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Why are there so many threads about race?

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Seriously. I don't mean that as a flame or get your **** together type post, but seriously, WHY are there so many threads about race?


Think about it for a second. You never hear a white guy on this forum say "damn dude.. I really would like to score with some black chicks but they don't like me, my race is a deterrent"


For that matter, you really never hear latinos say that either.


Race is only a problem, or better stated a topic for discussion when you want to venture outside yours. You never hear latinos or white people complain about their race because they don't have any reason to venture outside of theirs.


no, you hear it from 2 groups of people.

1. Asians / Indians
2. Black people


In both cases, the number of available women in both communities is so low that the men, to get laid on a consistent basis, have to venture outside of it.

This is the reason I don't "like" black women. I find them attractive, but they piss me off as a whole, because they basically force educated black men to either dumb down and be thugs or to date white women.

Americanized Asian women want nothing to do with Asian men for the most part.


IN that case, yes, you probably are at a disadvantage in todays dating world. Tell me about it, it's tough I get it. You got to work twice as hard to get half as much. But that's life.


There just aren't any cute black chicks out there en masse unless you live in LA, Chicago, Atlanta, NY or Washington. Maybe through Houston in there as well. The few that have their **** together are so picky, and can be, that you are better off dating outside your race. Then if you find one that's cute, you have to hope she isn't ghetto as hell, hope she doesn't have kids and and so on.


So what's the end game?

1. MOve to a city where the numbers are in your favor. First and foremost. If you are a black dude living in oxford missisippi sorry brah your game life is not going to be the same as mine living in LA. Women out here are much more open minded and they are 20x more of them to chose from. Cost of living is a big factor, use your free time while single to build up your money so you can move and live comfortably.

2. Don't stress out about it. It's just the way it is right now. Doesn't mean you are a chump. it's just not in the cards for you right now to get where you want to do. The worst thing you can do is settle for something you dont' want just to get laid. '


3. Learn how to make yourself happy and not be dependent on women. This is important for any guy but it's very important for a guy like myself who being black living in little rock, ar, was prone to go months without dates.
 

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Because regardless of what race some one is, we all love to make excuses for our shortcomings so we don't have to take accountability for our faults.
 
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If you are so sensitive to the point that maybe 3 or 4 threads about race in the past 24 hours manage to get you worked up then you just don't need to be on internet forums. Your issues are much larger than that because normal people can easily ignore a race thread or two. I never got why threads that deal with Asian men wanting to do better with White women target more hate than discussions on other forums which deal with some more extreme **** like people wanting to exterminate an entire ethnic group (srs). It is almost like some kind of a conspiracy going on.

But I get it, race threads are automatically bad but I am here to talk about a bigger problem that plagues this forum.

If you are so worked up over something this small, your life is a ****ing joke. I don't know how else I can word it but I know what I am saying is correct. A guy like me could give less of a **** if a Black guy posts about wanting to date interracial because I don't worry about that. What bothers me isn't that people are bothered over some race threads, it is more that people who are sensitive enough to be bothered by something so harmless are the ones giving advice to others on how to live.

These are the same people who are promoting themselves as playboys and putting down others as trolls and AFCs yet they themselves are living a lie online. That itself is a much bigger problem than the race threads, the people who can play the power game on the forum to keep from getting banned but live depressing lives and still offer "advice" to young lost people. Most of your time outside of doing necessary chores is spent chatting with people on an internet forum, just what piece of advice could you offer a young guy? That's right, none!

Wasn't really intended towards the OP but just certain posters.
 
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I never got the whole black men struggling to land women part at all, always thought they had it as easy as White guys because of the media image.

I see men from all races make race threads but the politically incorrect truth is that when a White male asks advice on how to date women from minority groups he gets all the help in the world. People are alright with White men talking about how to game women of different races because that is okay by society. Now lets flip the switch, say an Asian or Indian does the same thing and asks how to game attractive White girls then it all goes downhill from there, people make him out to be a sociopath for it. Does anyone else not see this double standard?

