thunder_god
Master Don Juan
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So essentially due to my inexperience several months ago, the girl who was interested in me lost interest. I had also asked her out several times but after a botched date, she never would go out with me again and then even flaked on me once so I stopped asking. Due to this and all the drama, I ended up flunking school and we haven't spoken nor seen each other for close to 4 months now. The last few weeks, my oneitis started to contact me after I was pretty much ready to move on and had given up on her. I tried to act indifferent but polite. She messaged me again last week on facebook after I presume seeing a photo of me holding some girl and probably from my classmates thinking that girl is my gf. I actually picked her up from cold approaching during the day and invited her to my friend's birthday party. Everyone thought we were a couple.
Fast forward today, one of my classmates threw a party to celebrate one of my classmates getting hitched. My oneitis ended up showing up after I came. I pretended to be busy, and then I noticed she started to make her way over to me and she started talking to me. She seemed really excited to speak to me, and was in my personal space. She was literally speaking into my ear. She was like, you should come move in with me, I'll tell the landlord. Its around the corner from here. I'll also send you all my notes in september when you come back, etc. She also mentioned how come your not drinking and then tried to search around to get me a beer. She also heard another classmate of mine mention where's my gf. My oneitis didn't even ask me about her after hearing this. Now having read corey wayne and listened to harry wilmington's podcast about getting a girl who lost interest back, they mention being indifferent and trying to not show your cards all at once even if your interested, so I deployed this strategy. I'm assuming she noticed this and tried to flirt and dance with other guys in front of me, and when I tried to ignore this and talk to another girl, she would later come back over to me and strike up a conversation again. I did dance with her and she tried to grind with me, but I have no experience grinding and doing club dancing with girls so I didn't work out too well.
Anyways she continued to try to make me jealous and then would come back over again. It was bothering me on the inside even though I acted indifferent on the outside, so I just walked away into the backyard of the house. The house was jam packed with my classmates btw. A few minutes later she followed me to the backyard. At first she was standing at a distance and flirting with another guy who was close to me. Then suddenly she ended up right beside me and kept on bumping into me and trying to strike up a conversation. I again acted indifferent to her and talked to another girl. Eventually she told me she was leaving and said goodbye. I then was planning on leaving a few minutes later and saw her inside dancing with another guy from my class and I left.
Based on the advice from these dating experts it would appear that I should be acting indifferent and only when she reaches out again should I try to get a date with her. I never would have expected her to be so aggressive and throw herself at me and also to kick up a jealously plot like that after not seeing me for nearly 4 months. I was expecting her to be friendly and to hover around me but not throw herself at me so fast. She truly was acting like a cat, one minute giving me loads of attention, then backing away and going to flirt with another guy, and when I didn't react came right back. Now I wasn't sure if I did the right thing or not, so I called up one of my wingman. He told me I ****ed up and should have pulled her. He then told me because I didn't make a move, she will **** another guy by the end of this week. This really upset me and now I'm starting to have doubts that I did the right thing. Now I'm thinking I should have tried to pull her to her place. I'm really considering texting or calling her now to ask her out, but a part of me is saying "don't you dare do that", you need to be patient and wait for her to reach out. I feel like if I show her interest and start chasing, she will lose interest again.
Now I'm confused on what I should do. I know if I do get her out, my # one priority is to take her as my lover but now I'm not even sure if I'll get that chance.
Fast forward today, one of my classmates threw a party to celebrate one of my classmates getting hitched. My oneitis ended up showing up after I came. I pretended to be busy, and then I noticed she started to make her way over to me and she started talking to me. She seemed really excited to speak to me, and was in my personal space. She was literally speaking into my ear. She was like, you should come move in with me, I'll tell the landlord. Its around the corner from here. I'll also send you all my notes in september when you come back, etc. She also mentioned how come your not drinking and then tried to search around to get me a beer. She also heard another classmate of mine mention where's my gf. My oneitis didn't even ask me about her after hearing this. Now having read corey wayne and listened to harry wilmington's podcast about getting a girl who lost interest back, they mention being indifferent and trying to not show your cards all at once even if your interested, so I deployed this strategy. I'm assuming she noticed this and tried to flirt and dance with other guys in front of me, and when I tried to ignore this and talk to another girl, she would later come back over to me and strike up a conversation again. I did dance with her and she tried to grind with me, but I have no experience grinding and doing club dancing with girls so I didn't work out too well.
Anyways she continued to try to make me jealous and then would come back over again. It was bothering me on the inside even though I acted indifferent on the outside, so I just walked away into the backyard of the house. The house was jam packed with my classmates btw. A few minutes later she followed me to the backyard. At first she was standing at a distance and flirting with another guy who was close to me. Then suddenly she ended up right beside me and kept on bumping into me and trying to strike up a conversation. I again acted indifferent to her and talked to another girl. Eventually she told me she was leaving and said goodbye. I then was planning on leaving a few minutes later and saw her inside dancing with another guy from my class and I left.
Based on the advice from these dating experts it would appear that I should be acting indifferent and only when she reaches out again should I try to get a date with her. I never would have expected her to be so aggressive and throw herself at me and also to kick up a jealously plot like that after not seeing me for nearly 4 months. I was expecting her to be friendly and to hover around me but not throw herself at me so fast. She truly was acting like a cat, one minute giving me loads of attention, then backing away and going to flirt with another guy, and when I didn't react came right back. Now I wasn't sure if I did the right thing or not, so I called up one of my wingman. He told me I ****ed up and should have pulled her. He then told me because I didn't make a move, she will **** another guy by the end of this week. This really upset me and now I'm starting to have doubts that I did the right thing. Now I'm thinking I should have tried to pull her to her place. I'm really considering texting or calling her now to ask her out, but a part of me is saying "don't you dare do that", you need to be patient and wait for her to reach out. I feel like if I show her interest and start chasing, she will lose interest again.
Now I'm confused on what I should do. I know if I do get her out, my # one priority is to take her as my lover but now I'm not even sure if I'll get that chance.
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