Although it's hard to take someone with a username like Yo'Mama seriously, I assure you this is a real quandary. The title says it all.
For the first time in a long while, I went out to a club yesterday. At 36 I wasn't the oldest guy in the place but I was way above the average age. Not that I felt particularly self conscious, I look pretty young, but still there will come a time soon when I will be the 'old guy at the bar' (if i'm not already).
I don't look down on old guys at the bar at all and if I end up being that man, so be it. I just feel at sea at the moment. I think the life path for people that want to do things in a very plain vanilla way is clear. Go to college, graduate, join the work force, get married, buy a house and have kids. I don't really want to do that. Actually just writing it out makes me shudder with terror. Yet I can feel myself slipping down that path just because it's the easy thing to do and I don't have a clear idea of other paths open to us men.
I'd really like to hear from some of the 35+ guys who haven't settled down about your lifestyles and whether you have any regrets about staying single or whether you're living the vida loca. I'm just trying to picture life from here on in and whether it makes sense to cave in and get married (to the girl I'm with and the girl I'd be happy to stay with if she didn't feel the need to get married) or whether to commit to staying on my own, while everybody (I mean everybody) around me is playing house.
I met a friend at this club yesterday. He is older than me (41) and married with kdis. On the one hand he was showing me videos of his kids doing karate, etc, speaking about them with real affection. On the other hand he was like a wild man. Chasing women with manic, high energy, getting into fights (I had to pull him awawy) which betrayed his general frustration with things. It's hard to know what to make of such a character and it just got me thinking. I asked him if he was happy and he said he didn't regret anything which is good for him, but at the same time I'm not sure I want to be married with kids and chasing skirt like there's no tomorrow.
For the first time in a long while, I went out to a club yesterday. At 36 I wasn't the oldest guy in the place but I was way above the average age. Not that I felt particularly self conscious, I look pretty young, but still there will come a time soon when I will be the 'old guy at the bar' (if i'm not already).
I don't look down on old guys at the bar at all and if I end up being that man, so be it. I just feel at sea at the moment. I think the life path for people that want to do things in a very plain vanilla way is clear. Go to college, graduate, join the work force, get married, buy a house and have kids. I don't really want to do that. Actually just writing it out makes me shudder with terror. Yet I can feel myself slipping down that path just because it's the easy thing to do and I don't have a clear idea of other paths open to us men.
I'd really like to hear from some of the 35+ guys who haven't settled down about your lifestyles and whether you have any regrets about staying single or whether you're living the vida loca. I'm just trying to picture life from here on in and whether it makes sense to cave in and get married (to the girl I'm with and the girl I'd be happy to stay with if she didn't feel the need to get married) or whether to commit to staying on my own, while everybody (I mean everybody) around me is playing house.
I met a friend at this club yesterday. He is older than me (41) and married with kdis. On the one hand he was showing me videos of his kids doing karate, etc, speaking about them with real affection. On the other hand he was like a wild man. Chasing women with manic, high energy, getting into fights (I had to pull him awawy) which betrayed his general frustration with things. It's hard to know what to make of such a character and it just got me thinking. I asked him if he was happy and he said he didn't regret anything which is good for him, but at the same time I'm not sure I want to be married with kids and chasing skirt like there's no tomorrow.