So, this is a new one. What would you guys have said?
Girl calls (clearly just to tell me the below)
Girl: My best friend called me last night. She got engaged!
Me: Oh awesome, good for her.
Girl: Yeah I'm so happy for her. They've been together for almost a decade and he's a great guy.
Me: Cool
Girl: I think that's going to be the trigger though.
Me: Hmm?
Girl: For me to start thinking about that. Her and I have always kind of been at the same level and now that she's engaged it feels like maybe I'm gonna be next.
Me: Oh. Haha. Maybe.
Girl: Yeah it's just great news.
Me: For sure. It's nice that you're so happy for her.
I wasn't really thinking through my responses because I wasn't aware that I might've been in the middle of some kind of test. Looking back, though, she definitely wanted to see how I'd react.
Not really sure if I'd respond any differently even if I had been conscious of the testing at the time. Frankly, I don't even know what she'd be testing? To find out if I'd say I'm also interested or completely disinterested in the concept of marriage? And how far off I am from starting to think about that?
Full background: this girls cool, smart, has a high paying professional job. I see her as GF potential but it's too early to become exclusive or anything. As for my feelings on LTRs and engagement, which is perhaps what she was trying to gauge, I'm open to the concept some day down the line.
What ya say?
Girl calls (clearly just to tell me the below)
Girl: My best friend called me last night. She got engaged!
Me: Oh awesome, good for her.
Girl: Yeah I'm so happy for her. They've been together for almost a decade and he's a great guy.
Me: Cool
Girl: I think that's going to be the trigger though.
Me: Hmm?
Girl: For me to start thinking about that. Her and I have always kind of been at the same level and now that she's engaged it feels like maybe I'm gonna be next.
Me: Oh. Haha. Maybe.
Girl: Yeah it's just great news.
Me: For sure. It's nice that you're so happy for her.
I wasn't really thinking through my responses because I wasn't aware that I might've been in the middle of some kind of test. Looking back, though, she definitely wanted to see how I'd react.
Not really sure if I'd respond any differently even if I had been conscious of the testing at the time. Frankly, I don't even know what she'd be testing? To find out if I'd say I'm also interested or completely disinterested in the concept of marriage? And how far off I am from starting to think about that?
Full background: this girls cool, smart, has a high paying professional job. I see her as GF potential but it's too early to become exclusive or anything. As for my feelings on LTRs and engagement, which is perhaps what she was trying to gauge, I'm open to the concept some day down the line.
What ya say?