiger in bed, but I’m worried about our sex life deteriorating in a couple years. I’ve heard horror stories about women in their mid-40s just not being in the mood anymore. Hell, my ex-wife was 28 when she lost her sex drive/quit having sex/cheated on me and it was devastating to my health and confidence. I can’t go through this again.
Kids. She has not talked about marriage or having kids. I do want to be a father at some point but, I’m very worried about her not being able to produce a child at her age IF we do ever get married. I do think long term about her often, but I’m worried about her becoming depressed if she can’t become a mother. Is this is almost beta behavior? Or is this long term planning that I should be thinking about?
I find it exhausting to “think Alpha” all the time. I am doing my best, but it’s so hard to not “talk Beta” when whenever she triggers my happiness. She never acts up, but she is a great listener and will be able to spot weaknesses. I’m worried about saying stupid things to her. Any way to combat this?
I realize this was long…but it might be helpful to some guys in LTR and the decisions we need to face as we age and women really want to be serious and lock us down.
We spend about 3-4 days a week together. Sex is very frequent and she is always bragging about me to her co-workers and family/friends. So there is some respect there. We’ve taken a trip to Florida together, taken a trip to Vancouver, met each others families, and spent holidays together. She texts frequently.
We’ve had one fight which was minor (another girl made a pretty flattering comment about one my FB photos, and it made her extremely angry and jealous and she was worried about losing me. I fixed the situation quickly).
Spinning plates at this point would be disrespectful. And to be honest, I have not a met a girl who is better overall fit for me.
So obviously, I’ve done a lot of good things but I’ve done some other things wrong and there are some things I’m worried about.
Maybe went too overboard on gifts. $250 on Christmas Gifts, $400 on Birthday gifts…not including our dinner. She shows no signs of materialistic behavior or entitlement, but know I’ve set the bar high now. My ex-wife was materialistic, so I know the warning signs. I may have dug myself a hole now - we are talking about a trip to Cyprus later this year.
Her age. She will be 40 next year. She is a tiger in bed, but I’m worried about our sex life deteriorating in a couple years. I’ve heard horror stories about women in their mid-40s just not being in the mood anymore. Hell, my ex-wife was 28 when she lost her sex drive/quit having sex/cheated on me and it was devastating to my health and confidence. I can’t go through this again.
Kids. She has not talked about marriage or having kids. I do want to be a father at some point but, I’m very worried about her not being able to produce a child at her age IF we do ever get married. I do think long term about her often, but I’m worried about her becoming depressed if she can’t become a mother. Is this is almost beta behavior? Or is this long term planning that I should be thinking about?
I find it exhausting to “think Alpha” all the time. I am doing my best, but it’s so hard to not “talk Beta” when whenever she triggers my happiness. She never acts up, but she is a great listener and will be able to spot weaknesses. I’m worried about saying stupid things to her. Any way to combat this?
I realize this was long…but it might be helpful to some guys in LTR and the decisions we need to face as we age and women really want to be serious and lock us down.
