Why the F*ck are you having problems with women?

[betheman]

Originally Posted by backbreaker

for a very long time, this site has had it's balance of people between normal people who go out and game women and come back to talk about stuff and keyboard jockeys. but all the normal people have left or just about all of them to keep the keyboard jockeys in place, and now the keyboard jockeys are running the asylum, they use each others pats on the backs to comfort each other and to give each other momentum and all they are doing is providing some type of mental shift of accountability for their lack of will/success from i suck to fvck all women everywhere.

I mean, anyone who hates an entire group of people with no prejudices, rather it be republicans or democrats or blacks or whites or women and men, they have an agenda 10 out of 10 times. there is no other way around it.

thats an opinion, not fact! I dont hate an entire gender (I note you almost refer to training your wife , akin to training a dog?), I dont hate women at all, there are some I dont like, dont have any respect for but you just continue with the shaming tactics if that makes you feel better about yourself.

[Mercenary]

I check this site maybe once every six months, to see if it still exist for one, and two to see if my account is still active.

Threads like this one are the third reason why I come back here. I want to see if we "left a man behind". It seems like there are so many who just never will get it. That's totally fine. It's not me trying to jab someone else to make myself feel big. This isn't for everyone, regardless of how intuitive some of the concepts involved might seem.

I feel it's no different that people who have trouble with personal finance, physical fitness, etc. Attracting women is a skill that can be learned. But just like many other skills that can be learned.... not everyone has the capacity or discipline to be good at them.

backbreaker is correct: many of the guys who actually go out there and do there thing are gone....

Be wary of this. There's really no reason for a guy who is all of the things that this site and others advocate, to stick around. At some point you got to go out and live your life, and be skillful. Some of the post counts some of the members on here have are just astonishing. Not trying to hate, but it's like... "when are you out there living your life, as opposed to writing about it online?".

At some point it makes more sense to just write a book. It's certainly more profitable. Right?

[GotED?]

I think SS breaks down to only 3 categories of men on here:

Type A: (A)ssholes who just want to fook all the women they can get and dump along the way to stroke their ego and achieve their false inner self-esteem which is truly fragile until they realize one day how empty they are. One day they look in the mirror and start to dislike what the reflection tells him and his lifestory. These are also the men who emotionally damage women out there and Type B and Type C has to deal with in the future - thanks to Type A, they are Paying Backwards.


Then there is the....

Type B: (B)oring types who don't have a clue what women are all about - not particulary their own fault because we are all born with certain ingrained personality and also conditioned by how we are raised and our environment, whether it was emotionally traumatizing or positively encouraging. These are the good ol' AFC a lot of us started from. Through experience the Type B becomes modified over many years to become the masculine man they need to be instead of walking carpets for women.

Finally....

Type C: (C)ommittment focused men who grew up from Type A or Type B who realized that they are ready to see what a real woman truly is: One who is feminine and knows a woman's role in life - not a SheMan. This is called mental and emotional maturity in essence, and not every man becomes this. A lot of men get stuck in boyish childish behavior that is rewarded by a life of chaos, irresponsibility, and pain/loneliness. Type C men know how to choose and pick the good apples from a truckload of rotten ones, they can discern the worm that is hidden in the middle of the apple without having to bite into it. I believe this is what SS helps men to become - better discerning so the Type C men can avoid having to bite in the first place.

With respect,

Exodus

[samspade]

Originally Posted by Colossus

I'm in agreement with Backbreaker these days....I think too many guys over-think everything with women!!!

The problem with a place like this---while a great resource and a popular Pro-Male haven---is that it becomes an echo chamber. The more time you spend here (or elsewhere in the manosphere) the more you start to see everything in this hyper-analytic, cynical light. You cant get out of your own damned way.

Guys that come here and stick around tend to be thinkers. And the problem with thinkers, with intelligent guys who need to know how everything works, is that they never do themselves any favors with women. Example: last night I was at the local pub and I observed a lot, as always. I noticed there are usually two types of guys at bars--the ones who tend to hang out with each other or their group, and the ones who are either dumb enough, drunk enough, or just ballsy enough to walk up to women and say sh!t. Women who go to bars dont necessarily want to get approached by douchebags, but they dont do it just to gaggle up with their girlfriends either. They are just as insecure (probably more so) as any quiet guy in the bar. If someone with even an ounce of charm just walks up to them and puts forth a little effort, they like it. Half the time they probably end up fvcking them. They just want to feel wanted.

The point of that anecdote is that while it's good to read and be introspective at times, don't over-think everything. I read these agonizingly complex and long diatribes here about why women are difficult and why the male-female balance is askew in society today....and while there is usually some truth to all of them, at the end of the day it amounts to academic masturbation. You arent doing yourself any favors by filling your head with this nonsense because you will convey your negative feelings and misgivings in your interactions with women. I know because I've been guilty of it for a long time.

Yes, there is a lot that is fvcked up about the way society views men collectively and they way we are treated in the family court system. But rallying on the internet only goes so far. Start being the men you want to be. Start choosing ONLY women who are truly feminine and believe in traditional gender roles. Women who have to be miss bossy pants about everything and believe that male leadership is antiquated can get left for guys who will tolerate that sh!t. It's not your problem.

Colossus for the win here. You guys should pay attention. I myself went through a real keyboard jockey phase. It's natural when you learn game to look under the hood to understand all the whys and hows. But your actions and your choices speak volumes. Once you know, keep it to yourself and live your life the way you know it should be lived. 99 problems and all that.

[Boilermaker]

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Wow , I missed that golden post from Colossus. Thanks for pointing it out.