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Don Juan
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Random thoughts from a guy in the midst of his transformation.
Don’t go after girls who have known you in your blue pill days
As a former beta, you probably know a lot of hot women who have always been “friends”. They are not the women you want to begin trying to run game and sleep with. Even if your attitude and appearance has changed, it’s almost impossible to get these women interested in you at first. They’ve known you too long and they are simply bias. If you want to sleep with a women who knew you in your blue pill days, the way to do that is be seen dating lots of other hot women. When she sees your success with other girls, she’ll see you in a different light and began to finally wonder what’s changed about you, and why you and her never hooked up. Her hamster will spin, she’ll drop hints, and then you can have the green light. Once you knock down the first one in your circle of female friends, the others will fall quickly.
One exception to this—if it’s a women you tried to date and were rejected, skip it. If it’s one-ities, skip it. If it’s a women you let know you had a crush on, feelings for, skip it. Not worth your time and you are only asking for trouble. The only valid targets among your circle of “friends” are the ones you never truly hit on in the past, and only after they know what you’ve been doing lately.
Stop jacking off within reason
I’m not a no-fapper, I think there is a lot of beta bull**** in that movement. I think a lot of no-fap also has guys who just can’t deal with sex, and a lot of religious nutjobs. There’s nothing wrong with masturbating, nothing to feel guilty about, but there are several reasons why you should limit your self-pleasure:
Alpha males don’t jack off, they **** women.
You will have more confidence, and more urge to go out and meet people.
You will be able to convert that spare sexual energy into creative projects and endeavors.
For these reasons alone, it’s better to have self-control. It’s fine if you do it sometimes, but it shouldn’t be a lifestyle choice or a crutch because you aren’t getting a real women. Stop watching porn and for god sakes do not jack off first thing in the morning—it will kill your sex drive for the rest of the day. Your mind set is should be that you don’t need to masturbate or watch porn because you are ****ing real women.
The difference this will make in your life is pretty intense. When I quit, I often begin to feel like I was constantly on cocaine, with just every nerve in my body yelling “GO! DO SOMETHING! GO! MAKE SOMETHING HAPPEN!” It’s a natural rush.
Don’t become disgusted with women
As you begin to value yourself more and treat yourself better, you will lose tolerant for women and their flakey behavior. Don’t get angry with them or get bitter or jaded. It’s their nature. Accept that this is simply the natural way of the feminine and move on. Laugh at it when you can. Never tolerate disrespect or bad behavior from her. Walk away, dump her, laid down the ground rules, whatever is appropriate. Getting angry and becoming a misogynist serves no purpose, it doesn’t help you, and it doesn’t help women. Don’t let the way stupid way people act rob you of your natural joy.
There comes a time when you must start taking action
Age old question, which comes first, the chicken or the egg? Do you start with inner game & self improvement? Work on yourself and build a new mindset, then use that to begin taking actions your old self would never have done? Or do you start with the fake it until you make it, taking action until success comes and it simply feels natural?
I won’t get into an in-depth argument on the pros and cons of both approaches, but I will say this. At the end of the day, there is no substitute for action. At some point, you have to start doing cold approaches and talking to women and gaming because if you don’t your new mindset will start making you angry at yourself and angry at women. At some point, you have to take the plunge.
Don’t rely on online dating
Don’t rely on Tinder, POF, Match, OKCupid. It’s fine to use these as supplements, where you snag the occasional girl, but they are not your primary and main source of meeting women. If this is your main source of meeting women, you aren’t living life to the fullest. If you do use them, these are my tips:
Tinder: Waste no time when the match happens. These chicks are no looking for new friends and nice guys. Let them know what’s up and why you two are chatting. Get the number and the meeting setup as quickly as possible. You most likely have immediate sex from a tinder match.
POF: For me it’s mainly waste of time, mainly girls who like getting emails from hundreds of guys but don’t respond. However, it’s probably worth it to setup a good profile and log in a few times a week and spend 5 minutes on the site. If you see someone you really want to message, do it, but don’t write messages. The only purpose of keeping the POF account open and active is to wait for chicks who click they want to meet you. Those should turn into dates and then scores. I know a lot of guys trash plenty of fish but I’ve meet and ****ed at least one beautiful and pretty awesome girl on there. Again, no more than 5 minutes a day on it.
Match.com – I haven’t tried it but my friends are on it and it seems like mainly for women looking to settle down with betas.
Chase freedom
Most importantly, go after your on desires and freedom. Identify the things that are holding you back and get those things out of your life. Maybe it’s your job, maybe it’s a roommate, maybe it’s a financial situation. Whatever it is, identify it and get it out of your life so you can go after what you really want.
