BirdofParadise
Don Juan
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Hello
I realize my total post count (should be 3 by now) doesn't exactly inspire confidence, but I'm a longtime lurker and would like to give back to this community.
Craigslist is free. At the most, you are wasting your time, and not your money. Other posts regarding that site's personals concern the ability to write an interesting e-mail, ostensibly in response to a female's personal ad. However, because craigslist is free, I'd be willing to bet that a lot more females frequent the site (due to boredom, curiosity, whatever) than they do on a pay site, where male paying members probably outnumber female paying members by a comfortable margin.
I think the tactic isn't to respond to a woman's ad but rather to create your own. Read some of the male seeking female ads. They'r generally horribly written, laced with platitudes ("looking for a girl-next-door," "I just want someone to love" - seriously, gag). Throw something out there tongue in cheek. It doesn't take much to impress the smart women looking at the ads when yours is the only readable one out of 30.
Here are a couple crappy ads, and mine is the last one. Please note the differences:
Crappy ad #1 - Hi
I'm looking for some one fun to hang out and have a few drinks see where that goes. I have my ducks in a row and so should you. id hope. i have pics and a myspace thingy if youd like let me know
white guy brown hair and eyes
67 inches in height and 145 llbs
Crappy ad #2
I'm a pfairly shy person at first, its hard for me to just walk up to someone and start talking to them, hence this media for communication. I love talking one on one with someone, and could easily spend the entire day and/or night chatting it away. Bonus points if it is a beautiful night and we walk outside!
I'm looking for a woman who is looking for a long term relationship, and hopefully to fall in love. I love to read, I love to take walks, watch sunsets, or star gaze. If thats you, then its you I'm looking for as well.
Please be honest in your email and include a pic if you can.
I look forward to hearing back from you!
My ad
Let's be frank, okay? The average young person today (let's say 18-28) is chiefly concerned with drinking all the time, and not even such classy drinks as gin rickeys or whiskey soursbut silly sounding “trendy” drinks probably called “multiple orgasms” or “venereal ****tails.” I doubt those quoted drinks actually exist but you can still nod your head in understanding, with an expression of wry amusement on your face. To be fair, going to the bars, spending 6 bucks on a mixed drink, and throwing errant darts for an hour (and laughing drunkenly each time) is fun when you’re underage or just legal. I was never really into that scene, and at 23, I’m largely done with it. If you feel at all like I do, read on. Otherwise, happy drinking.
I’m a bookish guy. I’m 5’10, average-looking, thin, physically active but not into sports. I’m not a snappy dresser, and I’m comfortable with the low priority I grant my attire. In the past several months I’ve started eating healthier and that’s something I’m really quite enjoying. Politically, I’m a liberal on social issues and a centrist/conservative on economic issues. I pay close attention to the news and never abbreviate “laugh out loud.” I don’t say any of the following unless I’m obviously joking: hella, dope, yo, word, _izzle, ain’t, Girl, and fly. So, I’ll never say, “Girl, you so hella dope, yo, when I see your fly _izzle, I say word, ain’t that nice.” Just typing that gave me a headache.
You’re preferably a reasonably intelligent, pleasant looking woman. I didn’t say girl; the difference between the two isn’t age but maturity. Added plus if you are similar politically. Social conservatives and unrestrained liberals are equally disagreeable to me. You should care about something important (Darfur, gas prices, federal deficit, resurgence of Russia, civil rights, drug-resistant tuberculosis, you get the idea) rather than about how many drinks you’re going to consume Thursday night or where you will buy your 32nd pair of shoes.
I realize I come off as something of a pretentious sourpuss, but I assure you, I’m as insufferable in person. Kidding.
END
Okay. That's a bit long, it's not perfect, and maybe it's now something you'd write. I did NOT include a pic (I'm an average looking guy, so I'm not hiding any grotesqueries) but I've gotten five responses in the past day and a half, not including porn bots. They all start off by saying something like "Your ad was hilarious/made me laugh," and then get into how its refreshing to see somebody exhibit __positive trait__. Some of them included pictures unsolicited that are obviously of normal women, a couple of them pretty cute. Who knows how many of these correspondences will advance to actual meetings, but I'm optimistic.
I'm not a paid shill for craigslist, but I'd recommend giving it a go. Hopefully this convinces somebody to spend 10 minutes and write an interesting ad.
