Update
I texted her this:
"Had a great time and really enjoyed getting to know you. Lets see each other again when we can."
20min later
HB7- Thank you. I had a really good time too. I am glad I still met you after the phone conversation. I am gonna be busy for the next 2 weeks but I can try to make time.
Me- Nothing
(She said she hated my phone call but still agreed to meet me, told me later that night she was glad she did. First time I have EVER heard my phone skills were weak. I think its the small language barrier. I was only on the phone with her for 4 minutes. When I sensed her squirm I just booked the meeting.)
(She really is going to be busy. She is an event planner for a venue and they have lots of holiday parties. She spoke of this too while together. I even mentioned it sometime that night "I guess we will just have to wait till January" for something, I dont remeber what. She replied "Well we could see each other at night you know" I told her I wasn’t gonna drive that far unless I was spending the night. She agreed. I strongly dont think this is a blow off of any kind.
I was thinking of texting her back "Youll make time" Or" If you want those massages again, youll make time" Something like that. But I am quickly learning, especially since I HATE texting, that usually nothing, is better than even the best text.
What is nice about this chick, is even though I would like to see her again, and she is definitely down to F. I am the closest I have ever been to outcome indifference with a girl before.
Espi- I really like the idea of saying nothing. I really, really, hate this text game. I stress WAY more about each f^ckin text I send than any other part of my interaction with a woman, including cold approaches, sex, talking on the phone or in person. As a matter of fact I am pretty bold and assertive at everything I do with a chick, for the most part, except for text.
Last night, an HB8 texted me after she and her friend flaked fri night. First time I met them. Texted her and she didnt respond till Sun. "Who is this". I was skeptical to even answer. But I reminded her anyway. She Said" Oooooo my God I didnt even realize this was your "
I drafted this: "No prob. Let me know the next time your performing and we'll hang out." But I decided not to send it. I dont want to be a fan. I want to eat her box. So... If I reach out again Im thinking to just invite her for drinks somewhere. I know she has low IL for me but, who the fuc9 cares really. I have been pulling good lately so whatever if she blows me off. But why even contact me and then respond again?
