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Constantly Improving 2015

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Well 2014 had to be one of the worst of my life, feeling like a constant slide in every aspect of my life. I am determained for 2015 to be the making of me. Sorry if there are any mistakes but I'm typing this up at 7am. I'll probably give weekly updates on my progress. Time to sort my life out!

2015 GOALS

Have high self esteem
Finish first year with a 2:1
Pass driving test
Quit masturbation
Bang 5 more girls
Think positively about situations
Get a customer service based job
Become better socially with new people
Learn Spanish



Why these goals?

The last year or so I've been suffering with low self esteem which basically impacts everything in my life. I've been worse socially, almost scared to talk to girls and I think negatively about everything about myself and basically if you think you can't do something you've already set yourself up for failure.

I've been slacking ridiculously in my studies so far just like everything else. I need 40% to pass first year which won't be a problem but really I want to pass first year with a 2:1 so I can try transfer. I need 60% for a 2:1, currently averaging 55% with putting no real effort in so if I work hard the rest of the year 60% should be attainable. It's also worth noting that I never even attend lectures.

Passing my driving is just something I feel I need to do. I'm not exactly what I'd call a natural driver so it will be a massive achievement if/when I pass. When I pass I'll probably just get an automatic car anyway as I don't actually enjoy driving and have never really been into cars. I could probably pass now in an automatic but it limits me, so best to pass in a manual unfortunately.

I'm naturally quite a lethargic person and have some long spells of feeling unmotivated in girls and general life goals. I notice when I masurbate I feel much more lethargic but when I refrain I have much more energy and drive to do things, and obviously girls. I've never gone longer than three weeks but giving it up needs to be done and I'm gonna do it.

I set 5 as a goal because I wanted to aim high (for me). I've currently banged 13 girls and this year was the first year since 2007 where I didn't bang a new girl. Obviously I've averaged just over 2 girls a year since then so 5 is a big step, especially coming after a year with a big fat 0. Living in quite a small town doesn't help either. The most important thing is I base most of my confidence and self esteem around validation from girls.

I need to get a customer service based job because communicating with numerous people daily can only be good for communication skills, helping me become better socially with new people. Plus, studying and wanting to go into business having customer service based work on my CV is abslutely vital.

Learning a new language is something that I will find hard but something I've always wanted to do. It will probably have to be around May/June time though as I have more important things to learn until then.
 
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How will I achieve these goals?


HAVE HIGH SELF ESTEEM/THINK POSITIVELY -
Only listen to positive music and people
whenever I think a negative thought I will quickly put a positive spin on things
Achieve

FINISH FIRST YEAR WITH A 2:1 -
Attend all lectures
Sunday and Monday nights spent on Essays/Revision

PASS DRIVING TEST -
Revise theory 2 seperate hours a week
Book theory test
Continue lessons until I pass

QUIT MASTURBATION -
No looking at porn
Just quit!

BANG 5 MORE GIRLS -
Each night out make conversation with at least 2 new girls
Push on when there is signs of interest
No *****ing out due to low self esteem

GET A CUSTOMER SERVICE BASED JOB
Apply for at least 5 customer service based jobs a week

BECOME BETTER SOCIALLY WITH NEW PEOPLE
Push my comfort zone every day and speak to 2 new people every day
If I ever want to speak to anyone just do it
 

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Remove the "bang 5 girls" goal. You're still measuring worth by how many girls you've bedded.

You also remove yourself from the possibility of something deeper or more.
 
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Wow, I forgot I wrote this. It is quite crazy reading this now, knowing I have achieved more than I could have possibly imagined at that point.

Have high self esteem - 10x higher than 4 years ago
Finish first year with a 2:1 - Passed degree with a 2:1, only 1.5% off a first class degree. Small margins.
Pass driving test - Did that in 2015.
Bang 5 more girls - I've been with a lot more girls since then
Get a customer service based job and become better socially with new people - Worked at high level customer service and am now 10x better socially.

