It’s so hard to decipher lately some of the break-up stories and female problem threads that you see posted all over the site. So many different relationships all with the same result of a break up and a defeated guy looking for advice on how to get over it. You see the same answers: go NC, get fit, work on yourself, and build your self-confidence. A combination of all of these things will absolutely put you on the right track to start meeting more women and spinning plates, yet so many of the men here just seem to fall back into the same trap as soon as they find a new chick that they perceive to be their “soul mate”. They follow the same programing they have always followed in their previous relationships, hoping that this time it will be different, but to no avail. The new “soul-mate” left them in a worse heap then the previous one, and all they can do is blame it on the chick, or BPD, or the horrible market of women available today. They never see that the answer may lie somewhere else, they never see that it may not be the women’s fault at all.
So if it’s not the chicks fault, then whose fault is it??!! (I knew this question would come) Well, let me ask you a few questions; have you ever thought that the value that you believe yourself to have is lacking? Have you ever thought that the return on investment you get from the chicks you date is not enough? And do you protect your true value above and beyond all others? Think about it for a bit. Let it settle in. For many of you the answer to all of these questions will be no. This thread is not intended to judge you, it’s a thread to let you know what I’ve learned and to let any of the other mature men here to chime in. I’ve been down the path that many of the guys on this site are facing right now; I just needed to find a way to break the cycle. Here’s what I’ve got:
VALUE YOURSELF AND YOUR TIME
You hear people say it here all of the time. “Valuing you” sounds like a really easy thing to do yet so many of us have a problem with it, and when I say it, I mean that you really need to come up with a number. This may sound ridiculous to some, but you really need to take a look at the true value of the things you do and what you have. Break it down for a bit, something like this:
WORKING OUT. I’m taking care of myself physically, not only to look good and increase my SMV, but to increase my physical well-being and avoid future health problems. I work out 1 hour every day. What’s that 1 hour of increasing my SMV and taking care of my well-being worth? Is it at least $50.00?
CAREER. This has always been a big one for me, and takes a lot of my daily time. I work to provide for my future, to retire earlier in life, and to acquire new assets. I do about 11-12 hours a day. Some younger guys may still be in school, or teaching themselves how to open their first company. What’s this time worth to you? For me, I’m going to say $175 per hour.
FRIENDS. It’s hard to put a monetary value to your friends, but I will tell you that without them, it will be very hard to have fun in life or to enjoy being single. SO for the sake of argument, let’s go with $50.00 per hour of quality friend time.
RELIGION. This for me is a little easier than most. I go to class for Buddhist teaching and meditation every Wednesday. I have great clarity of mind, I’m able to make rational decisions, and I’m much calmer than ever. This peace of mind for me is easily worth $75.00 per hour.
These are just a few examples of what I look at for myself and how I value my time. I also have a set of beliefs of what I value in my free time outside of the above listed items and what I’m willing to do with that free time. Yes, some of my free time does consist of female interaction and sex.
If you’re asking why I’m listing these things, let’s just say that this is the answer to the first question I asked in paragraph two. Let’s move on to question number two.
Tune in tomorrow for the answer to question #2. If anyone would like to add to whatever is written here so far, feel free….It’s an open forum.
So if it’s not the chicks fault, then whose fault is it??!! (I knew this question would come) Well, let me ask you a few questions; have you ever thought that the value that you believe yourself to have is lacking? Have you ever thought that the return on investment you get from the chicks you date is not enough? And do you protect your true value above and beyond all others? Think about it for a bit. Let it settle in. For many of you the answer to all of these questions will be no. This thread is not intended to judge you, it’s a thread to let you know what I’ve learned and to let any of the other mature men here to chime in. I’ve been down the path that many of the guys on this site are facing right now; I just needed to find a way to break the cycle. Here’s what I’ve got:
VALUE YOURSELF AND YOUR TIME
You hear people say it here all of the time. “Valuing you” sounds like a really easy thing to do yet so many of us have a problem with it, and when I say it, I mean that you really need to come up with a number. This may sound ridiculous to some, but you really need to take a look at the true value of the things you do and what you have. Break it down for a bit, something like this:
WORKING OUT. I’m taking care of myself physically, not only to look good and increase my SMV, but to increase my physical well-being and avoid future health problems. I work out 1 hour every day. What’s that 1 hour of increasing my SMV and taking care of my well-being worth? Is it at least $50.00?
CAREER. This has always been a big one for me, and takes a lot of my daily time. I work to provide for my future, to retire earlier in life, and to acquire new assets. I do about 11-12 hours a day. Some younger guys may still be in school, or teaching themselves how to open their first company. What’s this time worth to you? For me, I’m going to say $175 per hour.
FRIENDS. It’s hard to put a monetary value to your friends, but I will tell you that without them, it will be very hard to have fun in life or to enjoy being single. SO for the sake of argument, let’s go with $50.00 per hour of quality friend time.
RELIGION. This for me is a little easier than most. I go to class for Buddhist teaching and meditation every Wednesday. I have great clarity of mind, I’m able to make rational decisions, and I’m much calmer than ever. This peace of mind for me is easily worth $75.00 per hour.
These are just a few examples of what I look at for myself and how I value my time. I also have a set of beliefs of what I value in my free time outside of the above listed items and what I’m willing to do with that free time. Yes, some of my free time does consist of female interaction and sex.
If you’re asking why I’m listing these things, let’s just say that this is the answer to the first question I asked in paragraph two. Let’s move on to question number two.
Tune in tomorrow for the answer to question #2. If anyone would like to add to whatever is written here so far, feel free….It’s an open forum.