The truth is that a White guy has to work significantly less to get an ethnic girl that is a 9 or 10 while an Asian or Indian dude would probably not be able to land a Margot Robbie lookalike in some big cities even if he has a six figure salary, good looks, and is far from an FOB.

There are discussions far more controversial and even dangerous which involve race in other forums, talks that have racial slurs and open hatred for an ethnic group which go for pages yet no one says anything about those. Now here we have maybe 1 thread from an Asian dude asking how he can get a hot blonde girlfriend and everyone erupts, that I never understood.

Not only is there a disadvantage of being a certain race, but you aren't even allowed to talk about it and overcome it? I say this is some legitimate BS but whatever, maybe one day we will be allowed to have a thread where guys of all races can share their experiences in learning game and developing with women but I guess that won't be anytime soon or on this forum.
 

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If white men are at the top of the food chain, then it would only be logical that non-white men would have a much more difficult time with women of all races.

Further logic deduces that there would be more non-whites on this forum due to the previous assertion. Race would be a highly debated topic as a result (and yes, whining to go with that).

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I'm not even imploring that there is anything wrong with the race threads, but there are a lot of them. I'm a curious person by nature.

it's not so much that white men are at the top of the food chain, as much as it is that america is a white country populated mostly by white people. it's easier for avg white guys to get laid than avg asian / black / whatever guys beucase there are more options for white people.
 
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I thought that thread posted by the dude about not being White working to your advantage if you are top tier had potential but it was locked. Now I understand mods locking threads which are full of negativity and whiny nonsense but that thread had some legit potential and could have offered a more positive perspective on race.

As for the race threads. Minorities are constantly surrounded by images of White people (men and women) wherever they go. When a guy goes from his community to the more "mainstream community" (read White community) such as say college or a lot of higher class areas in the USA he is surrounded mostly by White girls. Now an Asian guy also has to deal with the fact that women of his own race are leaving him for White men.
What is happening is that everyone is assimilating into the mainstream (White) culture and the beneficiaries in the end are White males. Reason being that women from foreign backgrounds are trying to be a part of American society and what better way to do that then get a trophy White boyfriend right? It works out because men in general aren't as picky as women so the girl gets her trophy White boyfriend and he gets his foreign exotic girlfriend.

Now lets flip the switch and see it from the side of a minority male, he too wants to assimilate into mainstream culture but he is dealing with a few things:

1. He isn't seen as the ideal that media promotes to women (reason being that Hollywood and media exclusively give most desirable roles to White males even today)

2. The fact of nature that women are pickier than men (especially American and Western women in general who are the pickiest of the bunch)

His path is a lot harder, he can be good looking and even financially well off but that alone won't earn him his blonde trophy wife who could easily get a White guy from her country club social circle. Now that guy needs advice to get the kind of girl he likes because it is a much harder path for him.

That is how race threads end up existing but they are too controversial since even on internet communities dedicated to helping men get better with women, people just aren't comfortable with a minority wanting to date a blonde that looks hot.

With that being said, what is it with so many discussions from black men saying they are having it tough? I always thought being Black was an advantage because of the good stereotypes in media.
 

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Because Im sexually frustrated and it doesn't help I live in a place where most of the girls are 8/10s. I have to let out this frustration somehow and if I didnt I probably would've been on CNN a while back. Yes, some guys are optimistic fools that can just deny anything negative whatsoever and continue life living like an naive. However, I was born with a brain capable of thought, and I just can't deny shvt like that. Im probably going to just start blogging or make a career out of bvtching because that's just what I am. I want to be in the game too. Yes, white guys have it bad too, but all yall have to is play the numbers game and not fear rejection.

You are absolutely right! I should move and I would move in a heartbeat if I had the chance. There's not a single hour where I do not think about leaving this hellhole. However, I must serve this gruesome prison sentence granted to me by some greater entity because I must have been a serial rapist in my previous life or something.

