Hey guys,
I've been with my girlfriend almost 2 years in a committed relationship, 6 months before that we were FWB. The sex when we were FWB was unreal, I would have her gushing multiple times a session, through oral or sex. Over a year ago her sex drive took a nose dive from weight gain and whatever else, and it's been an uphill battle since then.
My question is; she rarely orgasm anymore, I'd guess like 1/8 times maybe, yet when I ask her what's up she says she's completely satisfied and I'm doing everything fine. I've asked her this a few times throughout this year, all with the same answers. A lot of times she will say no to me just going down on her with no expectations of reciprocation on her part, or she'll let me since she knows I want to and she won't get wet or won't orgasm at all.
Last night I went to initiate and she was too tired and had a headache. So today we went at it with oral and foreplay for awhile then went to have sex but couldn't, we use condoms since she's not on BC but I didn't have any, so she finished me off then got dressed. I lost my cool and got frustrated that I didn't finish her off and she got indignant and said she was satisfied everything was good. I'm trying to have a normal conversation on what she wants different or what since she's not finishing anymore and I just blew up and said "fine I don't care then anymore if you finish or not" to which she replied "good! Then maybe it'll actually happen since I won't feel pressured!" I haven't even pressured her at all, or even said anything about it in forever...I'm lost. Do you guys even care if your gf/wife orgasms or what am I doing wrong here do you guys think?
I've been with my girlfriend almost 2 years in a committed relationship, 6 months before that we were FWB. The sex when we were FWB was unreal, I would have her gushing multiple times a session, through oral or sex. Over a year ago her sex drive took a nose dive from weight gain and whatever else, and it's been an uphill battle since then.
My question is; she rarely orgasm anymore, I'd guess like 1/8 times maybe, yet when I ask her what's up she says she's completely satisfied and I'm doing everything fine. I've asked her this a few times throughout this year, all with the same answers. A lot of times she will say no to me just going down on her with no expectations of reciprocation on her part, or she'll let me since she knows I want to and she won't get wet or won't orgasm at all.
Last night I went to initiate and she was too tired and had a headache. So today we went at it with oral and foreplay for awhile then went to have sex but couldn't, we use condoms since she's not on BC but I didn't have any, so she finished me off then got dressed. I lost my cool and got frustrated that I didn't finish her off and she got indignant and said she was satisfied everything was good. I'm trying to have a normal conversation on what she wants different or what since she's not finishing anymore and I just blew up and said "fine I don't care then anymore if you finish or not" to which she replied "good! Then maybe it'll actually happen since I won't feel pressured!" I haven't even pressured her at all, or even said anything about it in forever...I'm lost. Do you guys even care if your gf/wife orgasms or what am I doing wrong here do you guys think?