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If you´re not good-looking, you are doomed to a bad/little special treatment

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If you are an average guy like most men on the planet, ie, with no or little physical, financial and attractive personality, you are doomed to a bad or little special treatment from your future girlfriend. I met many couples in my miserable life. Good-looking bastards are best treated by girlfriends who do not un-cling much from them, women treat them with more respect and in good mood.

Who is more likely to cheat? An ugly / average guy that is vilified by women on a daily basis, which has a destroyed self-esteem because of looks of disgust from women or an handsome hunk who receives indirect stares, smiles, and compliments? Who has more self-esteem? who has more women available ? who suffers more temptation to bang a naughty one? who is more confident in general?

Women love to mess with committed men, they are indignant at seeing another female dating a handsome man and start to seduce him by means of all female typical subtle ways. Aware of this, what a girlfriend is going to do? Well, She Will have to treat him better.

Now, if she has an ugly / average boyfriend, what is the incentive that she has to treat him well? She has thousands of men to choose from anywhere lining up for her. She Just has to be receptive and this also applies to average-looking women too. So she has several best looking guys than her current average/ugly boyfriend .It’s HIM who has to behave and pamper her eternally or he is going to face the music. This type of man is ruined. The slightest and meaningless mistake he makes it’s sufficient for a girlfriend to whine,complain and threaten to break up. Ugly/Average men have to be perfect in everything if they are looking for a girlfriend and keep her.
 

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Getting affection/attention from women does not make you a happy and successful man, grow up.
 

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With an attitude like yours you are doomed to live a self fulfilling prophecy.
 

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latino158 said:
Women love to mess with committed men, they are indignant at seeing another female dating a handsome man and start to seduce him by means of all female typical subtle ways.
If a woman if very attractive, she's going to have guys hitting on her too, even if she is married. So it's a two way street. This forum is full of threads of guys bragging about banging some "AFC's" wife. If the chick is hot, guys are going to want to bang her, especially if she flirts with them a little.
 

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There is some truth in what he says, if we talk to each other honestly we cant disagree that a woman with a hot boyfriend is gonna do anything possible in her power to keep him happy and loyal, being loyal herself to begin with.

The amount of men hitting on a woman has no weight if she perceive her man to be more goodlooking than them, even if a man of equal or slight superior look would come, she would stick to him for many reasons.

On the other spectrum you have average guys being concerned about her options therefore turning afc thinking that would help to "secure her", so not only their competition is a threat but his own behaviour is gonna make it even more critical.

There are many more chances of an average guy to make such mistakes than a good looking one, for the simple fact that a good looking one has a different life story since his teen made of success and high esteem which really helps to avoid certain mindsets and vicious circles.
 

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If I only had this ... :cry:

If I only had that ... :cry:

Truth is, if you only had balls (and action), you could have ANYTHING you want out of life.

Out of this pity-party thread and off to my Sunday night double-header
 

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guru1000 said:
If I only had this ... :cry:

If I only had that ... :cry:

Truth is, if you only had balls (and action), you could have ANYTHING you want out of life.

Out of this pity-party thread and off to my Sunday night double-header
Guru I agree with you with most of what you say in this board but not in this case, agree that crying instead of acting will surely lead to nowhere but at the same time shaming someone for acknowledging a fact is wrong too.

Saying that action and balls will get you at the top is totally delusional, if you are short and skinny with a crappy hair line not even a couple of iron pool sized balls between your legs are gonna lead you in a position remotely closer to a guy which is tall, well built with a head full of hair and a squared jaw.

Its the same of a fat girl thinking that her bachelor degree and attitude will set her even with hot girls.

I may be wrong, actually I hope to be wrong, so if you have any explanation of how an ugly guy can use his balls and succeed in an approach (wheter its a night club or a peer group meeting) I will be grateful to know.

With some common sense all I notice is that when unattractive guys "take action" all they obtain is getting called "creepy", a behaviour is not good or bad by itself but according to who does it in modern society, at least thats what I observe.
 

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It's not necessarily true.

Look at the RSD guys who's the best looking out of them? Julian Blanc? He's pretty average in all honesty we probably have many posters on here who are better looking than him yet have way less success rates.

I not saying looks don't matter but there are plenty of good looking nice guys who never get anywhere.
 

