When to Dump Her

Waive · 09-21-2012, 09:09 AM

You got to know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em,
Know when to walk away and know when to run.
You never count your money when you're sittin' at the table.
There'll be time enough for countin' when the dealin's done.
The Gambler-Kenny Rogers

There's a lot of great advice on this website about how to get women but knowing when to leave them is without a doubt more important. When she cheats, runs back to her ex, or says she wants to focus on her "career," those are all obvious. But what about the things that are less so? Excessive high maintenance, low interest level, etc.

Any and all advice on when to cut and run is appreciated.

betheman · 09-21-2012, 09:51 AM

when the time is right for you.

Samwild · 09-21-2012, 10:22 AM

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Originally Posted by betheman

when the time is right for you.

To piggy back, when the red flags are too hard to ignore and it's no longer fun to be in their presence.

Waive · 09-22-2012, 10:04 PM

Thank you Samwild I guess that's what I was asking for was red flags. However, there's already a million other threads on them so I'm not going to bother asking for them.

Renegade357 · 09-22-2012, 11:20 PM

This is by far the most important part of dating. My big one is inconsistant behavior. Once you smell a rat you need to bounce and not stick around for the invevitable pounce.

Hexagram · 09-23-2012, 01:37 AM

Most obvious signs include behavioural changes, less affection towards you and hanging out with new people without including you. Note that she may continue to keep fvcking you inspite of her lowering interest. Theres no real correlation there.

At the end of the day, you need to do it when your gut tells you to. Most of us tend to be in denial when we see obvious red flags, but your gut knows when the time is right.

DonJuanabe · 09-23-2012, 02:22 AM

A very common sign: to talk on the phone you need to do the calling rather than her doing the calling, and when you do talk she is hurrying to end the conversation and hang up.

roflzaur · 09-23-2012, 08:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Waive

runs back to her ex

Im curious as what one would define as running back to her ex. What if she has a drink with her ex, and says that they are merely friends/they will never get back together?

Renegade357 · 09-23-2012, 09:20 PM

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Originally Posted by roflzaur

Im curious as what one would define as running back to her ex. What if she has a drink with her ex, and says that they are merely friends/they will never get back together?

Haha, if she's associating with her exes and especially having drinks with them it means she doesn't like you.

Deep Dish · 09-23-2012, 10:42 PM

If you ever sense the warning signs that a girl is losing interest and soon to dump you, you must pre-emptively dump her before she has a chance to dump you. It’s risky but it’s a win-win: you either cut your losses or you regain hand and are rewarded with hot sex.

bigneil · 09-24-2012, 04:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Renegade357

Haha, if she's associating with her exes and especially having drinks with them it means she doesn't like you.

Not true. You actually want to get her talking about her ex (who she loved, especially her first love) IN PERSON, sometimes. That makes her associate you with the feelings she had for him.

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Originally Posted by Deep Dish

If you ever sense the warning signs that a girl is losing interest and soon to dump you, you must pre-emptively dump her before she has a chance to dump you.

This is true. It's 10 times easier to walk away knowing that she would go out with you again if you asked her than it is to think she wouldn't reply if you tried.

Waive · 09-24-2012, 06:25 AM

roflzaur. Well it depends on who dumped who. If she dumped him than you've got a guy with some burning resentment towards you who'll be doing his best to cockblock you. If he dumped her than she's still got some lingering feelings for him and he can rip her out of your arms at any time.

Oh wait... Those both suck.

Tell her you don't want or need a woman who can't let go of the past. It's not fair to her and it sure as hell ain't fair to you. Now there might be a few exceptions like they had a kid together but thats a whole other can of condensed fecal matter.

09-21-2012, 09:09 AM	#1
Waive Don Juan Join Date: Sep 2012 Age: 21 Posts: 19	When to Dump Her You got to know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em, Know when to walk away and know when to run. You never count your money when you're sittin' at the table. There'll be time enough for countin' when the dealin's done. The Gambler-Kenny Rogers There's a lot of great advice on this website about how to get women but knowing when to leave them is without a doubt more important. When she cheats, runs back to her ex, or says she wants to focus on her "career," those are all obvious. But what about the things that are less so? Excessive high maintenance, low interest level, etc. Any and all advice on when to cut and run is appreciated.

09-23-2012, 10:42 PM	#10
Deep Dish Master Don Juan Join Date: Nov 2002 Age: 33 Posts: 1,981	If you ever sense the warning signs that a girl is losing interest and soon to dump you, you must pre-emptively dump her before she has a chance to dump you. It’s risky but it’s a win-win: you either cut your losses or you regain hand and are rewarded with hot sex. __________________ "To be is to do," Socrates. "To do is to be," Sartre. "Do be do be do," Sinatra.

09-21-2012, 09:51 AM	#2
betheman Master Don Juan Join Date: Nov 2010 Age: 48 Posts: 1,606	when the time is right for you.

09-22-2012, 10:04 PM	#4
Waive Don Juan Join Date: Sep 2012 Age: 21 Posts: 19	Thank you Samwild I guess that's what I was asking for was red flags. However, there's already a million other threads on them so I'm not going to bother asking for them.

09-22-2012, 11:20 PM	#5
Renegade357 Senior Don Juan Join Date: Jul 2012 Age: 34 Posts: 263	This is by far the most important part of dating. My big one is inconsistant behavior. Once you smell a rat you need to bounce and not stick around for the invevitable pounce.

09-23-2012, 01:37 AM	#6
Hexagram Don Juan Join Date: Nov 2011 Age: 25 Posts: 32	Most obvious signs include behavioural changes, less affection towards you and hanging out with new people without including you. Note that she may continue to keep fvcking you inspite of her lowering interest. Theres no real correlation there. At the end of the day, you need to do it when your gut tells you to. Most of us tend to be in denial when we see obvious red flags, but your gut knows when the time is right.

09-23-2012, 02:22 AM	#7
DonJuanabe Master Don Juan Join Date: Jan 2012 Age: 42 Posts: 612	A very common sign: to talk on the phone you need to do the calling rather than her doing the calling, and when you do talk she is hurrying to end the conversation and hang up.

09-24-2012, 06:25 AM	#12
Waive Don Juan Join Date: Sep 2012 Age: 21 Posts: 19	roflzaur. Well it depends on who dumped who. If she dumped him than you've got a guy with some burning resentment towards you who'll be doing his best to cockblock you. If he dumped her than she's still got some lingering feelings for him and he can rip her out of your arms at any time. Oh wait... Those both suck. Tell her you don't want or need a woman who can't let go of the past. It's not fair to her and it sure as hell ain't fair to you. Now there might be a few exceptions like they had a kid together but thats a whole other can of condensed fecal matter.