As the title says - broke up 18 months ago. I stopped talking to her after some pretty ****ty messages from her. She has tried everything in the book to get my attention - sweet messages reminiscing, lingerie pics, 'accidental' texts in the middle of the night asking if you're coming over meant for other people to unreserved apologies - even telling me off for blanking her.
I haven't responded to any of these because I feel she was trying to get a rise out of me. I've just got a message on facebook after about 10-11 months now of silence, nicely wishing my family and me a nice xmas and saying I seem to be doing well (from my FB - no longer friends though on there) - and then just dropped that she still loves me and misses me.
I feel like I should carry on ignoring her out of principle, but a small part of me wants to send a short, pleasant message back - I've been angry at her for the way she treated me but I don't want to 'punish' her - I know it is her responsibility to validate herself and not distort our relationship into a lie in her mind where I didn't care (because I truy did)...but simultaneously I don't want to perpetuate bad feeling from my end - it's over and I want her to find happiness elsewhere as the trust has long been broken by these games and past behaviour.
Any thoughts are appreciated regarding Ex contact experience/ whether responding or ignoring is crueler or kinder - I'm in my late twenties and she was the first serious relationship I've had so don't have a huge well of experience to draw upon. Together 3 years.
I haven't responded to any of these because I feel she was trying to get a rise out of me. I've just got a message on facebook after about 10-11 months now of silence, nicely wishing my family and me a nice xmas and saying I seem to be doing well (from my FB - no longer friends though on there) - and then just dropped that she still loves me and misses me.
I feel like I should carry on ignoring her out of principle, but a small part of me wants to send a short, pleasant message back - I've been angry at her for the way she treated me but I don't want to 'punish' her - I know it is her responsibility to validate herself and not distort our relationship into a lie in her mind where I didn't care (because I truy did)...but simultaneously I don't want to perpetuate bad feeling from my end - it's over and I want her to find happiness elsewhere as the trust has long been broken by these games and past behaviour.
Any thoughts are appreciated regarding Ex contact experience/ whether responding or ignoring is crueler or kinder - I'm in my late twenties and she was the first serious relationship I've had so don't have a huge well of experience to draw upon. Together 3 years.