BoP
I realize my total post count (should be 3 by now) doesn't exactly inspire confidence, but I'm a longtime lurker and would like to give back to this community.
Craigslist is free. At the most, you are wasting your time, and not your money. Other posts regarding that site's personals concern the ability to write an interesting e-mail, ostensibly in response to a female's personal ad. However, because craigslist is free, I'd be willing to bet that a lot more females frequent the site (due to boredom, curiosity, whatever) than they do on a pay site, where male paying members probably outnumber female paying members by a comfortable margin.
I think the tactic isn't to respond to a woman's ad but rather to create your own. Read some of the male seeking female ads. They'r generally horribly written, laced with platitudes ("looking for a girl-next-door," "I just want someone to love" - seriously, gag). Throw something out there tongue in cheek. It doesn't take much to impress the smart women looking at the ads when yours is the only readable one out of 30.
Here are a couple crappy ads, and mine is the last one. Please note the differences:
Crappy ad #1 - Hi
I'm looking for some one fun to hang out and have a few drinks see where that goes. I have my ducks in a row and so should you. id hope. i have pics and a myspace thingy if youd like let me know
white guy brown hair and eyes
67 inches in height and 145 llbs
Crappy ad #2
I'm a pfairly shy person at first, its hard for me to just walk up to someone and start talking to them, hence this media for communication. I love talking one on one with someone, and could easily spend the entire day and/or night chatting it away. Bonus points if it is a beautiful night and we walk outside!
I'm looking for a woman who is looking for a long term relationship, and hopefully to fall in love. I love to read, I love to take walks, watch sunsets, or star gaze. If thats you, then its you I'm looking for as well.
Please be honest in your email and include a pic if you can.
I look forward to hearing back from you!
My ad
Let's be frank, okay? The average young person today (let's say 18-28) is chiefly concerned with drinking all the time, and not even such classy drinks as gin rickeys or whiskey soursbut silly sounding “trendy” drinks probably called “multiple orgasms” or “venereal ****tails.” I doubt those quoted drinks actually exist but you can still nod your head in understanding, with an expression of wry amusement on your face. To be fair, going to the bars, spending 6 bucks on a mixed drink, and throwing errant darts for an hour (and laughing drunkenly each time) is fun when you’re underage or just legal. I was never really into that scene, and at 23, I’m largely done with it. If you feel at all like I do, read on. Otherwise, happy drinking.
I’m a bookish guy. I’m 5’10, average-looking, thin, physically active but not into sports. I’m not a snappy dresser, and I’m comfortable with the low priority I grant my attire. In the past several months I’ve started eating healthier and that’s something I’m really quite enjoying. Politically, I’m a liberal on social issues and a centrist/conservative on economic issues. I pay close attention to the news and never abbreviate “laugh out loud.” I don’t say any of the following unless I’m obviously joking: hella, dope, yo, word, _izzle, ain’t, Girl, and fly. So, I’ll never say, “Girl, you so hella dope, yo, when I see your fly _izzle, I say word, ain’t that nice.” Just typing that gave me a headache.
You’re preferably a reasonably intelligent, pleasant looking woman. I didn’t say girl; the difference between the two isn’t age but maturity. Added plus if you are similar politically. Social conservatives and unrestrained liberals are equally disagreeable to me. You should care about something important (Darfur, gas prices, federal deficit, resurgence of Russia, civil rights, drug-resistant tuberculosis, you get the idea) rather than about how many drinks you’re going to consume Thursday night or where you will buy your 32nd pair of shoes.
I realize I come off as something of a pretentious sourpuss, but I assure you, I’m as insufferable in person. Kidding.
END
Okay. That's a bit long, it's not perfect, and maybe it's now something you'd write. I did NOT include a pic (I'm an average looking guy, so I'm not hiding any grotesqueries) but I've gotten five responses in the past day and a half, not including porn bots. They all start off by saying something like "Your ad was hilarious/made me laugh," and then get into how its refreshing to see somebody exhibit __positive trait__. Some of them included pictures unsolicited that are obviously of normal women, a couple of them pretty cute. Who knows how many of these correspondences will advance to actual meetings, but I'm optimistic.
I'm not a paid shill for craigslist, but I'd recommend giving it a go. Hopefully this convinces somebody to spend 10 minutes and write an interesting ad.
BoP