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Holy ****ing **** dude, grow a pair, suck it up, and be a God damn man. Face the facts that you lost the genetic lottery, alright? Nothing is wrong with that. Your life isn't set in stone from the day you were born. Get it? I posted this in another thread, but Imma post here again:

Optimizing your looks
looks do play a part in this, but not how most of you guys think. Having good looks means that you take care of yourself. It takes work, but it is VERY far from impossible. Work out like no other till you get ripped as hell. Style your hair to what suits you best. Eat healthy so that you look healthier, sleep more so that you look more energetic, and get a tan to make it look like you go out a lot. Understand your body and learn to read body language. Learn to control your own body language too because it does a lot of the talking for you. Buy nicer clothes that fit better on you. At this point, you have pretty much optimized your looks. But to those who want to enhance their jawline, chew at least a pack of gum everyday and make sure that you chew REALLY hard. This will build up your jaw muscle and give you better breath. Learn to speak at a pitch in which your body resonates by finding you sympathetic frequency (basically, learn how to make your voice carry). Hygiene is pretty much a given on what to do.

A woman will subconsciously see that a man with good looks has good looks because he takes care of himself and that shows that he can take care of her (basic primitive needs). There's lots you can do to optimize looks and health. All you have to do is just do it.
Did you read that latino? It tells you how you can look good, be physically appealing, turn aesthetic, etc.

Now guess what? I can tell you how you can improve your social skills too:
Go out more, hang out with your friends more by doing some form of a fun physical activity, observe all forms of social dynamics like how a sociopath does and adapt to them and apply them. Make sure you are as extroverted as possible. Make as many friends as you can. But be strong and dominant, not a pushover. Have strong opinions and back them up, always and feel confident with high self-esteem always. Now you have a strong personality and are a leader. You are now more masculine.

But hey guess what? You aren't rich? You don't need to be, but just to prove you wrong, go [back] to school, educate yourself as much as you can, learn to love learning. Get a skill and get good at it, and try to make sure that it is a moneymaking skill too. Get a job by trying to use your friends that you have made as connections. Work your way up the financial ladder. Become more decisive and steadfast. Now you are able to become affluent.

Hey guess what? You can change your genetics to, just so you know. The way your genes work is that they flip on and off like a switch. Now the tend to follow a GENERAL trend of when they are activated vs. when they aren't, but that is due to one's external environment and their mindset. If you change your mindset and FIX your environment, you can enhance your genetics naturally. Think of it as a gene that causes you to become drowsy so that your body can conserve energy. If you put yourself in an active environment constantly, your body will deactivate the gene that says to make you drowsy. That's just one example.

Fix yourself dude. Or else evolution will fix the world by beridding of those like you.
 

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latino158 said:
Who is more likely to cheat? An ugly / average guy that is vilified by women on a daily basis, which has a destroyed self-esteem because of looks of disgust from women or an handsome hunk who receives indirect stares, smiles, and compliments? Who has more self-esteem? who has more women available ? who suffers more temptation to bang a naughty one? who is more confident in general?
The ugly/average guy could use an escort. Isn't that what you post about doing?

latino158 said:
Women love to mess with committed men, they are indignant at seeing another female dating a handsome man and start to seduce him by means of all female typical subtle ways. Aware of this, what a girlfriend is going to do? Well, She Will have to treat him better.
Yeah, but then you go on sites like RSD nation and suggest there is more anxiety in that relationship and the girl will not be herself if the guy is too handsome. A "in demand" guy would want authenticity otherwise why would that girl be special and would have other issues in his level of life.

latino158 said:
Now, if she has an ugly / average boyfriend, what is the incentive that she has to treat him well? She has thousands of men to choose from anywhere lining up for her.
Because he could tell her to "f-off and don't contact him back again" and move on with his life? You don't have to be anybody's b1tch.

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She Just has to be receptive and this also applies to average-looking women too. So she has several best looking guys than her current average/ugly boyfriend .It’s HIM who has to behave and pamper her eternally or he is going to face the music. This type of man is ruined. The slightest and meaningless mistake he makes it’s sufficient for a girlfriend to whine,complain and threaten to break up. Ugly/Average men have to be perfect in everything if they are looking for a girlfriend and keep her.
If a woman has the trump card about breaking up then you have to dump her.
The relationship is already over if it is that toxic. You tell her to f-off and that's where any "whining, compaining, and threatening to break-up" is going to go.
 