Why I go for white women? First, I've never met an Asian or hispanic female willing to date a guy that wasn't a nerdy guy. Plus, I dont even find them that attractive in the first place. I'm of upper middle class background, so I rarely see a fitting black woman. Whenever I do, they only date nerdy white guys. This leaves me with only white women. I grew up with the white standard of beauty and I have interracial ancestors that date back when a black man couldn't look at a white woman, so it's in my blood lol. **** me right
 

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Ambitious Player said:
I never got the whole black men struggling to land women part at all, always thought they had it as easy as White guys because of the media image.

I see men from all races make race threads but the politically incorrect truth is that when a White male asks advice on how to date women from minority groups he gets all the help in the world. People are alright with White men talking about how to game women of different races because that is okay by society. Now lets flip the switch, say an Asian or Indian does the same thing and asks how to game attractive White girls then it all goes downhill from there, people make him out to be a sociopath for it. Does anyone else not see this double standard?

The truth is that a White guy has to work significantly less to get an ethnic girl that is a 9 or 10 while an Asian or Indian dude would probably not be able to land a Margot Robbie lookalike in some big cities even if he has a six figure salary, good looks, and is far from an FOB.

There are discussions far more controversial and even dangerous which involve race in other forums, talks that have racial slurs and open hatred for an ethnic group which go for pages yet no one says anything about those. Now here we have maybe 1 thread from an Asian dude asking how he can get a hot blonde girlfriend and everyone erupts, that I never understood.

Not only is there a disadvantage of being a certain race, but you aren't even allowed to talk about it and overcome it? I say this is some legitimate BS but whatever, maybe one day we will be allowed to have a thread where guys of all races can share their experiences in learning game and developing with women but I guess that won't be anytime soon or on this forum.
It is okay for the white man to use white privilege to steal our women. It is okay for the white man to marginalize his own women for dating minorities. However, if we cry,"not fair", we are called pussies and told to accept it. Correct me if I am wrong, but 41% of US born Asian women marry white man and 76% of non US born Korean women have white spouses. If these were white women marrying blacks, asian, or hispanics, white guys would probably start a race war. I think these numbers are actually higher lol.

Black men just have a bad history with white americans in the USA. White people will always favor the Hispanic or Asian over the black man. Yes, there are black guys like Obama and Tiger Woods, but they have little to no room to **** up without being criticized by whites.

Also, where are you finding these numerous race threads? I only see one within the first 20 topics and I had to take a second glance to find it.
 

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Ambitious Player, you're young. You are still in an environment that has a concentrated amount of black women around you (school). It's like they go extinct once you get out of school.

when I was in HS I dated nothing but black chicks, one white girl. Wasn't trying to. I had plenty of good looking black girl options. I have dated one black girl in the last what... 12 years. They just aren't there.
 

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noobolgy said:
Because regardless of what race some one is, we all love to make excuses for our shortcomings so we don't have to take accountability for our faults.
I signed in just to second this.

If you're complaining about your shortcomings, you are allowing yourself to be defined by them.

Only phaggots do that.

Even some of the non-successful people I know are willing to admit the reason they have failed is because of their own personal decisions and not put the blame on anybody apart from themselves.

So even though they are losers per say, they still have the attitude of a winner.
 

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Because minorities pedastalize & envy the white race.

Im a black dude and have no trouble dating any race, sure I run into some girls who date inside their race but I don't get butthurt. ( Not gonna point any elbows here )

Women are entitled to a preference, sh1t, I have an Asian Fetish. ( Joking, but I do like me some Asians)

I've dated:

Whites, Blacks, Hispanics, etc. Some Asians
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Minorities just need to accept it and quit b1tching

Life isn't fair, white people MAY have an advantage but only a very slight one if your sh1t is together.

I personally, don't see it, but this is an opinion.

However,

I know an Asian dude who gets b1tches

As well as an Indian dude

As well as a hispanic

I even know an Arab who does well.

So minorities, please b1tching about how fvcked up the world is, and make sure you, yourself isnt fvcked up, please quit saying things like "Oh, if I was white....." and stop the God damn pedestalation of White people. Be happy with who you are and play the hand your dealt.

"Life chooses the Lemons, but its up to you to make the lemonade"

Work on your game.
 

