Once you get successful enough with women you start to notice a dark side of game. I have been moderately "successful" this year but i am starting to notice that the game is changing my psyche for the worse. Here are some reasons why:
1.) Most plates we acquire will eventually have to be dropped. A guy cannot juggle a rotation of females indefinitely. Someone is going to push for a LTR. The plates that you don't settle down with are going to be very hurt. At this point you have emotionally bonded with each other and cutting them out of your life is psychologically difficult for both parties involved.
2.) The STI/ STD risk. As a guy with decent number you will acquire STDs. I got a couple that thankfully ended up being minor. I was fortunate that they didn’t affect my health to a significant degree. Even if you use a condom you roll the dice every time you sleep with a new girl. Even minor STDs have a way of making you rethink your lifestyle.
3.) You become a sociopath. You have to be slightly sociopathic in order to be able to not take all of the mind games of modern women personally. A certain part of your emotions must be numb to rejection and mind games.
4.) In order to get laid a lot you have to de-pedestalize women. It is this de-pedestalization that you lose the romantic naivety that is required for long term pair bonding like marriage. No girl is really that special anymore. Listening to sappy love songs even on your wedding day will seem like a chore. You no longer believe the lie of romantic "love". Everyone needs that disillusion in order to operate in a relationship.
5.) Cheating becomes easier. With power comes responsibility. It is very difficult to not cheat on a physically mediocre girl if you have the seduction tools to cheat. Guys are only as loyal as their options. I really commend guys that can cheat but don’t. Most guys that are good with women struggle with this one.
6.) Guys will either respect you or envy you. I found myself being the object of moral indignation from my friends who did not have such a robust sex life. I started to gravitate towards my friends that were even bigger womanizers than I am. It created an echo chamber. We all related to each other.
7.) You start to get emotionally manipulative. I became so good at manipulating girls emotions that I began to cause drama in order stir up an emotional response. I had internalized the idea that without an emotional rollercoaster many American women will get bored. I started to unconsciously create drama in the relationships I had. It was like I was becoming a woman lol.
8.) Spinning plates becomes hard. You feel like a fraud. If you are dating multiple women you become an actor. You are acting like each one is special. Pretty soon you look in the mirror and you don’t like the fraud that you have become. Being emotionally intimate simultaneously with multiple women eventually take its toll on your psyche. It takes enormous cognitive dissonance to say that special line to one girl and mean it, then the next day to say the same line to another girl. It’s not cool. You feel fake.
9.) Society ultimately does not respect players. Many people will look at you sexual prowess with disgust. They will urge you to settle down. You will gain a reputation for being a "man *****". Society rewards the family man. It abhors the lone wolf.
1.) Most plates we acquire will eventually have to be dropped. A guy cannot juggle a rotation of females indefinitely. Someone is going to push for a LTR. The plates that you don't settle down with are going to be very hurt. At this point you have emotionally bonded with each other and cutting them out of your life is psychologically difficult for both parties involved.
2.) The STI/ STD risk. As a guy with decent number you will acquire STDs. I got a couple that thankfully ended up being minor. I was fortunate that they didn’t affect my health to a significant degree. Even if you use a condom you roll the dice every time you sleep with a new girl. Even minor STDs have a way of making you rethink your lifestyle.
3.) You become a sociopath. You have to be slightly sociopathic in order to be able to not take all of the mind games of modern women personally. A certain part of your emotions must be numb to rejection and mind games.
4.) In order to get laid a lot you have to de-pedestalize women. It is this de-pedestalization that you lose the romantic naivety that is required for long term pair bonding like marriage. No girl is really that special anymore. Listening to sappy love songs even on your wedding day will seem like a chore. You no longer believe the lie of romantic "love". Everyone needs that disillusion in order to operate in a relationship.
5.) Cheating becomes easier. With power comes responsibility. It is very difficult to not cheat on a physically mediocre girl if you have the seduction tools to cheat. Guys are only as loyal as their options. I really commend guys that can cheat but don’t. Most guys that are good with women struggle with this one.
6.) Guys will either respect you or envy you. I found myself being the object of moral indignation from my friends who did not have such a robust sex life. I started to gravitate towards my friends that were even bigger womanizers than I am. It created an echo chamber. We all related to each other.
7.) You start to get emotionally manipulative. I became so good at manipulating girls emotions that I began to cause drama in order stir up an emotional response. I had internalized the idea that without an emotional rollercoaster many American women will get bored. I started to unconsciously create drama in the relationships I had. It was like I was becoming a woman lol.
8.) Spinning plates becomes hard. You feel like a fraud. If you are dating multiple women you become an actor. You are acting like each one is special. Pretty soon you look in the mirror and you don’t like the fraud that you have become. Being emotionally intimate simultaneously with multiple women eventually take its toll on your psyche. It takes enormous cognitive dissonance to say that special line to one girl and mean it, then the next day to say the same line to another girl. It’s not cool. You feel fake.
9.) Society ultimately does not respect players. Many people will look at you sexual prowess with disgust. They will urge you to settle down. You will gain a reputation for being a "man *****". Society rewards the family man. It abhors the lone wolf.