I had also never left the country at that point. 4 years later I've been to over 10 new countries and had great experiences.

Still, if I was totally happy I probably wouldn't be back on here, would I? So why am I here? I've just turned 26. Last time I posted here was 4 years ago. In 4 years time I'll be 30. Time flies and these are very important years for me. I need to get them right.

I've just been dumped by my first girlfriend (and the first girl I've had proper feelings for) in 6 years. For no real reason she just decided she doesn't want to be with me anoymore. I'm pretty gutted. But I can either let the situation drag me into a depression or I can use it as fuel to make me into a better person. I'm going with the latter. I'm going to start by setting goals for the next 4 weeks, tracking my actions daily and uploading them on the Sunday, before the start of the following week. I have 4 goals I want to accomplish in the next 4 weeks.

Goals:

1. Drop a stone in weight
2. Get a teacher training place
3. Meet a girl I like
4. NC with ex


How to reach goals:

1. Going to restrict myself to 2000 clean calories a day. 1 cheat day a week. Intense gym work outs (weights and cardio) 3x a week (MON, WED, FRI)
2. I have 3 interviews lined up. 2 I'd absolutely love to get a place with, with the first being on Tuesday. All I can do is prepare the best I can.
3. Harder than it sounds. I can only realistically meet girls on nights out and there will probably only be a couple. I'll approach all night.
4. Just ignore her. I blocked her on facebook and deleted her number. She will try contact me but I just need to be strong and ignore.

Let's go.
 

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Have high self esteem - 10x higher than 4 years ago
Finish first year with a 2:1 - Passed degree with a 2:1, only 1.5% off a first class degree. Small margins.
Pass driving test - Did that in 2015.
Bang 5 more girls - I've been with a lot more girls since then
Get a customer service based job and become better socially with new people - Worked at high level customer service and am now 10x better socially.
ayyyy you did it. you accomplished all your goals, wooo I love a good success story!
 

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Add in devil's triangle with skanks.

It can actually add to a bromance and aware you of female nature.

I say skank. The next man calls her wife.

One man's trash. Another man's treasure. Lulz
 
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Add in devil's triangle with skanks.

It can actually add to a bromance and aware you of female nature.

I say skank. The next man calls her wife.

One man's trash. Another man's treasure. Lulz
Already did that years ago. All it gave me was chlamydia and a funny story haha.

Thanks for the support guys. Feeling crap today and reading your messages made me realise I’m probably not a loser after all.

Birthday night out tonight. Hopefully a good few approaches but I’ll probably just end up feeling sad that my ex wasn’t there with us. Although I’d rather she wasn’t out and about tonight now! Really couldn’t deal with running into her
 

DEEZEDBRAH

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Already did that years ago. All it gave me was chlamydia and a funny story haha.

Thanks for the support guys. Feeling crap today and reading your messages made me realise I’m probably not a loser after all.

Birthday night out tonight. Hopefully a good few approaches but I’ll probably just end up feeling sad that my ex wasn’t there with us. Although I’d rather she wasn’t out and about tonight now! Really couldn’t deal with running into her
Feeling sad is useless. Get pissed. Let it fuel you. Apathy is useless.

At least anger can fuel you in the gym, biz, lifestyle, acquiring game, and getting baeees.

Assuming you cannon ball In, full boar, forged in the fire, who and what you will become is beyond what you can fathom now. You can mental masturbate about a mediocre girl who doesn't want you, play house, be house broken, divorced and cucked following the beaten path.

It's all on you. I would recommend going All-In the next few years, no exclusivity or playing Disney on Ice. Actually burn it to the ****ing ground and see where you go both in purpose, life path, game, lifestyle and women.

Good luck mate.

