gottagetthatgirl said:
lol. Yea man, I just realized today im stressing it too much. I have reached a point of not even wanting to talk to a girl. I know this may sound bitter and thats because it is I think.
Im tired of doing all this crap like talking to girls and stuff. Like even the thought of talking to her makes me kinda mad. I mean I dont feel like listening to her little stories and all.
Well everybody gets frustrated with girls from time to time. Unfortunately,this is just how women are. I have a friend who was kind of in the same mental state as your describing. He was asking me some questions about this one woman who he liked,and I told him a lot of the things taught here on the forum,mostly about being a man (having a strong frame,not being needy,etc.),and one day he just flat out said to me,"Why can't I just be nice to her?". This "Don Juan"/picking up girls thing WILL wear you down and frustrate you.....IF you make it your life.
If all you think about is girls,sex,interest levels,attraction,DHVs,"what if she rejects me?",and everything else concerning dating,then mentally you'll burn yourself out.
gottagetthatgirl said:
I just feel like saying "if you want to hang with me then do it!"
Yes,I know this feeling. But you've been here long enough to know that you can't do this and be successful.
gottagetthatgirl said:
I mean I dont know why it took me so long to see this. I guess I just reached a breaking point. Im always trying to make the girl happy or prove to her that im better than other guys.
Why are you trying to make the girl happy? All you have to do is just build attraction,she'll do the rest. Look at Rhianna and Chris Brown. You think she's happy getting bit,punched,and beat upside her head? Of course not,but you know what? She let her feelings/attraction for him override his bad behavior.
Don't go for happiness,go for attraction. If you do that,then
she'll take care of the happiness part herself.
gottagetthat girl said:
I dont have a car so that drags me down, I feel like no girl wants me when I dont have a car.
Well,I'm not going to lie to you. Some girls may look down on you for not having a car. However,I don't this it's so much the car itself as for what it represents,which is freedom,independence,and being self-sufficient. Qualities women want in a man. But hey,if you just had some girl over to your place 3 days ago,then obviously the car issue is something you're able to overcome.
gottagetthatgirl said:
im just tired of trying to "win" girls over when they should be trying to "win" me over.
Ok,well if you're tired of doing it,then WHY are you doing it? If you're trying to win them over,then that means your mentalitly is off. In other words,me telling you to "stop trying to win them over" isn't going to cut it. You'll need to examine your thinking to find out why you're trying to win them over win it should be the other way around. And unfortunately,you won't be able to do this in a day or two. It'll take some time.
One thing that might help you is to stop thinking that each woman you come into contact with is "the one",and you HAVE TO get "it" right this time.
That kind of thinking puts you under pressure.
Just chill out man. Let girls/dating be A PART of you life rater than the main focus. Like your job. When you're at work,do all you can. Put in 100%. Then when you're at school,forget about work,then put all you have into school. Then when it comes to dating,do all you can there. There's no one part that's everything.