I'm really timid when it comes to meeting women at sexually charged get-togethers like college parties, bars, etc.
Obviously the best thing to do is go approach/talk to women at bars and parties. So I'm asking if you guys have any advice in doing that, other than just do it. When the environment is so sexual I really start comparing myself to other men. I'm really into powerlifting, 75kg class, so I'm pretty built without it being excessive, but I'm also pretty short and to be honest I think it's my height that bothers me at parties. Sort of like there are so many other dudes there that I feel short, whereas if I just approach women in a bookstore it's really just me and her and I feel like she can't be comparing me to anyone... I get rejected a lot cold approaching like this but I've also slept with some really beautiful and talented women. Yet I never hook up with girls at parties unless it's by total chance.
And I never felt bothered by my height in life, but I think maybe I have some deeper insecurities about it that I'm starting to realize and maybe that's why I'm so hesitant to approach women in such sexual environments. Writing this out, I think I just have a lot of anxiety in these situations, so maybe I just need to relax? I'm usually really confident. Next weekend I'm going to try and get my friend to break the ice with groups of girls at bars; he's the kind of dude who gives zero fvcks, super outgoing, so he'll put me in the situations I need to be in.
Obviously the best thing to do is go approach/talk to women at bars and parties. So I'm asking if you guys have any advice in doing that, other than just do it. When the environment is so sexual I really start comparing myself to other men. I'm really into powerlifting, 75kg class, so I'm pretty built without it being excessive, but I'm also pretty short and to be honest I think it's my height that bothers me at parties. Sort of like there are so many other dudes there that I feel short, whereas if I just approach women in a bookstore it's really just me and her and I feel like she can't be comparing me to anyone... I get rejected a lot cold approaching like this but I've also slept with some really beautiful and talented women. Yet I never hook up with girls at parties unless it's by total chance.
And I never felt bothered by my height in life, but I think maybe I have some deeper insecurities about it that I'm starting to realize and maybe that's why I'm so hesitant to approach women in such sexual environments. Writing this out, I think I just have a lot of anxiety in these situations, so maybe I just need to relax? I'm usually really confident. Next weekend I'm going to try and get my friend to break the ice with groups of girls at bars; he's the kind of dude who gives zero fvcks, super outgoing, so he'll put me in the situations I need to be in.