“Lets just be friends”…”I like you but not that way”…”I can’t, this might ruin our friendship”
Ouch! Sorry if this brings back memories for anyone, but I’m trying to describe what the friend zone’s lick; the dreaded territory where men are in “love” with women who see them nothing more as just friends. I see many men asking questions about how to get ouch of it, but you know what they say “an ounce of prevention of worth a pound of cure.”
I think this is a recurring phenomenon in many men because they don’t quite understand how a woman’s mind works. Women say that they want to be friends first with men, and then get into relationships with them once they get to know them. I know some couples that actually started like this. However, the difference is
The women were attracted to the men from the start
That’s where a lot of guys fail. By going straight to the friendship part with women, they fail to trigger her attraction feelings. Instead they prefer talking to the women on the phone, trying to get to know them. Think about it…what do girls like to do? They call up their girlfriends to talk about their feelings and boy troubles, no wonder these guys get put into the friend zone so easily.
So what can us guys do to prevent this from happening?
Make Your Intentions Known From The Start
It only takes 3 seconds for a man to decide if he’s interested in a particular woman. As soon as you meet her, start treating her like a potential rather than a friend. Start flirting with her and get her phone number. There won’t be any “confusion” on what you want from her.
Don’t Be her Emotional Male Friend
If for some reason you can’t get together with her, like she has a boyfriend, then don’t become “that guy.” The one who she calls to tell her problems to, get boy advice from, etc. Men think that by being her friend that there will be a “chance” down the road for them to hook up once she gets to know him.
THIS IS FAR FROM THE TRUTH
Once she starts telling you about her problems then that’s when you get put into the friend zone. She’ll start viewing you as a “brother” figure. If she ever tries to talk about this kind of stuff, then always try to change the subject. A few months down the road, you’ll have a chance because she views you as “the guy she couldn’t go out with because she had a boyfriend” rather than the “my best guy friend in the world that I think of as a brother.”
Unfortunately there are men that are ALREADY stuck in the friend zone with someone, tomorrow I will be discussing how to GET OUT of it. It’s very difficult, but it’s been done before. But remember, it’s always better to prevent it from happening to begin with!
Ouch! Sorry if this brings back memories for anyone, but I’m trying to describe what the friend zone’s lick; the dreaded territory where men are in “love” with women who see them nothing more as just friends. I see many men asking questions about how to get ouch of it, but you know what they say “an ounce of prevention of worth a pound of cure.”
I think this is a recurring phenomenon in many men because they don’t quite understand how a woman’s mind works. Women say that they want to be friends first with men, and then get into relationships with them once they get to know them. I know some couples that actually started like this. However, the difference is
The women were attracted to the men from the start
That’s where a lot of guys fail. By going straight to the friendship part with women, they fail to trigger her attraction feelings. Instead they prefer talking to the women on the phone, trying to get to know them. Think about it…what do girls like to do? They call up their girlfriends to talk about their feelings and boy troubles, no wonder these guys get put into the friend zone so easily.
So what can us guys do to prevent this from happening?
Make Your Intentions Known From The Start
It only takes 3 seconds for a man to decide if he’s interested in a particular woman. As soon as you meet her, start treating her like a potential rather than a friend. Start flirting with her and get her phone number. There won’t be any “confusion” on what you want from her.
Don’t Be her Emotional Male Friend
If for some reason you can’t get together with her, like she has a boyfriend, then don’t become “that guy.” The one who she calls to tell her problems to, get boy advice from, etc. Men think that by being her friend that there will be a “chance” down the road for them to hook up once she gets to know him.
THIS IS FAR FROM THE TRUTH
Once she starts telling you about her problems then that’s when you get put into the friend zone. She’ll start viewing you as a “brother” figure. If she ever tries to talk about this kind of stuff, then always try to change the subject. A few months down the road, you’ll have a chance because she views you as “the guy she couldn’t go out with because she had a boyfriend” rather than the “my best guy friend in the world that I think of as a brother.”
Unfortunately there are men that are ALREADY stuck in the friend zone with someone, tomorrow I will be discussing how to GET OUT of it. It’s very difficult, but it’s been done before. But remember, it’s always better to prevent it from happening to begin with!