Every set is practice. Reward favors the brave. In the end, life's too ****ing boring not try. #nextSet
 

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I’m probably not a loser after all.
Hey, definitely not! What kind of loser gives it all to achieve. Nobody is perfect, but the closest we can come to it is striving to be the best we can be. Humility is a good quality, but so is balance, you should feel some pride and gratitude in your achievements. It's healthy.
 
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She uploaded picture to Snapchat with another lad in her bed. Blocked on there and any other outlet too. Not once did she upload a picture of me on her Snapchat, but uploads one of a random guy she’s probably known days.

I’ve never felt such a fire in my belly as I have right now. The best version of me is coming out the other end of this
 

DEEZEDBRAH

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She uploaded picture to Snapchat with another lad in her bed. Blocked on there and any other outlet too. Not once did she upload a picture of me on her Snapchat, but uploads one of a random guy she’s probably known days.

I’ve never felt such a fire in my belly as I have right now. The best version of me is coming out the other end of this
Wtf don't you get about N/C?

***** is dead. If she gets terminal cancer, zero fucjs given.

Too busy climbing the dominance hierarchy and getting baeeeeeees to give a ****.

This isn't a call to violence the way a feminist or SJWs would make it out to be. Its a call to disregard; her, feminism, marriage, monogamy, children, cohabitation, the blue pill, and the old social contract. The one women disregard but expect men to hold up both ends of the agreement.

Not doing it right.

You can't get to playboy GOAT STATUS looking in the rear view mirror.

You got a choice to make. Be a beta male cuck or step your game up. There's no ambiguity.

Man the ****kkk up or go raise her bastard children from other men.


Leave feelers to women and small children.


Step your game u kuz .



You've lived a lie. Blue pill, play house, pretend to be a gangster on a DJ forum but you're softtttt as ****kkk. Go lift.

You can't be half a gangster.
 
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I had a document open throughout week with full depth of my week but must have eventually closed it without saving because it's gone. Annoying.

Anyway, week in review.

No new girls on the radar.
Stuck to gym and diet every day. Dropped 4 pounds.
Failed one interview, next interview is Tuesday which I NEED to get. Very nervous.

NC? This is ****ed. So ****ed.

Was out last night and my ex came up to me going on about how she never cheated on me, i'm like it doesn't matter anymore, it's done. No problem. Great. Then I see her again later on in the fag shelter and she's a mess. Taken pills with her mates and is well out of it. I go over and ask her wtf she's doing on pills. A lad she's with who probably fed her them gets involved and we end up scuffling and everyone has to break it up. I'm so embarrassed by it and my behaviour. I should have dealt with this so much better. It gets worse.

We end up meeting up today and spending the day together to smooth everything over. We end up spending the day in bed together. She looked at me like she loves me. Admitted she had been with someone else and started crying about it saying sorry for everything she did to me. Situation is so ****ed. Never experienced anything so toxic but it consumes. I feel low. Very low.
 

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4. Just ignore her. I blocked her on facebook and deleted her number. She will try contact me but I just need to be strong and ignore.
You broke your own rule.

What have you learned from it ?
 
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Good news - I got an offer from my interview and accepted!

Bad news - I rang the ex to tell her the good news. She couldn't give a **** and basically said she's off for dinner with someone tonight. Three days ago she was crying about me, now she couldn't care less. She is crazy. Or am I the crazy one for keep "going back". She's treat me with so much disrespect yet I let her off again and again, only for her to do it again. I feel physically sick. And it is all my own fault.

I mean this now. Gun to my head. NC from now until forever starts right now.
 
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Coming to the end of week two. Dropped three pounds sticking to diet and exercise. I'm on track. Still no sign of any other girls but it barely seems important to me at this current time. I probably need time to fix myself mentally after the breakup. Going to Dublin on Tuesday for a couple of days with my mate which should be good.

Two week recap:

1. Drop a stone in weight - On track
2. Get a teacher training place - DONE
3. Meet a girl I like - Not looking good
4. NC with ex - Since 28th
 
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