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Uhh Nahh..sorry I'm not taking invitations to your pity party that you are throwing with this feminine weak man thread full of boo hoo's.

You keep doing as you do. When you're tired of the bullshyt then come on back and get some help.
 

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guru1000 said:
If I only had this ... :cry:

If I only had that ... :cry:

Truth is, if you only had balls (and action), you could have ANYTHING you want out of life.

Out of this pity-party thread and off to my Sunday night double-header
Exactly

"Woe is me Im ugly."

This is the result of our society. Men growing up with absolutely no self esteem or confidence.
 

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latino158 said:
If you are an average guy like most men on the planet, ie, with no or little physical, financial and attractive personality, you are doomed to a bad or little special treatment from your future girlfriend
Simple fix, don't be average.

You think it takes an average person to sell 25-30 cars a month at a dealership or run a booming business from the ground up? No it doesn't. People say they are tired and fed up with working so hard and barely making any money but how does the guy making 10x what you're making and working twice as much as you do feel?

If you're 'doomed to be average' then that's your own toxic mindset that you're stuck in.
 

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Who said we were here to be average?

If you want to be average, just quit visiting this site, sit down on the couch with your potato chips and be done with it.
 

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It is far, far easier for men to get in to an attractive body shape than it is for a woman, regardless of what the face looks like. If you feel 'ugly', build yourself like a rugby player, get a decent (better) attitude, and women will hardly notice the difference.

The difference in reactions I get between 'skinny' me and 'stacked' me is like night and day. Serious.
 

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The difference in reactions I get between 'skinny' me and 'stacked' me is like night and day. Serious.
^^ THIS... PLAIN AND SIMPLE.

By all means, strive to get better in ALL facets of yourself BUT I HAVE YET TO
SEE ANY DRAWBACKS A MAN WOULD HAVE IN BEING IN THE BEST SHAPE
HE COULD BE....THERE IS NONE.
 

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latino158 said:
If you are an average guy like most men on the planet, ie, with no or little physical, financial and attractive personality, you are doomed to a bad or little special treatment from your future girlfriend. I met many couples in my miserable life. Good-looking bastards are best treated by girlfriends who do not un-cling much from them, women treat them with more respect and in good mood.

Who is more likely to cheat? An ugly / average guy that is vilified by women on a daily basis, which has a destroyed self-esteem because of looks of disgust from women or an handsome hunk who receives indirect stares, smiles, and compliments? Who has more self-esteem? who has more women available ? who suffers more temptation to bang a naughty one? who is more confident in general?

Women love to mess with committed men, they are indignant at seeing another female dating a handsome man and start to seduce him by means of all female typical subtle ways. Aware of this, what a girlfriend is going to do? Well, She Will have to treat him better.

Now, if she has an ugly / average boyfriend, what is the incentive that she has to treat him well? She has thousands of men to choose from anywhere lining up for her. She Just has to be receptive and this also applies to average-looking women too. So she has several best looking guys than her current average/ugly boyfriend .It’s HIM who has to behave and pamper her eternally or he is going to face the music. This type of man is ruined. The slightest and meaningless mistake he makes it’s sufficient for a girlfriend to whine,complain and threaten to break up. Ugly/Average men have to be perfect in everything if they are looking for a girlfriend and keep her.

then I guess I'm really a hot guy I don't see me going out of my way to please people, most of time i'm a blunt when I talk with people by they still come around me for more.

or I just don't care about little things and am secure of myself enough to deal things on my way.
 

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I dislike this mindset. When you think like this, you're defeating yourself without even trying.

Optimize your looks. Improve your appearance if looks matter sooooo much (which they dont IMO). Besides, you may be a 9 to one woman and a 5 to the next. Come on now! You can't please everyone. Just be happy with how you look by you yourself.
 

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Who Dares Win said:
Saying that action and balls will get you at the top is totally delusional
I would agree. Simply because many women don't care about the plight of straight men, or what they do with their lives when there's no attraction. There have in the past been mind-blowing cases of behaviour exhibited when there ISN'T an attraction, that would make you contemplate being a misanthrope.

I am under the impression good looks are like the required default BEFORE interests, views, values, morals etc.
The 'man up' mantra is sometimes to me just there to provide hope.
 
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