There is a girl I have been "dating" a few times. She is 26, perhaps a 7,5/10, yet with a very sober and charming personality.
A month or so has passed. I have no plans on asking her out again, if she does not reply. Remembering that she asked me basically whether or not I had next'ed her, should I message her either telling that I have nexted her, or asking her what she is doing (as to not make any hasty decisions), before I decide to next her?
We met in a trolleybus, she noticed a detail about me and we talked for some 20 minutes until her stop. She told me we would meet each other again soon. (I am a member of a fraternity and she of a sorority - we have quite a few joint events)
She walked into an event my fraternity had in another city. It was early in the morning and we decided to take the first bus home. She was tired and wanted to sleep initially, but we (she) kept talking the whole 2+ hour bus journey. Turned out we live quite close to each other, so I escorted her home (ca 100m away). Got an insignificant hug as a result. Got her Facebook address while talking on the bus.
Asked her on a date some days later. She was busy with school, so declined the first time. There was an event for members of the academia so I asked her if she would attend. She seemed hesitant at first, but told me she would come. So she did. She was happy to see me at said event, but there were a lot of people and activities and I spent most of the time talking with other people I met there. I saw her too talking with some other guy - and decided not intervene. She later commented that it was a "new friend".
I asked her out again a few days later, so we could be somewhere more private, to get to know each other, as that aforementioned event was clearly not the right venue for it. She agreed. We sat down in a relaxing outdoor restaurant. She told me she was not hungry, so we took only some water. Some 2 hours pleasant get-to-know each other talking, after which we decided to move on. She saw the lights of a tivoli close by. I did not fancy it too much, as it had low quality rides with expensive prices, but she insisted. (We had decided to drive to a park - she had a car - and go to a walk afterwards) Upon inspecting the tivoli we found two rides - one I liked and one she liked. I convinced her to take my pick. It was her who was first at the ticket stall and paid for both of our tickets before I could react. The ride itself was horrendeous. Almost 10 minutes of moving around at high speeds high above the ground. She passed out within the first minutes, while I fared a bit better. End result was, that I had to help her to get to a bench and we had to sit there for 10 minutes, before she felt sufficiently well to drive home. No walking in the park for obvious reasons. She drove me home too (or very close to it).
I was not thinking too straight, but as I am hosting a role playing game (something along the lines of DnD), I thought I would ask her (while we were driving home) if she would be interested. Obviously I asked her whether she would be interested in roleplaying.
Needless to say, no role playing games were played that night. I did not however distance myself from her by asking the question. I wanted to imply that it was her who had sexual thoughts, but could not say that in a timely manner.
I assumed the date was a failure and besides asking her if she had gotten home safely, had no contact with her for a month or so. One evening I got a text message from an unknown number, asking what I was up to for tonight. I decided to call back and told that person that I got the message but I did not know him/her. Turned out it was her, asking me if I'd be interested in going to a bonfire with her (with another friend of hers from her sorority potentially joining). When she introduced herself, she asked me if I had already deleted her number (in fact I had forgot to add it in my phone book) and decided that she is not worth it. We agreed to meet up at a location where she would pick me up and we would drive to the bonfire. We ended up talking a bit and dancing as the night went on. Again, she drove me home some time after midnight.
Asked her to the movies some days later. She could not make it the day I had asked, but proposed another. I agreed to it, and let her choose a movie out of three I had chosen. I arrived early to buy the tickets. She seemed to enjoy it, but we were too busy watching the movie (and no, it was not a particularly romantic one) so we barely talked after it started. She asked me what I had planned for the rest of the evening and after I said that I had no specific plans, she told me she would go home. We talked on the way to the bus stop, with me teasing her. Got another of those insignificant hugs from her.". Haven't heard anything else from her since then.
A month or so has passed. I have no plans on asking her out again, if she does not reply. Remembering that she asked me basically whether or not I had next'ed her, should I message her either telling that I have nexted her, or asking her what she is doing (as to not make any hasty decisions), before I decide to next her?
