Tips for developing patience?

I'm 28 years old and I'd like to think I'm a mature man. In my mind one of the hallmarks of maturity is having self control and patience. Sadly this is one area that I'm lacking, when I see blood in the water I can't hold back or maintain an even keel. I'm propelled to attack which has worked out well many times though I must admit I've felt less than smooth when in this sexual frenzy.

I really want to develope a smooth, mature facet to my game. Any tips for staying relaxed in the moment?

Get your bullpin loaded with enough other women that if you screw it up with the one you are with this moment, you have no reason to care because you have plenty of others. Once you get to that mindset, you will naturally find yourself more relaxed in the moment.

Is this tendency present in the other areas of your life? If so, you'll want to look at it as a character thing more than a game thing.

The DJ bible tells us that patience is the refined sense of confidence. To be patient you must:
- accept that some (not all) things are beyond your control
- focus on the quality of your desired outcome, not on the timing of it
- accept that there are many routes to your destination, so if the route you are on doesn't work the way you want it, it just means you need to find another route.
- learn to recognize your impatience without acting on the emotion (hmmm, I feel impatient. I need to dial it back)

You might consider reading some Buddhist philosophy (Buddhism Is Not What You Think and Buddhism Beyond Belief are my two favorites.

Dear Apprentice,
I am convinced it is genetic....I have found It goes with courage,no not the petulant irritability of some faded Princess,but that almost Primeval fire in the Blood of Men with Fire in the Belly....Think of the Young Bull and the Old Bull...Confronted with a Herd of delectable young Heifers,the Young Bull says come on Dad lets run down and grab one,Hang on Son says the Old Bull,we will stroll down and do the lot.

This is an interesting thread, and a good relevant one compared to most of the bullsh!t posts on here with the motive being the OP wanting his thread to be the biggest and baddest with highest number of views and being 'famous' for his righteous DJ theories (mostly a handful of dudes on here dominate initiating new threads over and over and over....).

First of all - I must remind you that we are all created unique and separately extraordinary in our own ways. With this also comes with each of us, our very own private and dark shadow of the soul which we struggle to overcome in our life in order to become a better man (or soul without getting too spiritual here).

I never had an issue with being a sex horn dog. My personality has always been very reserved, introverted earlier years, and err on the safe side of life when it comes to women. However this doesn't mean I don't want sex - heck, it rocks but only when other pre-requisites has sufficed first (Long term relationship material).

My struggle however, very interestingly opposite of yours, is having the NEED to be emotionally intimate with women. This 'engulfment' of my entire being to be united with a woman in emotional intimacy, mental intimacy, physical intimacy, and spiritual intimacy has always been the downfall of my earlier AFC days. I was a RELATIONSHIP JUNKIE, compared to you being a SEX JUNKIE. Quite paradoxical....

The struggle for each of us to be patient is very real in both scenarios. It is only after having the flesh of your soul GRINDED and TORN down by negative and horrific experiences with women, do you REALIZE how PHUCKED up they really are. Before I knew how PHUCKED up women were, I thought they were all full of good intentions. Life teaches us hard lessons - the quicker we learn it (including patience), the faster we evolve our positive traits (patience).

Being on here and reading about other people's experiences will already put you way ahead of having to experience things PERSONALLY which can be devastating. Some of it does take time/age/wisdom - I have learned so far, that strategic patiences does wonders when you see RED FLAGS in anything and learn to really slow yourself down until you can clear it or run away from it.

Be well.

Exodus

I think you're on the something ED. Hopefully with more and more experience I'll be better able to hold myself back. It's ironic, I feel urgency to close the deal on the spot but I actually enjoy delaying it more. Something about the building tension makes the payoff so much sweeter.

How do you hold yourself back from developing the emotional neediness?

MOTU said:

Is this tendency present in the other areas of your life? If so, you'll want to look at it as a character thing more than a game thing.

The DJ bible tells us that patience is the refined sense of confidence. To be patient you must:
- accept that some (not all) things are beyond your control
- focus on the quality of your desired outcome, not on the timing of it
- accept that there are many routes to your destination, so if the route you are on doesn't work the way you want it, it just means you need to find another route.
- learn to recognize your impatience without acting on the emotion (hmmm, I feel impatient. I need to dial it back)

You might consider reading some Buddhist philosophy (Buddhism Is Not What You Think and Buddhism Beyond Belief are my two favorites.

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I do think it's present in other aspects of my life. I seem to lack impulse control because I have the same issues with alcohol. I'm always thinking more is better and faster is better eventhough I know logically it's just not the case.

I've always felt a connection with the limited buddhist texts I've read so I'm going to look into those you mentioned. Thanks for the advice, Mature Man forum is miles ahead of DJ Discussion. You can actually ask a question and get legitmate responses here.