Don’t go after girls who have known you in your blue pill days
As a former beta, you probably know a lot of hot women who have always been “friends”. They are not the women you want to begin trying to run game and sleep with. Even if your attitude and appearance has changed, it’s almost impossible to get these women interested in you at first. They’ve known you too long and they are simply bias. If you want to sleep with a women who knew you in your blue pill days, the way to do that is be seen dating lots of other hot women. When she sees your success with other girls, she’ll see you in a different light and began to finally wonder what’s changed about you, and why you and her never hooked up. Her hamster will spin, she’ll drop hints, and then you can have the green light. Once you knock down the first one in your circle of female friends, the others will fall quickly.
One exception to this—if it’s a women you tried to date and were rejected, skip it. If it’s one-ities, skip it. If it’s a women you let know you had a crush on, feelings for, skip it. Not worth your time and you are only asking for trouble. The only valid targets among your circle of “friends” are the ones you never truly hit on in the past, and only after they know what you’ve been doing lately.
Stop jacking off within reason
I’m not a no-fapper, I think there is a lot of beta bull**** in that movement. I think a lot of no-fap also has guys who just can’t deal with sex, and a lot of religious nutjobs. There’s nothing wrong with masturbating, nothing to feel guilty about, but there are several reasons why you should limit your self-pleasure:
Alpha males don’t jack off, they **** women.
You will have more confidence, and more urge to go out and meet people.
You will be able to convert that spare sexual energy into creative projects and endeavors.
For these reasons alone, it’s better to have self-control. It’s fine if you do it sometimes, but it shouldn’t be a lifestyle choice or a crutch because you aren’t getting a real women. Stop watching porn and for god sakes do not jack off first thing in the morning—it will kill your sex drive for the rest of the day. Your mind set is should be that you don’t need to masturbate or watch porn because you are ****ing real women.
The difference this will make in your life is pretty intense. When I quit, I often begin to feel like I was constantly on cocaine, with just every nerve in my body yelling “GO! DO SOMETHING! GO! MAKE SOMETHING HAPPEN!” It’s a natural rush.
Don’t become disgusted with women
As you begin to value yourself more and treat yourself better, you will lose tolerant for women and their flakey behavior. Don’t get angry with them or get bitter or jaded. It’s their nature. Accept that this is simply the natural way of the feminine and move on. Laugh at it when you can. Never tolerate disrespect or bad behavior from her. Walk away, dump her, laid down the ground rules, whatever is appropriate. Getting angry and becoming a misogynist serves no purpose, it doesn’t help you, and it doesn’t help women. Don’t let the way stupid way people act rob you of your natural joy.
There comes a time when you must start taking action
Age old question, which comes first, the chicken or the egg? Do you start with inner game & self improvement? Work on yourself and build a new mindset, then use that to begin taking actions your old self would never have done? Or do you start with the fake it until you make it, taking action until success comes and it simply feels natural?
I won’t get into an in-depth argument on the pros and cons of both approaches, but I will say this. At the end of the day, there is no substitute for action. At some point, you have to start doing cold approaches and talking to women and gaming because if you don’t your new mindset will start making you angry at yourself and angry at women. At some point, you have to take the plunge.
Don’t rely on online dating
Don’t rely on Tinder, POF, Match, OKCupid. It’s fine to use these as supplements, where you snag the occasional girl, but they are not your primary and main source of meeting women. If this is your main source of meeting women, you aren’t living life to the fullest. If you do use them, these are my tips:
Tinder: Waste no time when the match happens. These chicks are no looking for new friends and nice guys. Let them know what’s up and why you two are chatting. Get the number and the meeting setup as quickly as possible. You most likely have immediate sex from a tinder match.
POF: For me it’s mainly waste of time, mainly girls who like getting emails from hundreds of guys but don’t respond. However, it’s probably worth it to setup a good profile and log in a few times a week and spend 5 minutes on the site. If you see someone you really want to message, do it, but don’t write messages. The only purpose of keeping the POF account open and active is to wait for chicks who click they want to meet you. Those should turn into dates and then scores. I know a lot of guys trash plenty of fish but I’ve meet and ****ed at least one beautiful and pretty awesome girl on there. Again, no more than 5 minutes a day on it.
Match.com – I haven’t tried it but my friends are on it and it seems like mainly for women looking to settle down with betas.
Chase freedom
Most importantly, go after your on desires and freedom. Identify the things that are holding you back and get those things out of your life. Maybe it’s your job, maybe it’s a roommate, maybe it’s a financial situation. Whatever it is, identify it and get it out of your life so you can go after what you really want.
