This is a bit of an odd issue.
There is a girl I'm interested in who is a member of another forum that I'm in.
I've been talking to this girl for a while, almost over a year but dropped off contact when I got a girlfriend. We live at most a couple of hours from each other.
About two weeks after my GF dumped me, this girl got a boyfriend, the first one she's had in about three years. Right away they got into an insta-relationship and they've been together for about four months.
Here's the thing, on the forum she's made about four threads talking about the weird shit that this guy is doing to her. and her worries He goes hot and cold, tests her all the time, goes dark for days, accuses her of cheating, tells her he wants to see her blow another guy, yet apparently he's super sweet to her and does all these kind things. He's already proposed to her, and wanted to get married the next day, but she turned him down.
Everybody on the forum is telling her that he's crazy, that he's emotionally abusive and that she should leave him. At least 50 people have told her to dump him. But she won't. She has low self-esteem, thinks he's the best boyfriend she's ever had, that he's so sweet etc.
I'm pretty sure that this guy has BPD at least, and subconsciously doing push/pull on her and she's just eating it up. This guy is going to break her.
She knows I'm interested in her and we've been continuing to message each other. I'm being supportive without getting involved in her life.
Is there anything I can do to get her to leave him, and at least go on one date with me?
She's pretty much my ideal woman in looks, personality and interests. I deeply regret not making a move on her when she was single.
There is a girl I'm interested in who is a member of another forum that I'm in.
I've been talking to this girl for a while, almost over a year but dropped off contact when I got a girlfriend. We live at most a couple of hours from each other.
About two weeks after my GF dumped me, this girl got a boyfriend, the first one she's had in about three years. Right away they got into an insta-relationship and they've been together for about four months.
Here's the thing, on the forum she's made about four threads talking about the weird shit that this guy is doing to her. and her worries He goes hot and cold, tests her all the time, goes dark for days, accuses her of cheating, tells her he wants to see her blow another guy, yet apparently he's super sweet to her and does all these kind things. He's already proposed to her, and wanted to get married the next day, but she turned him down.
Everybody on the forum is telling her that he's crazy, that he's emotionally abusive and that she should leave him. At least 50 people have told her to dump him. But she won't. She has low self-esteem, thinks he's the best boyfriend she's ever had, that he's so sweet etc.
I'm pretty sure that this guy has BPD at least, and subconsciously doing push/pull on her and she's just eating it up. This guy is going to break her.
She knows I'm interested in her and we've been continuing to message each other. I'm being supportive without getting involved in her life.
Is there anything I can do to get her to leave him, and at least go on one date with me?
She's pretty much my ideal woman in looks, personality and interests. I deeply regret not making a move on her when she was single.