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You know, if i were a mod i'd create a sub forum for "rural area dating". Some of you are posting living in NY / LA and **** talking about man it's just you man this man that.. and i live in LA. if you have never lived in a place with NO black women or NO asian women and you ARE black and you ARE asian, you can't understand. It has nothing to do with worshiping another race.

There are guys that do. But the vast majority of the guys there just aren't any other options. I don't know how i can be any clearer than that.


I'm not saying it gives a person a right to ***** and moan. I'm saying don't be so naive to think that a black guy living in NYC, population 20 million, 12% black (2.4 million people) people has it the same as a black guy living in Conway, AR, population 50k, 85% white.

I'm not even considering the fact that NYC is liberal and conway ar, is a FVCKING DRY COUNTY lol with churches on every street corner and is about as conservative a city as you can find "(I grew up 20 mins from conway)

It's naive to sit here and tell the guy who is black, who lives in a city of 50k and 85% of it is white, that the only reason he dates white women or wants to date white women is because he worships them.

Then of those.. what.. 5 thousand people if that, that live in Conway, AR that are black you have to hope the girls are cute, not ghetto, etc. It's a numbers game that you are going to lose if you are a minority.
 

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1) White guys have it much, much easier than minorities. My sister is getting pounded by a goofy looking white guy. Meanwhile I have to work insanely hard just to get one girl to look at me.

2) I am improving myself. But there are frustrations along the way. Want to call me a whiny b*tch? Go for it.

3) Your #3 is spot on, BB. I am trying to get to the point where I do not care about women AT ALL (asexual essentially) and only focus on making money and furthering my career. Women can make a man incredibly depressed. Having lots of money never will.
 
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I just hate the double standards that exist when it comes to race threads. White guys are allowed to talk endlessly about what race of women they want and how to get them but the second a minority even wants to discuss how he can get White girls everyone wants to make him out to be a sociopath. This is very telling and somedays I do fear that if I ever get that attractive White girl as a girlfriend or wife just how much racism I will open myself up to. I mean if people are making someone out to be a sociopath for going on a self-help forum and asking about how to get girls of other races then I can only imagine how much worse it will get once he does get the kind of girl he wants. Are we talking about these guys wanting to murder him or burn him alive or what? That is literally the impression I get from the amount of animosity people give to guys who are minorities wanting to date girls who happen to be attractive and White.

Like is it really that much to ask to just talk about this issue? I mean I get it that whining is bad and discouraging but most race threads aren't whining. Most of them are men coming together sharing their experiences as people in a society where those of their ethnic makeup are disliked and looked down upon by women for no other reason than race. Just chatting about it eases a lot of the tension.

I feel like racism is going to get much worse in the coming years before it finally starts to get better.
 

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Ambitious Player said:
but the second a minority even wants to discuss how he can get White girls everyone wants to make him out to be a sociopath. This is very telling and somedays I do fear that if I ever get that attractive White girl as a girlfriend or wife just how much racism I will open myself up to.
I almost exclusively go for white girls and no one has ever called me a sociopath. My advice is don't care about what others think of you.

Bottom line, I think race is only an issue if we let it become one. Sure I hate the fact that white guys have is so insanely easy (Asian women are God's gift to ugly white guys) but that's a self defeating thought.

If you act confident you can counteract any of the stereotypes against you. I'm learning this slowly and I really am starting to feel more proud of myself and less of an afterthought.

No girl has ever said to my face "I won't date you cause I don't date indian guys". This is more of an online dating thing which is why I avoid POF and those other sites. In fact I have gone up to white women and had some success. When I was in Orlando, man, those white girls were really interested in me.
 

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if you arent getting any its cause your not physically attractive, not because certain people are only into certain races. sorry, some of you just need to face it, you are not a part of the club. you could be black or indian but if you looked like denzel or a leading bollywood actor you would still get laid even in the most racist parts of america.
 

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skinnyguy said:
I almost exclusively go for white girls and no one has ever called me a sociopath.
you are definitely a sociopath
 
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Unless you have seen Bollywood actor looking Indian dudes pull Margot Robbie lookalikes, don't come on the forum and make random statements. Back it up with some experience rather than posting something so generic just to derail a thread.
 
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