time is now
Here are her pros and cons
Pros
Loyal, Dependable, Family Oriented, Gets along with my family, Affectionate, Cooks for me and Sex whenever I want it
Cons
Blows up at me over the littlest things, Overweight, Tries to be controlling, Intrusive Family, and Attemps to control relationship
This woman is not marriage material, at BEST I would just have had sex with her and left it at that. The reason being is that just about all of the Pros you listed are things that comes with ANY woman that has high interest. But you can't marry someone based on high interest alone, you have to marry someone based on high interest AND high quality (if you are going to marry, I say forgo marriage period and just do a LTR).
- When you say she's overweight, I assume that means she's a FAT chick right? How could you be attracted to her physically? A woman that doesn't take care of herself physically and will ALLOW herself to be over 225lbs is low quality.
- A chick blowing up at you over small things shows disrespect. Her trying to control you and her family trying to do it as well, also shows disrespect as well as a lack of trust. That shows her low quality, as a higher quality woman would NEVER marry a guy she doesn't respect nor trusts his leadership/values/point of view. Either she's desperate or she's one of these power hungry feminist chicks, BOTH of which are low quality.
..if I decide I need to leave my wife I don't want to have any contact with her or her family or as little as possible. Can someone let me know what the best plan for me would be? This is what I came up with so far...
1.) Call my rental place and say I am moving out. Since I would be breaking my lease is the only consequence that I lose the security deposit?
2.) Purchase PO Box at the Post Office and Forward all my mail there
3.) Purchase a monthly storage unit
4.) Find a day when my place will be free and hire a moving company to move all the stuff I want (really my stuff before the marriage, computer, tv, my bed, my couches to the storage unit)
5.) Find a temporary place to live and move there
6.) Work with my lawyer from there on out
Thoughts?
If you decide to divorce your wife, you contact your LAWYER FIRST to determine the approach, plan, etc. I don't know the terms of your Lease Agreement, but the security deposit is provided upfront to cover damages done to the apartment should you move out and the apartment is damaged in some context. There might be an early termination fee to the Lease Agreement, you have to read it and see, you should have read that information before signing the Lease though.
Do you have a place to stay should you move out? If you want to leave, get a lawyer, serve up papers, move your stuff out and go stay somewhere else. The divorce proceeding shouldn't go that long if you both don't have a lot of assets, no kids, etc.
This will be a lesson going forward, marriage or LTRs is for SPECIAL women. There's nothing special about a chick just displaying high interest, you want a chick that displays high interest who ALSO has a quality stature. Quality (at least in my opinion) is where she's educated, keeps herself UP through exercise/beauty, doesn't bring some other man's seed(s) into the relationship, her family is supportive rather than a pain in the a.ss, etc. You can be miserable by yourself, there's no reason to sign a Marriage Contract to do it, but unfortunately, far too many marriages are just two people hanging onto each other but miserable as hell in the relationship.