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what's the harshest/cruelest rejection you've ever faced?

devilkingx2

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simple question, what's the harshest/cruelest rejection that's ever happened to you, if not you, then your friend/family/ex/stranger/whatever,

this question was inspired by yesterday morning when a girl(that I met on a bible based cold approaching spree that I've been doing since monday and will continue to do all week, but only this week I think) made me call my friend(she didn't know his name) who was walking away so she could tell him "please, take him with you!" referring to me. my game was a bit off, but damn...

what about you guys, what's your worst rejection?
 

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When I realized my 8yr marriage/ltr was over with & I was headed to divorce court.

I got over it pretty quick, living the dream now!

Who gives an F, keep on truckin dude.
 

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I've had a few really harsh rejections. The harshest one last week was a "**** off" lol. It actually wasn't that bad. The ones that really seem to sting is when the girl looks at you, then gives you a dirty look and then returns back to what she was doing totally ignoring you.
 

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The harshest rejection is when you are not even considered to date her. When you're so deep in the friend zone that she'll wanna get together with the biggest, douchiest douche rather than you and you're just left there holding your d!ck. Cruelty personified.
 

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I once initiated a conversation with some chick. during the conversation, i saw a friend walk by and i waved at him to say hey. she took this opportunity to leave. no goodbye.

i read roosh's book. he said he got punched in the face or that some girl tried to punch him in the face. i forgot exactly what.
 

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1. When I speak to a girl on the phone and she stops answering calls and texts, even though she was initially interested.

2. She flakes.

3. She acts very interested until the date or sex, then she says she has a bf/ seeing someone.

4. We have a date that seems really good, but the woman goes ghost.

5. She wants to take it slow or just be friends.

Take your pick.
 

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I find the harshest rejections tend to come from girls you (foolishly) feel to be above, especially if you end up taking them seriously.

Example - a little over a month ago, I visited a bar and approached a very average looking girl with the intention of warming up as I was massively trapped inside my own head. Set began horribly, but she was quite welcoming, and we wound up hitting it off, surprisingly, despite the fact that the interaction never really branched out from interview mode type questions. She kept touching me, laughing at every stupid little thing I had to say, and after about 10 minutes of that I decided that I wanted to head out to another nearby bar, so I pulled out my phone and asked her for her number so we would talk more later, prompting her to take a huge step back and shoot me a borderline sadistic grin as she shook her head once in disapproval and reached out with a patronizing hand for me to shake accompanied with a "sorry".
 

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I say to woman 'Are you single?' She replays 'Are you serious?' in a how dare you take an interest in me kind of way.
 

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Back when I was in high school (back in the early 1990s), I had a crush on this girl who was in the same computer class as me, although in a different slot. I didn't have the ba11s to ask her out in person, so I came up with an idea.

The teacher kept all our floppy disks in a case in the classroom. What I did was grab her floppy, wrote a text file on it asking her out, and saved it as "a-readme". About a week went by and I eventually found a note from her in my floppy disk jacket with "read this" written on it. She blasted me for fvcking with her property, said that she would NEVER EVEN THINK of going out with me, and basically stated that she was too good for me.

I kinda wish I would have kept that note. It was really nasty and would've been a nice reminder for how far I've come with my interaction with women.
 

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This doesn't exactly count as a rejection it was more of a pre emotive rejection.

Back in my freshman year of high-school I was in a computer class and there was this pretty cute girl that set next to me. We would make small talk when the teacher wasn't around and eventually one day I decided to go for the number.

The day I was gonna do that I saw she was writing a list of the hottest guys in the class. I was the last out of 16 guys and she didn't even put my name she put(and I will never forget this)" the fat guy next to me"
 

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Desdinova said:
The teacher kept all our floppy disks in a case in the classroom. What I did was grab her floppy, wrote a text file on it asking her out, and saved it as "a-readme". About a week went by and I eventually found a note from her in my floppy disk jacket with "read this" written on it. She blasted me for fvcking with her property, said that she would NEVER EVEN THINK of going out with me, and basically stated that she was too good for me.
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: hahahahahaha


Mine was probably when me, a friend and two girls were in one of the girls' home. I was 16 or early 17 and had only made out with a girl once before. I think the girls wanted to make out with us as some kind of fun game, eventually that's what we did anyway. My friend did well but I was so bad that even months/years later, one of the girls got a look of sadness when in another group we were playing a similar game and she had to not make out with but simply kiss me and she wouldn't move over to do it, she just sat there looking into the ground not saying anything. The other girl? she started spontaneously laughing when we were making out. It scarred me for as long as I was around them.
 

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I got the 'at any point since I've known you have I ever shown even an inkling for making you think I liked you? Please let me know because really, I don't' at the top of her voice at the main university cafeteria during the lunch time rush hour. Rest of the conversation followed that trend. I laughed it off which infuriated her and walked away with to be honest, my dignity in tatters. Yet ironically it was the turning point for me. 1 month or so down the track, NC, I'm now 5kgs lighter, abs showing, raising eyebrows where I go and doing pretty well for myself at parties.
 

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That stupid psycho chick that friendzoned me after the first date, even though we had sex. It pissed me off, so I told her friendship isn't going to happen then deleted her facebook and number. She came crawling back 5 days later, I tried again. Found out she was batsh!t crazy within 2 days and dumped her. She tried getting me back once more, but my decision was final.

I approached this girl in a nightclub once. She gave me the "who the fvck do you think you are?" look, it was pretty brutal although it didn't really get to me. The approach was really really bad, so I don't blame her lol.
 

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Hmmm...I can't really remember any that were really harsh but I've gotten turned down nicely a lot of times which still hurt a little to be honest.
 

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I think for most people the worst type of rejection is after a breakup. I had one really bad breakup with a BPD--every other rejection seems so insignificant. I was alpha with her but when you're dealing with crazy it will test your true manhood. At first you are king of the world, emperor of her pvssy, and dictator of her heart. Then red flags start to pop up, and the crazy begins. This girl turned out to have dated a chick for 9 months, had been on antidepressants, fvcked like a pornstar, had terrible family relationships, was abused as a child, etc. I won't go into what happened, but after the breakup for the first time in my life I backslid. I went straight up beta, writing emails, phone calls, etc. She told me point blank "I never felt a real connection with you."

My mind went berserk and I just stopped contact. That's before I even got to this site. I just couldn't handle it. Every time I went out I saw her in everything. I mean I banged her a few more times like 5 or 6 months later, but it was by far the worst rejection I have ever faced. And like a good little BPD she reminds me of her existence about once every month or so. Damn, even thinking about that breakup brings back some real sh!tty memories.
 

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My best mate and I thought we had picked up these two chicks. One of them was driving and my mate and I were in the back seat.
As we were about to drive off, our ridiculously good looking friend yelled out, so we got the chicks to stop the car and he leaned in the window to ask where we were going.
After about five minutes of him talking shyt with us and running a bit of game on the girls, they turned to my mate and I and said: "OK, you two get out, we want him!"
We tried to laugh it off but they were serious. They booted us out and got out friend to hop in.
We were livid at the time but we have a good laugh about it now.
 

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That was a tough one, Greasy Pig, right in the ego.

I caught a girls eye in a dancing class a couple of weeks later we went for a drink after the class, and then went on to dance some place, and we danced the whole evening, just me and her, got her number afterwards. A couple of texts followed that evening, she texted me something like I surprised her and I was a really cool guy. I thought I was doing great. Next day we're dancing on a dance floor, and a small red flag raised when she said "you're gonna have to share me" - meaning, change partners. Thought nothing of it. Next day, another dance floor, we go get drinks, we dance, she tells me I look handsome, then we go have a rest at the tables and she looks me in the eyes and point blank tells me:
Her: "Stop looking at me like that."
Me: "Like what?"
Her: "Like you like me a lot. You like me a lot, don't you"
Me: "A little, maybe"
Her: "Good, cause you shouldn't, I'm in the middle of a 1 year celibate, so we can just be friends."
Me: "Well, we're can be whatever, but we're not gonna be friends."

It didn't end there though. She messaged me on FB to tell me I shouldn't come to her classes, which I attended as a voluntary aid. I agreed. The conversation went sour, when she expanded her view and literally said: "I don't like it when guys stick themselves on me."


That stung quite a bit, but now I'm incredibly grateful for that experience, it taught me so many things, most of all, patience, and that oneitis really kills it, especially if you exhibit symptoms. I think it contributed greatly to my current state of acceptance. I accept every situation I'm in and seize an opportunity if it presents itself, I don't try to force open doors, I open those that are invitingly open just a crack.
 

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i faced 2 big rejections in my life, ill post one, the other one i dont know if i can, it did put me in a deep depression

first one i was 17 at the time- me and one of my main bros were hanging out at a laser tag place, one of the girls working there was really cute, so i went up and starting talking to here, my bro was close by just hanging around

she was all over me, i mean smiling, touching, everything, so i got her number and we started going out on some dates, she seemed to be crazy about me, always texting me and always wanting to see me, we dated for about a month

then she went ghost for about 2 weeks, didnt hear one peep from her, i went to her place and she was cold, didnt want to talk to me or see me and she tried to manipulate me into thinking my best friend (the one who was with me in the start) was hitting on her and trying to hook up with her and she told me she was creeped out and scared

i went to talk to my friend and thats where he showed me the messages that she sent him, she got his number from my phone some how

she said stuff like, i hate bcollar i was just using him to get close to you, i wanted you to hit on me, i like taller guys and bcollar is not tall enough for my liking, but you are (my friend is about 6'2), come to my place and do what you want with me, i think about you all the time, i wish you wouldve got my number

this girl sent at least a 100 messages like these to him

me and him are still great friends, he told her to f off and to leave him and me alone and that he would never go behind my back, he kept telling her this

after all that she had the nerve to try to get me back like a month later, telling me she was sorry and she missed me and made a mistake, she told me she was sexually more attracted to my friend but i was the "nice" "sweet" guy she wanted, major bpd

the other one was slightly worse
 
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